Winning and Losing Never Really Mattered

We walk through a real weekend at Peach Jam that turns into disappointment, then use it to expose how expectations quietly hijack our self-worth. We redefine winning and losing as identity-building moments and show how accountability turns setbacks into growth. 
• why disappointment spikes when we attach our worth to outcomes 
• the Peach Jam story and how expectations build a fantasy version of success 
• taking goals down off the pedestal to stop outsourcing self-love and validation 
• why it was never about the goal and always about who we become 
• how winning can hide problems that losing forces us to face 
• redefining losses as delayed wins that bring lessons 
• humility as staying grounded in who we are 
• accountability as the turning point that creates ownership and change 
• “life is always working for me” as a daily mindset practice 
• the identity upgrade analogy and falling in love with training and process 
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Transcript

Why Disappointment Hits So Hard

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Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, Derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to Your Results Podcast.

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results Podcast. It is your brethren, your boy, DG. Oh my goodness. This episode is for all of those people who experience disappointment. Raise your hand if you've ever been disappointed. Okay. You expected something and then it wasn't that, and you're like, man, what the f Okay, so this just happened this past week. And I'm gonna I'm gonna break down, of course, some of you stories and all that good stuff. I might make up some words, so you just stay with me. But we are going to really like understand why we get disappointed, and I'm gonna use my own life as a reference

Chasing Peach Jam With Hudson

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point. Um so I I've been filling you all in um with uh my son Hudson, his AAU basketball program. And you know, he had a goal last year. He said, I want to play on the National Nike circuit. It's called the EYBL, it stands for Elite Youth Basketball League. So that was his goal in August of 2025, and then uh he ended up making the team, trying out, and he made the team in like September of 2025. So the way it works is you you have these tournaments and you're working, you basically have to qualify for this championship that's called uh Peach Jam. And the reason why they call it Peach Jam is because it's in Georgia, you know, Georgian Peaches, which I didn't, I went to Georgia and I didn't get a Peach. Anyway, uh so the whole goal of the year in every tournament, every game is to qualify for Peach Jam. So there's 80 teams and they're only taking the top 65. Well, back in Ay, we qualified for Peach Jam, and Peach Jam was in July. And it's like, this is what we've been all working towards. Now, me as a coach, like, you want to do well at Peach Jam because you're gonna go up against the best teams in the country. So that's what I'm focused on. But then I learned the kids, see, there's this, there's this, this uh the so Nike creates these, this, this apparel line that's called EYBL, uh, the EYBL line. And it's shirts, it's sweatshirts, it's hoodies, it's all these things, but you can only get it on the EYBL. And then they have like this special stuff that you can only get when you go to Peach Jam. So, you know, you coach a bunch of 12 and 13 year olds. They go 12 and 13 year olds, they're they want to win, but you know what they really want? They want to go to Peach Jam so they can get these clothes and go to school. And people are like, wow, where'd you get that? Oh, I was in Peach Jam. That's where I got it at. So we get down there, and then I started being honest with you, I was like, Well, shoot, I want to go too. I'm excited, I want to get some stuff, you know what I mean? I want to I want to have some Peach Jam uh sweatshirts. So, anyway, we go down there, and you gotta you gotta play, you basically

Close Games And Crushing Letdowns

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have to um you gotta win a certain amount of games, right? So we get down there, and the first game we're playing against a team. They're out of Kansas. I'm gonna be honest with you, okay. I have never seen a seventh grader as big as this kid that I saw. And I said, if he's 13, then I'm 150. I said, Ain't no way, ain't no way. He was so big, I didn't know his name. I referred to him as King Kong. Like, this was a man. If I saw this guy in a mall, I'm I swear to you on everything, if I saw him in a mall, I'd be like, he's probably like 28, 29. There's no way this kid. So now I'm a grown man, and I told the boys, I'm like, look, I'm gonna be honest with you, if I was playing right now, I'd really have to really play hard just to keep up with King Kong because I've never seen a guy this big. Not a kid, a guy. I've never seen a guy this big, and he's only 13 years old. Anyway, this team, and we don't have a big guy. This guy was 6'5, 260, 13 years old, grown man, no, like probably like 5% body fat. And I tell the boys, I'm like, okay, just give what you have. Well, before you know it, we're like down by three with 10 seconds left. So anything we've seen in social media, we run a play, don't really get the shot that we want. Hudson gets the ball and he just like throws something up and it goes in, and we go into overtime. And I'm like, oh my goodness. Well, we had to win that game. Fast forward through the overtime, we end up losing by one point, and we had the shot that went, right? Miss it. Second game, the boys are a little dejected. We play a team, we're playing well, we're up by 20 with five minutes left, and we only win by six. You ever had those games where you feel like you won, but you actually didn't? Um but you ever feel like you won? You won, but you actually sorry, you won the game, but you actually felt like you lost. But the night before we lost, but we felt like we won because we were keeping up with a team that we shouldn't have probably been able to keep up with. But anyway, it was just a weird feeling. And then uh game two, you can start game three, we end up getting smacked, we lose by like 20. And then game four, we didn't qualify for the championship, so then we have a consolation game. Now, I never had a consolation game. I don't know what do y'all even know what a consolation is I never even heard of this. What does that mean? And I heard the word console in there, so basically I guess it's a game to console you for you getting your butt whooped all weekend. So, anyway, we played this consolation game at 10:30 in the morning, and we find out we're done. We're obviously not playing for a championship. This was the worst game that we have ever played. I've never seen it's like the boys looked like they didn't want to play. I looked at Hudson like you act like you don't even want to be here. Well, you know why? Because remember I told you about that store? That store had not opened. But guess what? The store was opening after our game. Them boys wasn't worried about playing this game. It was a consolation game anyway. They were worried about getting in line and getting these hoodies and getting. So I didn't know any of this, right? So anyway. Game's over with. We get beat by 20 from a team from Canada. And it's over. And I just feel like just sick. I have this bad taste in my mouth, just like, man, what happened? We just fell apart. We fell apart. So let me fast forward because I'm gonna bring this, I'm gonna tie all this in together. I'm I'm ready to get out. Anybody ever been to Augusta, Georgia? Anybody ever been to Augusta, Georgia in July? Ain't much going on in there to begin with. If it ain't in April when they got the masters, there really ain't much going on in Augusta, let alone when it's in July and it's 190 degrees outside and 100% humidity. I was like, you know what? We're done. The game was over at 11:30. I said, let's run over here to the EYBL store and let's get out of here. So we go over to the EYBL store. Carly, you go overhead, run in real quick, get what you need. Let's get out of here and we can hit the road because I'm the one who has to drive back home. Y'all get to sleep on the way back home. I want to hit the road. So my parents are with me and everything. And uh, which I will get into that here in a minute. But um Carly goes in there and she texts me and she's like, the line's pretty long. I said, okay, it's cool. I'm thinking like 30, 45 minutes. We got time, right? It's only like 11:30, 11:45 in the morning. I said, I got time. Y'all. She waited in line for three hours. Three hours. And I'm texting her. I'm like, what's going on? She's like, well, it's just really disorganized, unorganized, disorganized, misorganized. I don't know which one it is. Y'all look making up words.

The Three Hour Hoodie Line

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Okay, I told you I was gonna do it. It's one of them. It's it's not organized. And she's like, there's just boxes everywhere, and people just reaching in and grabbing everything. I was like, all right, well, I'm gonna go back to the house because we're checking out. I'm gonna go back to the Airbnb. I'm gonna gather up all of our stuff, and then I'll come back and get you. So I go back and I'm like in a hurry because I'm like, okay, I don't want to be stuck here at the house, and then they're done. And so I start going in all the rooms. It looked like, I look, I'm gonna tell you what happened. When I was going through each room, I had to go through my room and Carly's room, I had to go through Hudson's room, I had to go through the kitchen and everything. It was like, you know, in the movies when um like somebody's coming to get you, and you start going and you just start grabbing clothes and everything. I was just grabbing clothes. I'm throwing it in bags. I'm well, come to find out. We get a message from the Airbnb host. She's over here, like, and Carly asked me when I got there, she's like, Did you get everything? I'm like, Yes, I got everything. She's like, Did you get Hudson stuff? I'm like, Yes, I got Hudson stuff. I got all his clothes. It wasn't hard to get his clothes. His clothes was all over the floor in his room. You know how a 13-year-old boy does. But anyway, I got it all. We get a message the next day. Um, there was a bunch of clothes left in a drawer. She's like, I thought you got everything. I'm like, I guess I well, it must be, uh I mean, I uh I didn't have any excuses. I was like, I guess that's the drawer I didn't look in. So anyway, what's my point in this whole thing? I promise I'm gonna wrap this all up here. Trust me. So finally I pick up Carly. Three hours. I go inside, Madhouse, we get her, we get Hudson. I looked at Hudson, I said, Look, your mother just waiting in line for three hours for these clothes. You better wear these clothes every single day of your life. Every single you better, if I catch you wearing anything else, I'm gonna say no, go put this on. Because I also have to drive back home now. And now instead of it being 11:30, 12 o'clock, and driving 10 hours, it's now three o'clock. And I know I got at least another 10, 11 hours. And Carly's like, do you think we can stop? And I'm like, no. If you got to go to the bathroom, I'm sorry. But we we only having pit stops. We're gonna get gas and go to the bathroom and get something to eat all at once. All my guys out there who drive long discs, you know what I'm talking about. Anyway.

Taking Goals Off The Pedestal

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So on the way home, I had nothing but time to think about everything. And I just had this taste in my mouth, and I was so disappointed. I was so disappointed, and here's why I was disappointed. I had these expectations unconsciously that I had been talking about for months. Oh, we gotta win PCAM, we gotta get to PCAM, we gotta win PCM. And then I was ended up just being disappointed. And the reason why, and the reason why I'm saying this to you, well, we've done an episode on this before, but you gotta take your goals down off that pedestal. Let me go ahead and stop and let that marinate for a little bit. See, we have these goals that we think are gonna make us enough. We have these goals that we're gonna use when we accomplish them. That will be our source of validation. That will be our source of approval, that will be our source of acceptance. Now I can love myself. You see, this is what you unconsciously do, and you put all of your faith, everything in accomplishing this goal. And then here's the deal there's nothing worse when you do accomplish the goal and you still feel disappointed. Y'all ever had that happen before? You ever want something so bad and you did it, and you're like, that's it? Because here's the root of it, here's the point of it. The expectations were created by the ego, and every time that you create expectations, the reason why you did it is because you were outsourcing these five core attributes of self-worth, self-acceptance, self-approval, self-validation, self-love. So I realized on the way home, oh my goodness, for almost a year, you had put everything into this thing that we call Peach Jam. And now here you were disappointed. And the boys didn't accomplish, and they didn't play hard, and they didn't, no, no, no, no, no. They too were disappointed as well. And Hudson made a comment, and I actually felt like this. I was so excited. I was thought when we're going to Peach Jam. I thought we were going to hear trumpets playing and harps being played, and you walk in, and it's like, oh, welcome to Peach Jam. I walked in there, I was like, man, this is just like any other tournament. That was exactly what went through my mouth. That came came out. This is just like any other tournament. Yes, it is. It is. So every goal that you have, whether it's building that business or getting to that point financially or getting. Please realize this. Please, can I say something, please? Please realize it was never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever about the goal. It was never about that. It could not have been. You know what it was about?

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It was about who you became. So now. You know I gotta teach now. I've told my stories. I gotta teach y'all.

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I realized that along this way home, I said this is a podcast episode. I'll swear on everything it'll be a podcast episode.

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You do realize that winning and losing never really mattered.

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I wanna cuss on here, but I know there's children who listen, so I ain't gonna do it. Believe you me, I want to say some stuff right now. I ain't gonna say it though. Winning doesn't effing matter. Losing doesn't

Winning And Losing Are Temporary

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matter. What matters is who you become, because winning and losing is temporary, but who you become lasts forever. Do you hear what I'm saying? So the scoreboard's gonna change. We won one game and it felt like we lost, and we lost the game, and it felt like we won. But here's what you have to realize: the identity that you accomplished, the identity that you become is what you will take with you forever. So I started to realize this weekend what the whole point of it was. Because I know even if we got the trophy, it was eventually gonna collect dust. But I tell you one thing that wasn't gonna collect us, this motherfucking identity wasn't who I became wasn't, because this is what I'm gonna take with me to the next journey. You see how this works? So now I started to realize that even this whole year, you had been training and training and training, and peach jam's coming, peach jam's coming, peach jam's coming, and now here we are on the back end, peach jam came, peach jam went. It wasn't about the peach jam, it was the version of you who had to get down to peach jam. You see how this works? This is what everything in your life will always be. It wasn't about the trophy, it was about the transformation. You hear what I'm saying? So don't even worry about whether or not you're gonna win. Don't worry about if you're gonna lose. It was the person who you had to become to go ahead and embark on this journey. And I started to realize, oh my goodness, good God Almighty. The world is gonna measure your results, but life measures how you grow. Do you hear what I'm saying? See, society is gonna celebrate the fact that you won, or society's gonna scoff and turn their face and say, uh, you lost, you loser. But see, you got to understand what life is doing. Life is asking, yeah, but who did you become while you pursued this? What did you have to let go of to even embark on this journey? I don't think you hear what I'm saying right now. I don't think. Because eventually, guess what? You're gonna sell the business. Eventually, you're gonna you're gonna win the championship or you're gonna lose. Eventually, all that stuff. But really, who did I become along the way? And see, here's what you have to understand. A lot of people chase wins and they run away from losses, but winning doesn't always build you. See, that game that we lost by one point, that actually did more for us than the game that we won. You see how this works. So winning won't always build you, and here's the deal: losing ain't always gonna break you. I don't think y'all hear anything I'm trying to say. I might as well go ahead and get off this mother right now. Losing ain't always gonna break you. Losing actually, to me personally, losing's done more for me in my life than winning has. And listen for the young folks out there, please hear me. Because I know the society that you're growing up in with, go, good Lord, somebody say a prayer for these children growing up today. But you know what? You know, it's funny. I bet I I bet our parents said the same thing about us. Oh Lord, please help them. They got Nintendo's and uh, they don't realize we used to have to go outside and play with a stick. They got school buses, we have to walk uphill both ways in the snow to school. So I know I realize everything is relative, but please hear me, young people. Who gives a f if you won? Don't nobody care if you won. Who cares? Really, who cares? You see, you see, now we redefine, we we're gonna redefine what a win and a loss is. I've only won when I've lost. Do you hear what I'm saying? I've only won when I've lost. So really the loss was really just a delayed win. So really, at the end of the day, there ain't no such thing as a loss. You have to understand that more will be done for you in a quote unquote loss than you win. See, I look at it like this. Sometimes when you win, you start to become entitled. Sometimes when you win, you can start to become lazy. What do

What Winning Can Hide

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they say? We resting on our laurels. I started to see that success was actually a trap. See, when you win, there's a lot of things that get swept under the rug. Good God Almighty. See, we had been winning before we got to Peach Jam. So, and I and see, see, now uh you know me, I play in the I play by universal rules. I don't play by what man, I watch things from a place of energy. I said, we got holes. We got we got cancers on the team, we got things that we need to deal with. If we're not careful, they'll spread. Well, it wasn't until we got down to the Peach Jam that it actually showed itself. Guys fighting with each other, arguing, blaming each other, pointing fingers. Well, you ain't doing this, you ain't doing that. See, all this stuff was here, but see, it got swept under the rug because we were winning. So the reason why I'm saying this, the reason why you have losses is because losses are meant to pull up all the sh that you wouldn't look like, look at while you was winning. You ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying right now. See, when you're winning, you ain't gonna look yourself in the mirror. You're gonna say, look at me, look, I'm winning, I'm bowling, look at me. We life is bull, we we out here doing it, ain't we? But when you lose, it forces you to look at your wounds. When you lose, it forces you to look yourself in the mirror and say, dang, I, dang, I'm actually struggling with this, this, and this. See, see, see, losing actually is what builds humility, and not the type of humble humility that we were taught growing up. Not the humility that we think that, oh, well, let me shrink. No, no, humble comes from the Latin word humus. See, it has humus, h-u-m-us-humus means to ground yourself, the earth. So being humble means I stay grounded in the core of who I am. So losing builds resilience, it builds humility, it builds focus, it builds discipline. All of these things are going to be needed for you to get up to the top of the mountain. So I realize sometimes losing creates more growth than winning could ever even imagine. So the outcome, the outcome doesn't determine your development. It didn't. And I told Hudson this. He said, I don't ever want to feel like this again. I said, Nah. Your response to this is what's going to determine how you develop. Do we see how this works? So you may catch a loss in life. That loss isn't what matters. It was about how you got your butt up. You're gonna get back up. Because I we so what do we say? Life be life's? Oh, you better bet your bottom dollar, life gonna life. That's one thing life is going to do. I have found this life and life is fair. Life is fair, life, life don't treat nobody different based on who they are, what kind of money life said. I'm gonna be, I'm gonna be exactly what you are. So now that I know life's gonna be life, I gotta do my part too. Life's gonna trip me up and knock me down. And it's not tripping me up and knocking me down trying to hurt me. It's tripping me up and knocking me down so I would take time to look at why I got tripped up. So I would take time to look at myself. Do you see? So now you start to realize that you were never really working towards something. Good God Almighty. I don't think y'all hear nothing. I don't think you hear nothing. I should go ahead and get off. That's what I should probably do. Because you ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying. You thought you were working towards something. You thought you were trying to accomplish something. You ain't working towards nothing. You working towards someone. That's someone in this new version of yourself. So the reality of it is that life is actually working on you too. So every practice, every rep, every setback, every difficult conversation, every time that you miss a shot, every time that you were rejected, every failure, every sacrifice. All of that was the building blocks for this new someone that you were looking to create. So the question isn't what am I going to get if we win? The question really is, is who is this making me to become?

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Do you see how this works? So let me tell you something. Because I see this happen a lot.

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People are confident when they're winning, but when they're not winning, they feel like they're down. And I told Hudson, I said, look, you lost. Not only did you lose, you got your butt whooped. You went one and three in a tournament. We ain't never gone one and three. But I said, if you use this right, this will be the best thing that you has has ever happened to you in your career up until this point. He got done with the last game, the constellation game, the first thing he said when we were walking off. And I have a rule. I don't say anything to him about after the game. I don't say anything about the game. I don't want to talk about it. We're 24 hours. Let's let everything I don't say anything, right? And he's coming, he's coming off the floor, he looks at me, he goes, Dad, I gotta get on, I gotta get on a meal plan. I gotta get on a meal plan.

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I'm like, what do you mean?

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Why are you saying that? He said, because I gotta get stronger. I gotta get bigger. I'm being tossed around. They're throwing me all around and it hurts. And I said, ah so now it's yours.

Accountability Creates Real Change

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You see. You see. You see, this is what accountability does, y'all. Accountability forces you to own your life, your development. But hear me when I say this.

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Good God almighty.

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I got I got chills all over me right now. I'm about to leave you with this. A lot of times we won't change until it's more uncomfortable to stay the same. And at that moment, that 13-year-old boy realized it's more uncomfortable for me to stay the same. I had been telling him, you gotta eat other food. You can't just eat what you like. You gotta eat this, you gotta eat that. If you gotta put on weight. Nah. It didn't mean anything until he experienced it himself. So this is why I'm telling you, you better make sure that you're accountable with your own life. Because accountability will give you ownership. Accountability will say, you know what? This is me. This is on me this time. So I'll tell you this. You if you feel good when you're winning, you ain't really winning.

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You're not. You're actually setting yourself up.

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See, if winning makes you uh feel good and lose your humility, but then when you lose, you feel like you're like, oh my gosh, I'm not good enough. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. You were outsourcing. You were outsourcing. So here's the deal, here's what I do. I don't measure my life based off wins and losses. Oh, fun fact. Y'all, y'all, y'all do know that I played basketball for the Harlem Globetchars, right? Y'all do know that. And in my eight years, I had never lost one basketball game. For those that don't know, the Harlem Glowchrivers hadn't lost since 1972, I think it is. I mean, I ain't lost a game. But see, here's what I don't tell people, okay? A lot of people don't know this. Before I played with the Harlem Globechars, the year before I played for a team called the New York Nationals. See, the New York Nationals was the team that the Harlem Globechars played against. Well, if the Harlem Globetchars never lost, that means the Nationals lost every game. So for a year I lost every single game of my life. And that was a microcosm for me to be here with you today. For a year of my lot life, all I did was lose. Literally. I'm not I'm not being facetious. I've literally I lost every single game. But the losses had to come before the win. And the next year, you see, I won every game for the next eight years and never lost a game. So my point of this is this for you the losses come, they bring the lessons. They carry the lessons for you to learn what you need to do differently so you can become this new identity. And people think the new identity comes from winning, the new identity comes from losing. That's what it comes from. So I will leave you with this. This is why I tell you you can't lose. Take your dreams down off the pedestal. Take it down. Stop worrying about, like, oh, when I get there, it's gonna be great. No, no, no. How about this? How about I just enjoy this process? How about I just enjoy this journey? How about I realize that the process is the journey. The process is the product. The process is the destination, the destination. That's what we were always after. See, you think, you think that it was when I got there. No, it's while I'm getting there. That's what matters. So then I had to reshift while I'm driving home. I had to tell myself, you know what? It was never about whether we won PGM or we lost it. It was about who we became along the journey. That was it. Individually, collectively, emotionally, spiritually, physically, mentally, all of that mattered. So, for you on this journey, do not grow weary. Do not grow weary because it looks like you're losing or it looks like it's not happening. Trust me when I tell you this, I'm an old gray bald man who's 43 years old. I'm telling you, it's always working, it's always happening, it's always benefiting you. You just need to get out of your own way and stop looking at it from this narrow-minded frequency of thinking that life was somehow against you. You know what life is saying? I ain't worried about you. You go here think I'm against you. I you if you really think that you life's like, you really think I'm worried

Life Is Working For You

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about you? You think I'm worried about you so much to the point that I'm gonna be against you? You know how it is. You think everybody's worried about you and talking about you. Well, I don't want to do this because what if I mess up and what are people gonna think? They ain't worried about you. They worried about what they got going on in them. You know what? They worry about what you think about you, what they think, what you think about them. My point of this is when you start to change the way you look at yourself and tell yourself, life is always working for me. It's always working itself out. I tell myself this 150 times a day. It's always working out for me. Always. Even when it looks like it's not working, it has always worked itself out. Always. Life is always working itself out. Well, what do you mean, Derek, when you say it's working itself out? It's helping me to become this new version of me. And I don't know how much longer I got left on this earth. We don't. None of us do. You may have 15 versions of you between now and when you check out of this game. Life is like, yo, we got a job to do. You said you came into this world to be a human and you wanted to get it to be X, Y, and Z. And I know you got amnesia when you crossed the veil, but you said this is what you're gonna do. You were gonna do this. So guess what? Our job is to make sure that you do it. See, we gotta introduce the hard, the hardships, the setbacks, right? We gotta, we gotta, we gotta, we gotta have adversity. Because you you're you're you're a little stubborn, but one gonna change if you just won. See, we could have it, so you just won all the time, but then you wouldn't gonna stop, you wouldn't keep working on yourself. See, you weren't gonna deal with the wound unless you felt the pain. See, if you didn't, if you would have done on your own, we wouldn't have to have you feel this pain. You see? That's what life's saying. You a hard-headed motherfucker, you came over here, look, you came into this world. You all you came in this human experience, and you forgot what you were. So guess what? We're gonna help you remember. Since you forgot. Here, take that. I bet you remember now what you are. So, my point of this is for everybody. We all have our peach jam. All of us, we all have our peach jam. But the key, the key, the key is to realize that the peacham wasn't gonna make you anything. Please realize while you were seeking peach jam, you were seeking the goal. You were actually the goal. You were. You were the goal. You were the price. This new version of who you were going to become, that was what mattered. So go ahead and take that goal down off that pedestal. Get rid of those expectations. Fall in love with the journey. Fall in love with the journey.

Training For The Mountain Again

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You know, this time around, I'm gonna leave you with this. I'm I'm I'm training right now. I'm training for an uh endurance event. You guys remember years ago when I did the event where I had to climb the mountain. Climb, so I'm doing it again. It's August 27th through the 30th. This time I'm going up to Canada. This time I brought I brought somebody with me. I'm bringing, I brought Carly with me. Carly's coming with me. Now she ain't gonna participate in it. She's just gonna come. Uh really, I think I think she'd come for a vacation. That's what I really think. But that you know, you know, we'll leave it in there. Uh but she's coming with me as uh I said, you know what, you want to come with me? It'd be a good little weekend. I said, I won't see you, but you can hang out at the Fairmont and just have a little spa day while I'm up there climbing this mountain. So anyway, I started training for it. And now, this time around, it's a little different. See, I already climbed the mountain. And I went through the ups and the downs and the pain and the adversity and the struggle and all that. So I have a strategy, I have a better understanding of how to do it, but more importantly, I realized what the mountain's actually about. See, before the first time when I did this, I was training really hard, and I did it months before because I wanted to accomplish climbing the mountain. And when you finish the mountain, you get a red hat. But this time I realized it's not about the red hat. So I'm falling in love with the actual training. I'm falling in love with the day-to-day, the things that actually suck, because I realized this is actually what mattered. And when I get the when I get the hat, when I get to the top, it's gonna be cool, but I know what really mattered. And now this time I'm climbing this mountain. This mountain's a little, this is the hardest one of all the events. I say the hardest one. This is the one that's gonna require the most change, the most growth inside of me, you see. So the reason why I'm saying this to you all, please know that life is looking you out and life is trying to do you a solid in everything that you do. All it wants you to do is upgrade yourself. Upgrade yourself to the next version, the next EOS. Right it? Is that the EOS, the iOS, the iOS, right? You know when you have the phone? When you have an iPhone for all my iPhone people, and you get that thing that pops up on your phone and settings, and it says uh uh you gotta update, and then that thing ain't gonna come down off your home screen until you actually update it. Okay, this is the way life is. Life ain't gonna come down off your home screen until you upgrade your identity. And we're gonna do this through every goal that you have, every desire is just an identity upgrade. And that's all that mattered in this existence. It didn't matter what you did, what mattered is who you became. So I just want to tell you thank you. Thank you for who you're becoming. Thank you for the season of life that you're in. And I know life's gonna get challenging at times. I just want to tell you on behalf of humanity, thank you. Thank you for continuing on. Thank you for showing up every single day for yourself, for your kids, for your

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family. Thank you. Please know if you're not in the DG Mindset Academy, I will see you there soon. Get yourself in the academy, because this is what it's about. We're about shedding identities and creating new versions of ourselves so we can be actually what we came here to be. And as always, I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.