Stop Chasing Approval

We get real about the moment you stop needing to be seen and how that single shift gives you your power back. We trace the approval chase back to childhood needs, then build a practical path to self-approval, confidence, and peace that does not depend on results. 
• the difference between success and needing success to feel OK 
• how followers, money, and status can become a substitute for self-worth 
• why unmet childhood needs create survival patterns like performance and people pleasing 
• the hidden cost of achievement when the wound comes along for the ride 
• confidence as self-approval and the paradox of real visibility 
• simple ways to see yourself daily through presence, body respect, and expression 
• using discouragement and doubt as fuel to step into who you are 

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Transcript

The Moment You Stop Needing Attention

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Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, Derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to Your Results Podcast.

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Bro.

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results Podcast. It is your boy DG. Okay, I'm gonna let you breathe a little bit. The last two episodes, I probably, maybe, maybe I've been talking to you a little too much. And I might still be talking to you on this one, but this one's gonna be, oh my goodness. I'm actually talking to myself on this one, if I'm be honest with you. There's gonna become a moment, there's gonna come a moment in your life. Okay? And hear me when I say it's gonna be, it's gonna be beautiful, but it's gonna be scary as well. You're gonna reach a point in your life, and maybe you've already reached this point, and congratulations if you have. But you're gonna reach a point in your life where you stop needing to be seen. Let me go ahead and let that mural Nate because I don't know if that got in. I don't know if it got in your pores on that one. There's gonna be a point in time when you don't need to be validated by anybody on the outside anymore. See, this is where the conversation starts to get uncomfortable because what ends up happening is a lot of people think that they're seeking success, they're seeking love, they're seeking money, they're seeking followers, they're seeking your treat uh uh recognition, they're seeking uh achievement, they're seeking seeking status. But really, what they're looking for, are you ready? Finally, someone sees me. Finally, someone accepts me. Finally, somebody approves of me. I just saw something that I didn't see it, but the boys had the basketball team over a couple weeks ago or uh the other day, they they they were talking, and they said, I heard in the back say, Yeah, Elon Musk is a trillionaire. That's well, first of all, y'all boys got to understand what it means when they say he's a trillionaire. He may have zero dollars in his bank account. Okay, he may have zero liquid, but his assets and everything, they were like, what? I said, Don't worry about it. I said, yeah, he's

Success As A Search For Approval

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a trillionaire, fine. Yeah, he a trillionaire. But then I said to myself, at what point, at what point is enough enough? See, the one who's seeking validation and being seen, enough will never be enough. I'm worth a trillion dollars, but yet there's still people in this world who don't know what they're gonna eat.

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I'm worth a trillion dollars, but there's still people in this world who don't have clean water.

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I'm worth a trillion dollars. But there's still children in this world who can't get proper medical uh needs. But I'm worth a trillion dollars. And really, you understand here's the deal. I see this accordingly because I work with people. I work with this is mostly with athletes for the most part. You become so consumed with performing and doing and having, but really, all you're trying to do is be seen. That's it. That's all. And you and most of the time, you ready? I'm gonna be honest with you. Most of the time, you're trying to be seen by daddy.

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Hmm?

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I'm sorry. I didn't even want to go here, Ushers. You can close the door. I didn't even want to go here today, but we're gonna have to go here. Most of the time, all you want to do is you want to be seen by your dad. You knew mama validated you in her own way. You knew that. She carried you. Daddy, on the other hand, he just put the seed in the soil. But you wanted to make sure that the farmer really cared about his crops. So now I guess what we do? We we start to develop. Why do you think they say, oh, she got daddy issues?

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Why do you think people say that? We learn how to see ourselves and validate ourselves by the masculine energy. Hmm? So a lot of people think they're chasing dreams, but they don't have enough awareness to realize that they're really just chasing approval.

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Huh? And now guess what? The need to be seen is one of the strongest forces in human behavior. So the moment that you stop needing recognition is the moment that you just take your power back. I don't need to be seen anymore. See, the need to be seen is 99.999% of the time the old womb just talking. That's all it is. So here's the deal. There are some fundamental needs that every child needs, okay, for sure. A child needs to be seen. A child needs to be heard. A child needs to be valued. A child needs to feel physically and emotionally safe. And when those needs, all of them, if those needs are not consistently met, then a program, a survival pattern will be formed. And then the child will then grow up believing, I must blank to earn love. To earn being seen, to earn being loved. This is why I'm telling you. Go give your kids a hug and a kiss and tell them that you're loving for no daggone reason. I walk up to my kids, they're doing something. My son will be in the middle of playing a video game. I just walk up to him and kiss his little fuzzy face. And he'd be like, Dad, what are you doing? Because I need to know, I need you to know that you're seen, that you're loved. Because I know how it feels when maybe you question it. I don't want you to question it. Because I don't I don't want you to develop

Childhood Needs And Survival Patterns

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the same patterns and the same programs that I had. So you have to understand how a child's mind works, first of all. See, a child's always going to personalize whatever you fail at providing. I'm gonna say this again for the people in the back, for all of us who have young kids right now. A child will always personalize what you have failed to provide, meaning they will make it about them. I wasn't good enough. I did something wrong. And guess what? They strive and learn and create a pattern to perform in order to achieve that. They develop a strategy. Know that every wound that you have will have a strategy behind it. So now, if you look at your adult behavior, your adult behavior, 99% of it, comes from unresolved childhood solutions that you created. And we call those patterns, survival patterns. So the child learned early on that if I perform well, if I'm impressive enough, maybe I'll get loved. So guess what they do? They start learning how to perform. They start learning how to please others. They start living outside of themselves and don't let them get to be, have some success by doing that. Now it becomes addictive. Now, before you know it, you got a trillionaire on your hands. You got a bunch of billionaires on your hand, selfish as all get out, greedy than a motherfucker. Well, I give money. The only reason why you're giving money is so you can get that tax break. Give all of it away if you really want to, if you really about that life. Why don't you help that, that, that, that, the, the, uh, these people here who who need water? And guess what? The ones who would need the the infrastructure, it ain't gonna put that in your net worth. And then here's what ends up happening the net worth ends up becoming your self-worth. You see how this works. So now, here's the hear me when I say this. Being successful is not the problem. That's not the problem. The problem is needing success for you to feel okay. The problem is you needing uh the stats and the performance and the money for you to be okay. That's why I keep trying to tell people, you gotta be okay with the thing that you want, not having it. Become okay, and you can't have it until, until you're okay with not having it. Because this universe doesn't want you to live outside of yourself. I have told you this so many times it ain't even funny. So please stop laughing. So if we understand this, that we start to really grasp this need to be seen. Now you start to realize that success really ain't gonna fix anything. The views ain't gonna fix anything, the followers ain't gonna fix anything, the money ain't gonna fix anything. See, people think when I get there, then I feel like I'm enough. Good God Almighty, close them doors, Hushers. Then this what happens? They get there and nothing changes. And now, because nothing's changes, the wound comes with them, and now they need something to numb out. Let me smoke this real quick. Here, let me hit this real quick. Hey, let me watch this real quick. I will do anything to numb myself out. No, I'm a workaholic, man, I work hard. No, you don't. You over here scared to feel the wound because you are so afraid. You are so afraid that this thing that you call success, you will never be enough of it because that's what you use to be seen. Do you see how this works? So now here you are just dragging along this wound. And now here's what ends up happening: this world, this egoic, three-dimensional society, the matrix, it pr it it uh uh um promotes achievement. And now your achievements are amplifying this broken version of you. You see. So now I gotta tell you the hidden cost here. Here's the hidden cost, okay? Because we're gonna have to always pay something. Yes, you are a trillionaire and you are successful, but you got so much anxiety, you're addicted to ketamine. You can't even sit your butt still, even though the body is self-regulating. You can't even uh uh uh sleep at night. I know I was around somebody who I'm not, I don't know what the net worth was. I know he had 200 million cash. So I don't know what the net worth was. I seen the accounts. Man, let me tell you something. This man had more money than you could ever spend in a lifetime. But I tell you one thing, he ain't sleep better than me. You hear what I'm saying? He ain't sleep better than me. I said, why you look like you always so tired? Man, I can't sleep at night. My chest hurt. Oh, that's because you stressed out. That's because that money ain't gonna help you with the internal world, you see. And here's the deal. I knew the relationship between him and his daddy. Him and his daddy were so disassociated, he didn't even call him dad. He called him by his first name. You hear me? He called him Larry. I said, Oh my goodness. So now here's what ends up happening. You ain't really living life. You ain't really living. You're you're you're uh, I don't know the word is, but I'm gonna make one up. You worrying. You worrying. You W-E-R-E-I-N-G. You worrying. You living out of this old unconscious self. The one who learned that uh if I work hard enough, then daddy will see me. If I build enough, then daddy will love me. If I have enough money, then daddy will respect me. If I if if I'm perfect, then I'm good enough. If I work hard, then everybody will see me. You see what ends up happening? So here's what ends up happening, okay? When you actually deal with the issue and you actually face it, this is where your real power begins. This is where it begins. This isn't where people finally see you, though. This is where you no longer need them to see you. Do you see how this works? I was talking to my son. He's like, I want to get, I want to get more followers. I want to get more followers. I said, okay, well, I can show you how to do it. I said, here's how you get more followers. You have to start putting out more content consistently that you like.

When Achievement Turns Into Anxiety

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I said, when you put something out, you should look at it and watch it over and over and over again because you're proud of it, because you like it. You ain't gonna get people to follow you if you ain't following yourself. Do you hear what I'm saying? Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying. Unless, unless you are the likes, unless you are the follower, unless you are the views of your own life. How in the world can somebody else do it? Here's the deal. I know what you're thinking. Yeah, but why is it all like they they get all the views, they get all the followers? Yeah, but they may have that, but they may not have what you have on the inside.

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Hmm.

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See, he had the money, he had the success, but he didn't have the peace. He didn't have the joy, he didn't have the alignment. And ask yourself now, really, which one do you want? Do you want what's on the outside, or do you want what's on the inside? That which is on the inside cannot be taken away. That which is on the outside is fleeting. So now, my point of this for you is to get you to understand that confidence is self-approval. See, once you approve of yourself, you beat the game. You beat the game. The whole game was designed for you to put your approval and your validation on the outside. Once I don't need it on the outside and I can supply it for myself, I know how to cook. You hear what I'm saying? I can throw down with the best of them. I don't need nobody on the outside to cook for me. I can do it for myself. And now, here's the deal. I'm always confident. I don't need production or performance or stats or results to be the reason why I see myself. I see myself first. And here's the deal because you don't because you see yourself, you don't need nobody to see you. And here's the paradox. Because you don't need nobody to see you, everybody will see you. You hear what I'm saying. Okay. So now this is what true strength is. True strength is when I don't need attention. I don't seek anybody to see me. Motherfucker, I see myself. I see me. I don't need you to see me. Matter of fact, that's your problem if you don't see me. I hope you see yourself. You see. So now understand. I told you I'm the Jaguar, the Jaguar is my that's my spirit animal. The golden jaguar. We went through the black jaguar, the black panther, but we have the gold, the golden jaguar. The golden jaguar don't run around announcing itself. The golden jaguar don't need validation. The golden jaguar doesn't need applause. They know who they are. It knows what it is. You hear me? It could be a lion, whatever your animal is. The lion doesn't ask the jungle for permission. The jaguar doesn't ask the rainforest to acknowledge its power. It just walks in it. So, this is my challenge to you. Walk in it. Be it. And here's the deal: true power, true strength, it's quiet. It's quiet. It's not loud. It's not boisterous. Those who are really, like truly, truly, like you see yourself, you're gonna be secure in yourself. And when you're secure in yourself, you don't have to perform. You see? And when you truly, when you truly are being who you are, now you walk in peace, and here's the thing about peace. You ready? I'm at peace. I don't need nobody to witness me. Peace doesn't need a witness. Joy don't need a witness. Love don't need a witness. So now the need to be seen disappears because you finally effing see yourself. And I'm telling you, the game changes. The game changes when you don't need nobody to see you. Think about how different. Let's just stop right now. Let's just stop. Ask this question. Think about how differently you would move if you didn't need somebody else's approval. If you could post freely, if you could start that business and not worrying about if I fail, what are people gonna say? Imagine how you'd move different. Matter of fact, I'm gonna make me take my shirt off and walk around for the rest of my life with no shirt on. Because I'm not worried about what people think about me. I'm not worried about what they're gonna say. I'm not worried about how they're gonna feel. Why? Because I'm more worried about me first. And if you express how you feel about me and it bothers me, you just actually just showed me that I got more work I need to do so I can start seeing myself more. You hear what I'm saying? So now, as an athlete, as an entrepreneur, as a stay-at-home mother, it doesn't matter what you are. You got to see yourself to be yourself and be yourself so you can see yourself. Do you see how this works? Stop waiting for the world to see you. You see yourself. And if the world catches up and sees you, great. If it doesn't, great. It doesn't matter because you see yourself. You came in this world by yourself, you're gonna leave by yourself. And you may have been a twin. You may have been a twin, but y'all didn't come out at the same time. You came out by yourself, you're gonna leave by yourself. So therefore, everything, everything would have to be of the energy of self. Give yourself what you need. Start seeing yourself. And how do you see yourself? See yourself in the morning, wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, look at yourself. Look at yourself. Don't just wash your body, look at your body. Look at your body. You realize that you have, I don't care what your health looks like, you have the greatest, the greatest mechanism in this entire physical universe. It's your effing body. It's your body. See it, own it, nourish it, take care of it, love it, worship it. It's your body. This is the greatest thing. I'm telling you, if you really look at a body, think about a body, you can cut your head right now, and the body will heal by itself, and you don't have to sit down every day to tell it to heal. It will do it on its own. Isn't this amazing? Then you don't have to okay, blink. You blinked, you blinking right now. I'm blinking. We all blink it. And never once did you ever tell yourself to blink. And here's the here's the crazy part. You blinking

Confidence As Self Approval

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and don't have to tell yourself to blink, but you didn't grow the out the eyelids consciously. The eyelids just grew. And here's the deal: not all not all animals have eyelids, y'all. Fish don't have eyelids. They don't. But you have eyelids. What's my point? I don't know right now, but I'm trying to show you. You don't realize how special you are. You don't see it. You gotta start seeing yourself. So imagine this. Imagine this. Imagine this. You all hear you hear all that construction. You can hear it, you can hear the bulldozer right now, you hear it backing up. It's all right. He's doing, he's just he's just leveling out the ground right now. That's all he's doing. You can hear it. It's okay. He's leveling everything out because I'm about to level out the wings because we're about to land this bad boy right now, okay? If you would just take time to imagine how much energy would return back to you in life if you stopped trying to convince anyone in your life of who you actually are. Y'all ain't trying to hear one thing that I'm saying right now. Do you know how much more energy, how much more peace you would have if you didn't have to convince anybody? Imagine this. Imagine your worth was not tied to followers. Your worth wasn't tied to who saw you. Your worth wasn't tied to tied to what people thought about you. Your worth wasn't tied to whether or not mom and dad agreed with your life. Your worth wasn't tied to whether or not you did enough for your children. Your worth wasn't tied into whether or not you were a good coach or a bad coach. Imagine if you just moved like this. It wasn't tied, your worth wasn't tied to your revenue, or how much money you make, or what tax bracket that you're in, or what kind of car you drive, or where your kids go to school, or how much praise you get. Imagine if you already, good God Almighty, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying. Imagine if you woke up already enough. Imagine if you woke up. What they say, I woke up like this. Imagine if you woke up like this. You woke up, and I know today, today I don't need anybody's approval. And you know what? I'm just gonna go out here and live life like I live it when I live it, like I live it for TV. I'm just gonna go out here and be it. I'm just gonna go out here and be it. I'm just gonna go out here and be it. I had a client who I work with, he's he's on his journey of the NBA draft, right? He wants to get drafted. He's like, what advice were you giving me? He's like, he gotta work out for the Atlanta Hawks and the Cavaliers and Lakers, you got all these all over the country in like a week. You got like six workouts in nine days or something crazy, right? He said, What would you advise me to do? He's like, because I go into these workouts, I got the nerve, the the the the the president of the team, the GMs there, the coaches. He's like, I get nervous. I said, why don't you do this? Why don't you know that you don't need these folks' approval? Why don't you start doing that? And you don't need their validation. Yeah, but yep, no, no, no, you don't. Why don't you move like that? Why don't you why don't you play like you ain't nobody watching? Remember when you were a little boy when you was like sixth, seventh grade, you play out in your driveway? Remember that and you being the gym by yourself? And he was like, Yeah, and he started to crack a smile. I said, Okay, we on to something now, we get somewhere. We starting to get back to that little boy inside who played it just because he loved it. He didn't play it because he needed to be seen. He didn't play it because he needed to make a living. He didn't play it because he wanted to make everybody proud and he could take care of it. He played it because he just loved it. Why don't we get back to that version of you? And here's the deal when you get back to that, the core essence of that which you actually are, when you get that back to that, now everything on the outside becomes obsolete. It becomes irrelevant. I'm not even really chasing trying to get to the league. I'm not even really chasing the paycheck. I'm not even trying to get the followers. I'm just out here trying to express me. I'm just trying to be me to the fullest and as a byproduct of it, good God Almighty. The universe says, give it to him. Give him it, give him it. He's being it. Give it to him. If you could just imagine the visual of this universe that's conspiring to help you to become all that you actually are, it's sitting in the cut, it's sitting in the background. I'm saying, come on. Just like when you play video games. You know when you sit up when you play video games, and then when things get real, you hunch over. You know what I'm talking about. And now here you are. You really, the universe is looking at you saying, Come on, come on, you almost there. You almost there. You knew we didn't create you. We did not create you to live outside of yourself. Come on, you right there. You right there. Just keep pushing. You almost right there. Just keep living as if you know who you are and you don't need anybody to tell you who you're not. Come on, just keep going. And see, here's what ends up happening as you keep pushing. Oh my goodness, as you keep pushing, life's gonna meet you halfway. Life gonna meet you halfway. You're gonna take a step with your right foot, and all of a sudden you look down, and the universe pulled your left foot up. What in the world? And now because you it pulled your left foot up, it's gonna pull your right foot up. Dang, I got lucky. No, it didn't. It's you in debt right now, so you gotta pull the next one up. Okay, you see, you start to see that this is a balance, it's a dance that's going on. But really, life is out here trying to do all it can to see that you do all that you can. You didn't hear me. Life is doing all it can to see that you do, but most importantly, be all that you can. Life is out here trying. Life out here, imagine the universe. Universe out here slaving. Universe tired of mother. Oh my goodness. Well, girl, we've been working so hard trying to get her to step into who she is. She didn't look, they telling all the arc metatron. We trying. Oh my goodness, we try. We didn't do it, we're doing everything. We try, we're giving her signs and synchronicities and clues. We even look, we even had her algorithm, her algorithm, her for you page was nothing but self-help, but she still ain't helping herself. We try, we try. But here's the deal, you ready? I realize this in my life, and I'm still, it's a process, it's a rehabilitation process, right? We're rehabbing our nervous system, we're re-rewiring ourselves to start seeing ourselves. But here's what I start to realize the more that I stop needing to be seen, the world started to see

Practices To Start Seeing Yourself

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me a little differently. Everybody on the outside sees me different now. And I realize really it's because I see myself. I know that's what it is. But this is the paradox. You want people to see you, but people can't see you more than you see yourself. So when I see myself, I don't actually need them to see me, but then that's when they'll see me more. Do you see how confusing it is? But it's so simple. Life purposely made it confusing. You see? Simplicity scales and complexity fails. It's because every time you do something complex, every time that you live outside of yourself, you can never achieve what you set out to do. So life made it really simple. Just focus on you, just see yourself, just love yourself, just accept yourself, just validate yourself. That's all. And that's it. So, for all my people out there, this is this is your invitation to see yourself, whatever that may look like. I went and bought me a hand pan. I bought me a hand pan. And let me tell you something. I played a hand pan. I played, look, I played, I had the the the the basketball team come over the house, and we had about an hour and a half to just relax. I went and got that hand pan, started playing it. Them boys came, they these boys didn't even know what it was. They started coming up out of the basement, they were coming like, what is that? And they call crowded around like like cows at the watering hole. And they were all sitting there and they were like, What is this? They'd never heard anything like this before. And I said, What? Oh, this?

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Boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom, boom.

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And now here's the deal. I realized what happened. You see, because I gave my permission myself permission to not worry about what they would think. I gave myself permission in that moment to just express what I wanted to do. It gave them permission to come in with this curiosity. What is this? Wow, this is cool. Oh my goodness. And they all just sat around. They just sat around and just listened. One kid even went to sleep. He went to sleep. My point of this is this. It seems little, but that was me giving myself permission. And when I give myself permission to do something or express myself, I'm actually seeing myself. So every time that you express, you are seeing yourself. So express yourself a little bit more in this day. In this day. We're living in a very polarized world right now. We're living in a very polarized world where we are discouraged from expressing ourselves. But that's really just a deeper invitation for you to step into who you are. You see how this works? I know parents are saying, What are you doing with your life? Why are you doing this? They're actually coming in through the back door. See, spiritually, on a spiritual level, their souls had agreed to help you to step more into who you are, but they're doing it with a negative polarity through challenging you. You see how this works. Somebody says, You can't do something. That's actually them on a deeper level saying, We're forcing you to step into who you are, so you do it. So now you start to see that life has been doing all it can for you to be all that you can be. Even in the back door. You see, even the back door was either quote unquote negative, they were still doing it. But see, you got to understand and zoom out from a spiritual lens, the spiritual lens. I can do something through the positive, I can do something through the negative. I can encourage you and say, you can do anything, and that's gonna give you permission to step into, or I can discourage you. And through discouraging you, you won't like the way that feels. And because you don't like the way that feels, that creates an energetic imbalance in you. And because it creates an energetic imbalance in you, the reason why is because there's a part of you that believed it. And that part of you is the non-divine part of you that doesn't actually align with the divine, and you don't like the way you feel when somebody says that you were that you couldn't do it. So what do you do? You start to go on a journey to seek how to do it, how to become it. Do you see how this works? So, either way, life is trying to work out for you for you to become this version. So, for everybody here, I'm gonna leave this in closing, okay? Give yourself permission to start seeing yourself and stop needing to be seen. I'm telling you, life will become so much more simple. So much more simple. And if you wouldn't look at performance, everything that you do will turn to gold. Everything, because now the main thing has become the main thing. I don't chase the results. And I'll be honest with you, I don't even chase, I don't chase the end result. Never do I ever. And I know that if I do, I fell asleep. Don't chase the money, don't chase the revenue. That's the problem with a lot of entrepreneurs today, is that they're operating off of three-dimensional rules. We are in a new earth. That three-dimensional bullshit

Expression, Spiritual Lessons, And Letting Life Help

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don't work no more. You have to operate by five-dimensional rules. And the fifth-dimensional rules, these are the 12, uh, the seven laws of the seven hermetic principles. These are understanding how the mind works. This is understanding how energy works. So, yes, you may be doing something that makes no sense, but that's because you're operating from laws that transcend the physical world. And eventually, this physical world must correspond to the fifth dimension because the higher plane will always govern the lower plane, but they're not gonna teach you in the Kelly School of Business. They're not gonna teach you this when you get your MBA, they're not gonna teach you this at Harvard. I'm telling you things only from things that I've experienced. So, this is why I'm telling you the real algorithm, the real, the thing that makes the most impact will be you seeing yourself because this is what the goal of the universe was. See, you thought you were separate from life. You thought you were separate from the universe. You ain't separate from it. You just happen to be the physical expression of it. It is wanting you to create and see yourself so it can see itself from this unique perspective of what we call whatever your name is. Do you see how this works? So, this is why I keep telling you stop chasing the end result. The end result. Who cares about the end result? The end result is gonna get here when I become the end result. Do you hear what I'm saying? So now life becomes so much more simple. I can show you how to grow anything. I can grow it. I can grow, I can tell, I can shoot. It ain't hard. It ain't challenging to me. All we got to do is be it. All we got to do is be it. I can show you how. If you want to know how, I'll show you how. Now here's the deal. How ain't gonna be enough. I can tell you how to bake a cake, but you're gonna have to bake that motor. You won't have to mix it, you won't have to put it in the oven. I can show you the ingredients, I can show you the recipe, but you're gonna have to cook it. Do you see? And now you start to understand what these ingredients are and how it works. This is so simple. I told you about these, uh, I told, I was talking to DG Byset Academy, how my daughter went and bought some brownies. Oh, bought some brownies for Costco. The Ghirardelli. I didn't know they were Ghirardelli. You know, Ghirardelli had good chocolate. They were Ghirardelli, triple chocolate brownies. I'm not even really into brownies like that, but she had me three days that week. I said, man, let me let me see what I need brownies. Let's put some ice cream on these. Let me look, I'm fine of any reason. Well, it's summertime, it's summer. Let's go ahead and just have a brownie just tonight. The sun going down a little later, we might as well have a little sweet treat. You see, you see, I'll figure out any way to justify it. But anyway, she knows how to bake them now on her own. Why? Because she got the recipe. And you understand the recipe to success, the recipe to growth, the recipe to transformation, the recipe to evolution, the recipe to ascension, the recipe to you creating what it is that you wanted to create in this life first started with the first ingredient. Good God Almighty, that first ingredient was you seeing and validating yourself. If you know how to do that, and you can do it long enough, you will create the cake, the masterpiece. And you ready? That cake's gonna be homemade. A homemade cake tastes way different than a store bar. You know how it is. Oh my goodness. My grandma used to make a lemon pound cake and she put some icing on it. Oh my goodness. Oh my goodness. Some of y'all know what I'm talking. My mom makes a Philly cheese cake, uh, Philly cheese pound cake. Oh my goodness. There's nothing like something that's homemade. There's nothing like something that's self-made. So give yourself permission here. Start seeing yourself, expressing yourself more. Little things. Little things. Wear that shirt that you want to wear. Wear your hair. Get your hair cut the way you want it. Get that tattoo where how you wanted it. Do it. You do it. Do it the way you express yourself. Express yourself. Because it seems little, but how you express yourself in one thing will be how you express yourself in everything else. And keep going.

Invitation To Join DG Mindset Academy

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We're learning in the DG Mindset Academy right now. Get yourself in there. We're learning, we're learning really how to express ourselves, how to see ourselves, how to be ourselves. You can join this link in the bio. You can go to my go to the website, uh, DG Mindset.com, you can go on Instagram. Get yourself in the DG Mindset Academy. It is a movement, y'all. And I tell you, when you get in, you ain't gonna want to get out. I promise you that. If you think this podcast helps you, get in the DG Mindset Academy. And as always, I wish you nothing but the best. On the pathway to your results.