Letting Go Fully

We challenge the idea that you need to learn more to create a better life, and we argue that the real work is letting go of who you used to be. We share a clear framework for identity change, plus practical examples of how old roles like people-pleasing and survival mode quietly block growth. 
• why many people do not have a manifestation problem but a letting go problem 
• the “new chapter requires a funeral” idea and how to honor the old self without clinging to it 
• a truck purchase story that shows how pressure can force an identity upgrade 
• why manifestation and personal growth often work through subtraction, not addition 
• the “old car vs new car” metaphor for choosing your identity moment to moment 
• common identities to release, including people pleaser, rescuer, perfectionist, victim, overachiever, grinder 
• the four-stage framework: awareness, death, void, rebirth 
• why the void feels uncomfortable and why it is still part of alignment 
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Transcript

Letting Go As The Real Work

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Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, Derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to Results Podcast.

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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results Podcast. It is your brethren, your boy, your main man DG. We are here, live and in effect. I wanted to do this podcast today because there's some things that you need to know. And I figure I would be the messenger to go and let you know, okay? What I need to let you know is that you need to go ahead and let go. I'm gonna go ahead and let that merlinate. Let that merlinate for you, like a piece of chicken in the refrigerator. Let that merinate for a little bit. Okay. See, see, I I taught uh uh in the DG Mindset Academy. We did an eight-week course, right? Each semester is eight weeks. And the last one we just did was called the manifestation code, where I was teaching basically how we manifest and create a reality, right? The next eight-week class that we're getting ready to start on July 6th is called letting go because a lot of people don't realize that they don't have a manifestation problem, they have a funeral problem. You don't have any problems with manifesting with manifesting the life that you want. The issue is that you like to hold on to a version of yourself that's already served its purpose. Good God oh my, I don't think you hear nothing I'm saying right now. You have already uh uh what's the word? Um that version of you is done. It's done. It's the you you've already you've you've already used that version of you to get to this point. So the life that you are asking for, the life that you desire, most likely requires the death of who you've been. And this is what I see in a lot of people. This is what we struggle with. So, what if the thing that was actually holding you back wasn't what you needed to learn, it was actually what you needed to let go of. You ain't gotta learn nothing new. You gotta let go of it. And I'm telling you, this is the whole reason why or how we create our reality. Everything will be done and created from the identity that you are, but you have a lot of uh identities that don't work anymore because they were developed in your past. They were developed when you were younger. So you can't become who you were meant to be as long as you are protecting who you used to be. Do I have to say this again louder for the people in the back? How in the world are you gonna become what you have never been if you still holding on to what you are? It's like you go into a car dealership and you want to get a brand new car, but you scared to give up the old used car. You ain't trying to hear nothing. You still the tires are bald. You need it, you know you need a new car, but you still holding on to the old because there's a fear of what if, what if I can't make the payments? What if this isn't I look, worst, worst, worst uh uh purchase I ever made in my life. The worst purchase I ever made. I went and bought a truck. I went and built and bought a big old truck with big old mud tires. I had never done anything like this before. I like the truck. Look, I grew, look, I spent from like age 12, uh 10 to 16 in Louisiana. So I got a little bit of country boy in me, right? I got I like I like big trucks and dirt and four-wheelers and all that, right? So I went and bought this truck. And whenever I say I bought and bought this truck, I left to go somewhere else. I didn't say, like, oh, I'm gonna get a new truck today. I went and bought the truck

The Truck Purchase That Forced Growth

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because I passed by it and it looked nice. The dumbest purchase I ever bought in my life, but here's why I'm telling you this. Okay. Here's why it was dumb. I wasn't really in a place to buy that truck. I didn't have I had a car that was paid off, okay. And the payments were ridiculous. Ridiculous. And they were like, well, you know, you're the first two months, you don't have to pay. And I'm like, that's all I heard. Well, shoot, we good now. And I went and got it. And here's what I will tell you with this, with this, the the this the purchasing of this, okay? Here's what I didn't realize what it did. By doing this and having these payments being something outrageous and crazy, what it actually did was it forced me to become someone that I had never been in order to be able to afford this. See, here's see, I was already a business owner back then. I was a basketball trainer then, but because these payments were more, guess what? The universe said, oh, we're gonna force you to upgrade. You're gonna have to up the you're gonna have to up the anybody. See, you had been scared to raise your prices, but the reason why you were scared to raise your prices was because you were too worried about what people were gonna say. That's a self-worth problem. That's a self-acceptance issue. So the universe is like, here, use the truck. So I named that truck. You know what I named her? Sheila. Know that song? I don't know who sings that song. Oh Sheila, let me live in Sheila. Okay, so this is why I named her Sheila, right? I may have told you this story before, but when we moved down to uh uh Florida and all of this stuff was happening, all of this stuff, and I'm like, man, what is going on? I feel like like this dude who I was involved with, all this nightmare was happening, right? Part of the business deal was he was going to take my truck. He knew a guy at the dealership, he was gonna take the lease off my hands, and that way I wouldn't have to pay it, and we would get rid of it. So he took the truck, and I never saw that truck for about three weeks, three months? Yeah, about three months. And all of a sudden I get an email, a credit alert, saying that your credit score has fallen something crazy, like 200 points. And the lease hadn't been being paid, and it didn't get dissolved because you can't do that. And I realized, oh my goodness. That worst purchase actually ended up being the thing that alerted me. That's the thing that allowed us to see, right? Something's off. Wait, hold on. So here's my point. The purchasing of the truck required a new identity. And then when the situation happened in Florida, and then seeing with the truck, I was like, oh wait, I can't keep living in this identity who just trusts and sweeps it under the rug that somebody's gonna do this and take care of that, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. I'm going to have to be the one who actually has to be accountable. So here's my point for you.

Every New Chapter Needs A Funeral

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Every new chapter requires a funeral. Every new chapter requires a funeral, meaning the death of an old version of you that is not working anymore. So here's what I will tell you. Manifestation growth is more about subtraction than it is addition. See, you got to understand how this universe works. You were created whole already. You were the one who has these perceived inadequacies. You're the one who created this perception that you were left in. You created that. So now we think that we need to add, add, add, add, add in order to have, but really you just needed to subtract. You needed to let go of these old stories that you had. You need to let go of this trauma that you still hold on to. You needed to let go of this old self-concept, this old self-perspective. When you let go of that, that actually now makes room for the new version of you that can come in. You got to understand you can't occupy two rooms at the same time. If we look at it like this, you can't occupy two cars at the same time. Which car are you gonna sit in? You can only sit in one of the cars, which one are you gonna sit in? In order to sit in the new car, you gotta give up the old car. Do you see the microcosm? Do you see the holographic fractal nature of this? So now ask yourself from moment to moment, which car do I want to sit in and which one am I actually sitting in? Because I can want to sit in the new one, but I may be sitting in the old one. So now you start to see, like we talked about last episode, you don't actually fear uncertainty. You fear familiarity. You're afraid that I'm gonna lose something if I change. If I get out of this relationship, I may lose something. You might lose something. You know what? You're gonna lose the old rusty, crusty version of you that don't work no more. You might lose. You exactly right. Well, if I walk away from this job, what happened? Well, you know what? If you walk away from this job, guess what might happen? You might have to be step into who you actually are and go start that business and go after those goals and go after those dreams and create financial uh freedom and time freedom and spend time with your kids. You know what? You might have to do that. You might have to. So the reason why I'm saying this all evolution will require surrendering, all growth will require a death. If I'm going to birth a new version, I gotta let go of the old. Do you see how this works, y'all? So now I know letting go is not a loss. Letting go ain't no loss. Letting go is just making room for the new version of me. Good God almighty. I don't think y'all hear nothing I'm saying right now. So that's why. I say, oh man, you went down to Tulloon for another, you mother, you bet your motherfucking hell I did. Because I know every time that I go down there, I sit with that medicine, I'm I'm letting another version of me die. And I know when I let go of an old car, I'm getting that new one fresh off the lot. You hear me? And I'm when I say it was fresh off the lot, I'm talking about the nice one, the European stitching. You know what I'm talking about. The one that got the stars in the ceiling, the one that's got the what they call it, the uh the the sunroof that goes the whole length of the car. That's what I'm talking about. Do we see how this works? So here's my point. A lot of us are preventing ourselves from getting to the next level because what got you here can't be the same thing that gets you there, there. And this is painful. I'm not gonna sit here and sugarcoat it. Because every

Subtraction Over Addition In Manifestation

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time that you have to let go of an old version of you, it does hurt. It does. But please hear me when I say this. The old version of you wasn't bad. It served its purpose. It's done, it's complete. So this is why we have to become okay with having funerals. Think about when you have a funeral, you have a celebration of life. Celebrate that life, celebrate that version of you, celebrate her. Tell her thank you. I love you, girl. I love you. I love you for everything that you've carried, everything that you helped us to get through, everything that you ever endured, everything that you have ever done to get me to this point. I love you more than I could ever express words. But I'm telling you.

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You're no longer needed now in that capacity. And you can retire her. And you don't have to do it with a heavy heart.

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You can do it from a place of gratitude. And it doesn't have to be from a place of suffering. This is when people suffer. I see this all the time, especially with relationships. We get back in a relationship, even though good and will, we know that there were so many yellow and red flags, and we've been done. We suffer because all we're doing is resurrecting a version of ourselves that's already gone. Hmm. So I'm saying this to everybody here. We all, at some point, we're gonna have to be the pallbearers, the undertakers of our own lives. We were gonna have to become the version of us who who was uh how do you wanna say this? That was gonna lay ourselves to rest.

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Hmm?

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The undertaker. See, even my dog knows. You hear him barking? Boon's like, you're gonna have to lay down. You're gonna have to lay down. That's the only way. Go ahead and tell him, Boone. Tell him. Keep going. Yeah, that's right. I I that's what I'm trying to tell him. I don't know why, Boo. So look, the dogs know. Animals read energy, they know. So here's my point for everybody here. It's about you realizing that transformation requires becoming someone else. You have to become somebody that you've never been. And here's the beauty of it. That version of you who you're becoming, eventually, that version is gonna have to leave to. And then this becomes a process. There's a birth, and then there's a death, and then there's another birth, and then there's another death. And if you look at nature, nature does this all the time. Everywhere you look, nature does this. A tree lets its leaves go. Imagine a tree being 150 years old and still got the same leaves on it. It wouldn't work. It cannot. A snake. Don't snakes uh shed their skin? Snake don't use the same skin. When a snake grows, it has to shed the skin. We've talked about this before. When a day's over, what happens? The sun goes down. Huh? But guess what? The sun goes down so it can come back up in the morning. The snake sheds its skin so the new snake, the longer, the bigger, the thicker version can come out. So we're the only creature that I know of that try to hold on to every version of themselves and keep it alive. No other creature does this. So guess what? You sit here, you don't care what your life looks like, but you will hold on to old beliefs, you'll hold on to old wounds, you'll hold on to old relationships, you'll hold on to old patterns, you'll hold on to old identities, you'll hold on to old old stories, and then guess what? Guess what? And then you wonder why you feel heavy. Oh, I'm not laughing at you. I'm not laughing. I'm laughing with

Which Identity Are You Feeding

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you right now because it's hilarious. It's hilarious when we look at it. The weight isn't life. Life itself is super light, it's super airy. The weight is all the bullsh that you've been carrying that doesn't belong to you anymore. Are you trying to y'all ain't a matter of fact? I'm getting off. Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing. Let me get off this one. Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying. Stop carrying all of this stuff from these old identities. Stop it. Maybe the version of you that needs to die, maybe it's the people pleaser. Maybe it's that version of you uh who's the rescuer, the savior. Maybe it's the version of you who built an identity around being the perfectionist. I gotta be perfect. Maybe it's the version of you who's the victim. Maybe that's the version. I look, I'm not gonna say any names. I went to a WNBA game last week. And this particular player, somebody knows her, tell her to call me, please. I'm not even gonna say her name, but you're gonna figure it out. I'm sitting here watching her, and I live in Indiana, so you know what team she plays for. I'm watching her, I'm like, why are you complaining so much about Cole? Stop playing the victim. Stop it. Stop it. And her numbers, and people are saying, like, oh, she's not as good as she was her rookie year. Well, of course not, because there's an identity that needs to be let go of. You can't keep playing the victim and still be the victor. You can't. So tell Caitlin Clark to call me. Anyway, maybe we need to let go of the overachiever. The one who needs validation, the one who needs outside approval, the one who believes that they're never good enough, the one who survives instead of thrives. I hear me when I say this. Some of us have built a whole identity around uh uh survival. Some of us have built a whole identity around survival and then justifying it, and then we say we're grinders. I'm a hustler, man. I get it out the mud. No, you don't. You over here just tweaking out on your nervous system because you never took the time. You never took the time to see what it felt like to be to thrive. Right? You don't even, matter of fact, somebody could come and say, you know what, we're gonna give you a million dollars today. You'd be like, nah, man, it's okay, man. I'm just gonna grind to get it out the mud. What the f what? What we built a whole identity around it. And now, here's the deal. Guess what? That identity worked at some point. It protected you. It worked, it served its purpose. But hear me when I say this when I say you gotta let go. Before you let go, you better honor them. You better thank them. You better give them the flowers, you better celebrate their life, and then release them. Release them. Because here's what we gotta understand: protection and purpose are not the same thing. They're not. They have served their purpose. It's time to move on now. So from for for for for those who are listening right now, ask yourself, what am I carrying right now? What am I carrying that that chapter has already been completed? That purpose has already been served. Maybe it's a relationship. Maybe it's an old mindset, maybe it's an old story that you tell yourself. Just go ahead and sit with that for a little bit. And then here's the deal. I'm gonna show you the framework. This

Awareness, Death, Void, Rebirth Framework

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is the framework of evolution of how it works, okay? First step is always going to be awareness. Awareness. So basically, you realize that the old identity is limiting you. You start to realize that, dang, I got poverty consciousness, but yeah, here I am. I want to buy a new car. I want to hire a coach. I want to go on a retreat. I want to join the academy. I want to do this. But I still got a pattern that says I'm not worthy of it. And then once you have this awareness, you know what comes in right after that? The most painful part? The death. The death. The death. And you really know what the death is? The death is when you starve that motherfucker out. Starve it. Stop giving it the same energy that it was created in. Starve it. Strangle its lifeline, its supply. So if you had a version of you who was created out of scarcity, the only way to starve it is to start moving in abundance. Sometimes we refer to this as AAI. I must act against it. Act against it, and then you'll stop feeding it. And here's my warning. You're gonna move into phase three when that happens. You're gonna move into what we call the void, aka the liminal space. You're gonna be in the unknown, that uncomfortable space between who you've been and who you're becoming. You know what I mean? In nature, they call that caterpillar soup. So you ain't really a caterpillar anymore, and you ain't really a butterfly, and you're like, man, what the anybody you ever done two days of ceremonies or maybe three, at some point you go through this stage. I did two days on Monday, I was like, dang, who am I? And then by the end of Tuesday, I'm like, oh, okay, I get it. But that stage between Monday and Tuesday was like, what in the world? What did I do? Why did I do this? How many times has this happened in life? Where you're like, I'm not quite this and I'm not quite that. Who am I? What am I? That's because the birth canal is getting ready. The birth canal, the baby's dropped. The baby's coming. This universe, the midwife, is saying it's time for this new version. And this is the fourth, for the fourth stage, the rebirth, the new identity which will emerge naturally. It's gonna happen naturally. You don't have to force it. It's gonna happen. The baby's coming out regardless. It's coming. But see what ends up happening is a lot of people quit in stage three. They quit in the liminal space, they quit in the void. But the void's not punishment. Right? It's not punishment. It's actually the womb. That's why we have to trust it. That in order for me to let go, it's gonna be a point, it's gonna be, it's gonna be, it's gonna be painful. It is. I have to let go of an old version be that I built my whole life around. I built my whole life around being a people pleaser. I built my whole life around making people happy and giving them my approval and my validation, even though when I like, maybe I didn't resonate. I built my whole life around that. And we have a lot of relationships like that. And now this relationship just ain't like what it used to be because I'm not what I used to be. And now when you're when when the call comes in, it's like instead of being like, oh, yeah, now you're like, I don't know if I'm gonna answer this right now, right now. You know what I'm talking about. You over here laughing, but you know what I'm talking about. And it's not that they've changed, maybe you've changed. And that's okay. But I do know this. This universe will always honor alignment. Always. Always. So I want you to I wanna I'm gonna leave you with this. I want you to imagine this. I want you to imagine walking around carrying a backpack and all you got in is rocks. Imagine that. You've been walking around with a backpack and ain't nothing but some rocks and some boulders and some pebbles. And for years, years, you've been asking, how do I get stronger? I want to get stronger. See, what you have to understand is the answer was never about getting stronger. The answer was about dumping those rocks out. Dump them out! Take the backpack off. Do you see? This is what life this is how we were manifesting, how we created our life. Seamlessly, you know when you say when people used to when I was uh early on the spiritual journey, I don't chase, I attract. I don't chase, I attract. Well, you're gonna attract whatever you are. And what when I came out the womb, I was pure. I was, I was, as we would say, I was rest to go. I developed all of these programs and all this limitation. I did this, but I was ready from the beginning. So really it's about returning back to that. So now guess what I gotta do? I gotta heal and shed all of those old things, all these things that I've developed that kept me, that took me away from myself. And this is the journey, this is the hero's journey, this is the remembering, going back home to what we actually were. So I'm starting to learn. I'm I'm I'm my life has become a little bit more simple. Goals have changed because I'm realizing that maybe the goal wasn't about becoming more. Maybe the goal is really about becoming less. Maybe that's what it's about. Becoming less fear, less guilt, less shame, less proving, less performing, less surviving. Maybe that's actually what it is. Because here's the deal, here's what I've learned.

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Every version of myself that I've been searching for was already inside of me. People always ask me, can you give me a good book?

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What's a good book I can read? I need a good book. What's a good book? I I hope you don't think it's the book.

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Not the book.

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I read very little right now. I don't I don't know, you you see my bookshelf, I don't, but I don't I don't really read that much anymore. I'd say probably a year now, I probably read maybe five or six books a year. Not very much. Compared at one point I was reading, gosh, 30, 40 books a year. My point of this is I realized it's not about me acquiring more information.

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It's about me finally letting go of what was ready to die. And then here's what I've learned.

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The next chapter of your life really usually it doesn't begin until you find a new version of yourself. And when I say new version of yourself, I'm not talking about like it's new, like it hasn't it just dis it just appeared. It's new in terms of your self-realization of it. I like to call it self-recognition. Because recognition requires the recognition and re-means to do over again. Cognition is uh the this this mental faculty of knowing and understanding. So really being able to process myself, I have already known this before and I'm just doing this again. So this is why I tell you I stop reading so much, unless I have some like type of information I really want to learn, and like I want to like dive deeper, because I've realized that all of the information that exists in this universe is already encoded inside of my cellular structure. And the reason why I say that is because if everything in the physical plane first started at a moment of singularity of what we refer to as the Big Bang, then that means if you press rewind, everything would refer go back to that one moment of singularity. So therefore, everything that's in this universe came from the same one thing, that same one point, this moment of singularity. So therefore, everything that we see is in every single thing. And if we go a little bit deeper, I know that everything is comprised of what we call energy. You know, energy carries all information. So this is why when we say in the religious world, we say that God is omnichent, meaning it's all-knowing. God is nothing more than an energy, these principles that govern this entire universe, and it. All of the information is already out there. And because it's out there, it would have to be in here, because out there and as in here, oh, as within, so without, so without. Okay. So really, if I want to learn or become more quote unquote intelligent or know more, learn more, yes, I could acquire more information, or I could shed the things that's keeping me from my divine nature that was already omnichant. Do you see how this works? I'm giving you a secret. I'm telling you, this is what I do. I'm just, I want to share with you what I do. I thought, I thought for the longest it was about acquiring, acquiring, acquiring, acquiring, acquiring. And now I realize it's more about shedding, shedding, shedding. And here's the deal: some seasons you shed a lot, some seasons you don't. Just like animals. Your dog sheds more in certain seasons, doesn't it? Oh, yeah, you got that. You got those furry dogs. I got a dog, not too much fur, but he got enough. But in the summer, I was like, why has he shed so much more? Because the seasons change. Just like with you. You will have seasons where you will shed. You feel like, goodness gracious, I have died so many deaths. What in the world is going on? I didn't sign up. How many times you do this? If this is the human game, I don't want to do this anymore. I didn't sign up. This is some bullshit. This is a I didn't, I knew I knew I was gonna have to go through something. I didn't know it was gonna be repeatedly over. I just got my head above water. Now the universe dumped me back down underneath the water. Oh, what a blessing it is. What a blessing it is for you. You're going through a season where you feel like you're shedding a lot. That's because the universe says, I have to get rid of a lot because you have so much more inside of you. You have so much more than what you're capable, what you think that you're capable of. So we have to get rid of it. That's all. And it's gonna be painful, it's gonna be uncomfortable here and times and there, but oh my goodness, it'll be worth it. I promise you it'll be worth it. Because your light is gonna shine. Your light is gonna create a beacon of hope, not only in your family, but in humanity. So the season of life, whatever you may be in, maybe you're in a point right now where you're in the you're you're you're you're a midwife, you're birthing the new the new version of yourself. Maybe you're in a season where you gotta be the pallbearer, you gotta be the undertaker, you gotta be the embalmer. And you're gonna have to you're gonna have to take care of some dead carcasses. As we welcome birth, we're gonna also have to welcome death too. We're gonna have to welcome letting go. Because this too is a part of your evolution, it's a part of your journey. So, for

DG Mindset Academy Program Invitation

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everybody listening to this right now, this was the new, this is the eight-week program that's starting in the DG Mindset Academy called it Letting Go. Okay, I'm gonna break down. We if you weren't in the manifestation code, that's fine. That's all. You can still have access to that. But here on July 6th, I'm gonna teach you all how to really let go. I'm gonna take you through the framework and we're gonna do it. We're gonna like we're gonna do it. I'm telling you, if you get in it, if you came here to work on yourself and heal and let go of it, because really, manifestation is about you letting go of old versions of you. If you really want to become who it is and do, accomplish, and have. Okay, well, then we have to learn the process of how do we let go. And that's what we're gonna do over these eight weeks, and we're gonna do it together. Because what I've learned is when uh we have support and we have community and we have like-minded individuals, even when those times get hard, I still can depend on or use somebody else's energy to help me through it. So get yourself signed up. You can look at the look at the link in here at the end of the at the bottom of this podcast. You can go to dgmindset.com or you can go to Instagram, I got it in there. But July 6th, we're gonna go ahead and get started because it's time to start letting go so you can step into who it is that you truly are. And as always, I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.