The Secrets of Manifestation

We explore how making goals “premium” creates distance, and why detachment, identity, and trust turn desire into momentum. Stories from the NBA, family moments, and daily practices show how to calm the nervous system and normalize success without losing edge.

• nothing outside makes us enough
• importance and attachment create resistance
• alignment over effort as the core lever
• NBA case study on fear, freedom, and flow
• treat goals like oxygen, not premium air
• beliefs, thoughts, attention, conviction, identity
• data days versus maintenance days
• momentum through consistent daily actions
• losing outside to win inside
• detach to receive by calming the nervous system
• leadership through embodiment, not performance

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Transcript

You Are Already Enough

SPEAKER_00 0:05

Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, Derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to Your Results Podcast.

Importance Creates Distance

NBA Story: Fear Vs Freedom

SPEAKER_02 0:27

Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results Podcast. It is your boy DG. Feels good to be back. It's nice to be here with you, sharing space and time, whatever you may be doing, whatever it may look like. There's a reason why this podcast stumbled upon you. I've come to learn that things don't happen randomly. We just don't see why they happened until after they happened. We don't see why they happen when they happen until after. So I say that because life is usually not understood until it's retrospectively examined. So please, for this moment, don't think that this is a coincidence that this is the podcast that you stumbled upon, that somebody sent this to, that this was the topic at the moment that you needed to hear this. Now you saw the title of this. This podcast, this episode, is about you. Stop making your dreams so doggone important. Stop making the goals, the, the, the, the creme de la creme. Like this is the thing that's going to make you enough, and this is the thing that's going to validate you. And this is the thing that's going to make you uh be accepted and seen by the world because here's the deal. You ready? Ain't nothing gonna make you enough. But you. You. Do we not see how this works? How many times do I gotta keep telling y'all this? Nothing's gonna make you enough outside of you. It was only you. And guess what? You ready? Nobody thought you weren't enough except you. Matter of fact, I might as well go ahead and get off because I know you ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying right now. When you start to realize the battle has only been you. But the key is to understand that anything that's super important to you will create distance. I don't see anybody making a big deal out of oxygen. We've talked about this before. Y'all breathe oxygen. Some of us, I'm not gonna say any names, but there's some people, some people in some positions that they just wasting up oxygen. They just they just blowing hot air right now. I'm not gonna get into that because I'm not gonna, you know, I'm not gonna get to go down the political road. But you get my point. Because oxygen is plentiful, because you have it and you don't have to think about it, it's not that important to you. You waste it all the time. And I don't say waste it, you use it without attachment. So, importance creates distance, relaxation, allowing creates magnetism. Okay, now we can go ahead and get started. So, I see this happen because I work with people behind the clo behind the curtains, and I will tell you that I work with a majority of athletes and coaches in the athletic world, and it is because they work in an industry that's statistic-based, the stats are what make the thing important. I had a player plays in the NBA, played a game on Friday against the Portland Trailblazers, 24 hours later, played a game against the Portland Trailblazers again. It was a it was a back-to-back. Okay, it was called a home and home where they play, the await team plays uh uh Friday at the at Portland and then they play again the next night. Okay, same team. The night before, on Friday, he was three for 13. Didn't shoot the ball all that well, got put on the bench. Now, a lot of times when I see that clients or athletes are struggling, I don't text them. I'm like, you gotta you gotta learn how to swim when the water's choppy. When you see them white caps, you gotta learn how to swim by yourself. I don't want to be the one who's gonna come get you out. So anyway, I don't say anything to him Saturday, and we have a call scheduled on Sunday. Sunday morning I wake up, he goes seven for eight from the three-point line and has 25 points of career high. And I said, Oh, I can't wait to talk to him on Sunday. Now, I already knew it was. I knew why and how he did this because here's the deal he didn't grow 10 inches overnight, he didn't all of a sudden get faster and stronger between Friday and Saturday. I knew that this was something psychologically. I knew that this was something energetic within him. So we got on a call Sunday, and I just kind of looked at him when we got on. I didn't say anything. And I said to him, I said, cool, you had career height, that's great. You know I don't care about that. I don't care about nothing on this physical world. I want to know what was it that changed between Friday and Saturday. You know what he said? I'm not gonna say it because I know kids listen to this, but you can. He said, I stopped giving up. I stopped caring so much. He said, Friday, I didn't shoot well. I didn't like the way I felt. I went back and watched the film. Good God Almighty. You know what he said? He said, after watching the film, I realized when I would shoot the ball, I would pull out of my shot. I would have followed through like I needed to. I stopped what was working because fear took over. He said, I was so concerned with my percentages because I started the game 0 for 4. So now every time that I shoot, I'm scared that I'm gonna miss. So now because he's scared he's gonna miss, his body went into survival mode. And when the body goes into survival mode, it does not expand, it contracts. So now here he is trying to shoot a basketball from a state of contraction, and that's why he's pulling out of it. So he said, I just kept telling myself, who cares? I don't even give a f I don't even care. And how many times has this happened to you? When you hit rock bottom, when you hit the lowest of the low, when you got blood on your knees, tears on your face, and you don't know how you're gonna get up out of this. Why is it at that moment there is transformation and all of a sudden you start going up? People always say, this is what they always say. When you hit rock bottom, ain't no place that ain't no place but up. No. No, I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna go a little bit deeper. Ain't nobody gonna change till you feel some pain. Let me go ahead and say that for the people in the back. Ain't nobody gonna change until we feel some pain. So the pain of him living in fear and playing in fear, he said, I'm done with this. I'm finished. I ain't doing this no more. So we talked a little bit deeper and he started to realize I put my percentages on a pedestal. And he didn't even realize that the percentages were just an indirect link to the contract that he wants to sign this summer. So really, he was putting his contract on a pedestal, and then the ego was using the the the statistic to justify it. So now here he is playing out of fear.

SPEAKER_03 7:15

So he said to me, he goes, Man, I just felt so free. I felt so free. I said, Yeah, you felt free. You know why you felt free? Because you let go.

Alignment Over Effort

SPEAKER_02 7:30

So for everybody out here, my entrepreneurs, my founders, my business owners, my athletes, my human beings who look to create the life that they desire, there's a reason why you had that desire, there's a reason why you had that idea, that's a reason why the spark of creativity was bestowed upon you, it's because through that creation, there is going to be a level of detachment that will allow you to step into what you actually are. So when you start to realize that importance and attachment, create create tension, the tighter you grip, the further it's gonna move. Imagine this: you holding on to the steering wheel as tight as you can on that car, thinking that that's gonna change the curves in the road. This is what we do in the life. We sit here and do this. All you're doing is creating. I might make up a word, and you you know what the word is, the root word of it. The root word is real, but the word I'm gonna make up, repellination. You're just repelling it. That's all you're doing. You're repelling the thing that you want. So, this is what's the misunderstanding of manifestation. Manifestation has very little to do with effort. Manifestation has to do with alignment. It has to do with alignment. And a lot of us don't know what alignment looks like because the world, the matrix, the system has duped you to think that alignment, good God almighty, it made you think that alignment has something to do with what it looked like on the outside. I don't think y'all hear what I'm saying right now. I don't think you hear what I'm dropping off. Alignment ain't got nothing to do with how it looks. You may say in this season, I want to do this, and then the next season you're like, I feel like I want to do this. And everybody's gonna look at you and say, Why are you doing that? I thought you said you were gonna do this. Because for some reason, there's something in my spirit that has shifted. There's something that says, no, go this way. There's something that's gonna defy the logic, the reason, linear, egoic mind that says, This just feels right. This, this is why I tell you you needed courage to manifest anything that you desired. Because it's gonna go against the world. Why do you think if we look at this story of Jesus, he told you to be not of this world? Be not of this world, meaning don't do what it looks like is gonna look like it's supposed to be. Don't do that. Do what aligns with the inner part. So I started to look at it just a little bit deeper, a little bit deeper, and understand it's there's secrets, and not secrets in the sense that, oh, well, only I know and you don't. Secrets in the sense that it's hidden in plain sight. It's hidden in plain sight. So you start to understand these secret facts of manifestation.

SPEAKER_03 10:00

You run number one, you realize that manifestation is not hard, it's actually easy. Like breathing. Ah, you see. Y'all are sitting here breathing right now. You ain't thinking about nothing. You just breathing. You just breathing. You don't breathe while thinking.

Make It Normal, Not Premium

SPEAKER_02 10:21

You just do it. There's systems in place in your body that are doing the work for you. Do you not know that this universe is doing the same thing for you? The universe is like, yo, we're gonna bring it. We're gonna do it. All you gotta do is stop making it so doggone important. Stop thinking that this thing is gonna make you enough. And then here's the deal the universe signed a contract from the day that you incarnate into this physical body. It signed an inner agreement with you. And it said, I'm gonna be so brutally honest with your inner agreement. I'm literally just gonna show you whatever you are. That's all I'm going to do. So when you sit here and think about it and dream about it and wish and hope and have this attachment and then get frustrated when it doesn't happen, the universe is like, yep, that's what I'm gonna do. So you over here acting pressed because it's not happening. Do you not know that you were supposed to be it? Didn't we talk about this about six, seven months ago? In order to have it, I had to first have it. This is why every human being was gonna have to use this thing that we call faith. And here's the key, here's the deal, okay? We have been duped to think that taking something for granted meant something bad. Y'all stay with me here. Somebody told you, look at you, you take this for granted. Do you not know that you taking something for granted is actually you communicating to the universe that I am it? See, you take that oxygen for granted right now, and that's why you have oxygen in your lungs. But what happens when you get bronchitis? What happens when you have some type of lung infection? What happens when you have uh, what is it called? Pneumonia. I want to call it emphysema, but I know that's not it. When I when you have pneumonia, you have something with your lungs and you can't breathe as easy as you want to, then what ends up happening? We have this desire for it. Oh my gosh, I wish I had the key, the key for you to manifest something, this is the paradox, is it was gonna have to become normal to you. It was going to have to become something that you took for granted because importance creates space. See, whatever's important to you, what you're communicating to this universe is I ain't got it. And the universe says, Well, how am I gonna reflect it to you if you ain't got it? How am I gonna give it to you if you ain't got it? How am I gonna give it to you if you ain't it? So the key here is to understand whatever you find normal will find you. Say that again with me. Whatever I find normal will find me. So if disappointment feels normal, guess what? You best believe disappointment is gonna hunt you down. It's going to find you. If money feels stressful, guess what? Then that's what you're gonna see in your life. So the biggest mistake that I find that people make is they take their goals and their dreams, they put it on a pedestal, and the desire that they want is to a point that the subconscious can't think of this as home base. You got to understand the subconscious is just trying to chill. It's trying to just do a job behind the scenes. But when we sit here and think that this goal, this dream, this monetary amount, this promotion, this number is going to make us enough. Oh my gosh. Universe is like, oh my gosh, she did it again. She did it again. She thought this relationship was going to make her whole. She did it again. Now imagine this. Imagine this. You ready? A caterpillar we know already has the technology to become the butterfly.

SPEAKER_03 13:45

Imagine the caterpillar worshipping the tree.

Detach To Receive

SPEAKER_02 13:55

I'm gonna go ahead and let that marinate here for a little bit because I don't think you're really understanding what I'm saying. The tree was not what made the caterpillar turn into the butterfly. The tree was just a medium, it was just a vehicle, it was just a vessel, it was just a container, but it was the caterpillar who made the butterfly. It was not the tree. So you keep thinking that money is going to make you. But you're the one who's making the money. Good God. This is when you understand. This is when you understand this. Every time that you need this to happen, every time you need that desire to come true, all you're doing is shouting lack. And that is the complete opposite of this universe. This universe doesn't understand lack, it doesn't understand scarcity. Only you created that. You created it. Imagine this. You know, you you sit here living in scarcity, wondering how am I gonna do this? How am I gonna pay this? How am I gonna universe is like this? I cannot believe that she has created something that does not even exist. This pompous little human. That's what the universe is looking at us like, I don't understand how she keeps speaking of this grotesque thing that she speaks of. I can't even utter it on my lips. Lack, whatever it may be. And we over here, like, oh my gosh, there's never enough. I'll never have enough. When am I gonna get ahead? The universe is looking like, uh little humans. This is why I refuse to have anything to do with them directly. This is why I have to send codes and synchronicities, because they still won't get it. Sorry, I'm in a I gotta get in my role playing a little bit. So every time that you ask, why is it not happening? How long does it take?

SPEAKER_03 15:42

When is it gonna show itself? That is a telltale sign. And I'm not being mean, but I'm holding you accountable. You just don't get it yet.

SPEAKER_02 15:54

That's all that means. If you ask him, when is it going to happen? You don't get it. So this is what we have to understand. Manifestation ain't got nothing to do with what you see physically. Manifestation is when you realize internally that nothing externally is going to have an impact on who and what you are, then you can manifest this instantly. I can create this instantly. So you're listening to me right now. I left 2026 probably about two months ago. I'm trying to, I'm trying to, I'm trying to clean up things in 2027 right now.

SPEAKER_01 16:34

I'm trying to clean up a lot of stuff. We know that this thing, what is the year of the horse? I'm gonna do a podcast on, don't worry.

Identity Beats Vision Boards

SPEAKER_02 16:39

Oh, that horse is coming. Oh, and they be coming around the mountain when she comes. They'll be coming around the mountain when she comes. They'll be coming around the mountain. That's what the horse, the year of the horse is the fire horse. That's what he's saying. Oh, we're coming. You best believe the horsepower is coming, the stampede's coming. So my point of this is I've realized I had to start to be who it was that I wanted to be now. Now. And then I had to stop thinking that this was going to make me whole. This is why we live by the saying, the people that need it the most will have it the least, and the people who need it the least will have it the most. Write that on something so you can see it every day. If I need it, it's because there's a wound. It's because there's something inside of me. It's because there's something within my belief system. There's something that I'm thinking. It's the attention that I'm giving to something, it's my emotional conviction, it's my identity. There's something that is misaligned. These five things that I just said, this, these are the ingredients that you use to manifest something. Think about it. Your beliefs. What are your beliefs? Your beliefs ain't nothing more than what you repeatedly think with an emotion attached to it. That's all it is. Your thoughts. Your thoughts are what you think daily or repeatedly. Your attention.

SPEAKER_03 18:07

That's what feeds this universe.

SPEAKER_02 18:12

See, where you put your attention, what do they say? Where attention goes, energy flows. And here's what ends up happening. If you put your attention somewhere enough, you're gonna start to have this thing that we call emotional conviction. Emotional conviction means what you're sure of. And then if we have enough emotional conviction and we haven't, we're giving attention to something enough, and then our beliefs and our thoughts are aligned, you'll start to create an identity. And your identity is who you think you are. Notice what I said. Your identity is not who people think you are. Identity is who you think you are. But the issue is who you think you are is really what a lot of people think you are. And you have adopted somebody else's identity if you. I don't think you hear. I don't look, I'm about to get off here. I can't do this no more. I'm done. You don't try to hear nothing I'm saying. You ain't trying to hear your identity that you walk around with right now, I'm willing to bet that there's a fraction of it that is somebody else's perception of what they think you should be. And that is why, my friend, you are not going after what it is that you want. That is why you have an attachment to making this thing, uh uh, this dream, this goal, this number. You're so attached to it and it's so important to you because if I can have this, then I'll be enough in their eyes. So we could go back and make it all simple. We could say, stop caring what people think about you. But that ain't it. That ain't gonna be it. In order for you to manifest the life that you want, you're gonna have to make an internal shift. You're gonna have to make an internal shift. Now, when I say an internal shift, you're gonna have to become the son of man. You're gonna be have to come, you're gonna have to become the son of man. Remember, Jesus told you the son of man cannot be observed? Good God almighty, I don't think you understand what I'm doing. When we say this is a this is a state of consciousness, this is a state of being. The only way we're gonna know that you really are moving as them is because we're gonna be able to see how you move. But outside of that, we ain't gonna know.

SPEAKER_03 20:04

Because it cannot be observed. So you're gonna have to change your order.

Data Days And Maintenance Days

Momentum, Loss, And Inner Wins

SPEAKER_02 20:14

You're gonna have to reduce the importance of this thing that you want. In order to do this, I gotta become whole first. I gotta become whole. I'm over here trying to do this and grow this and grow that, and I realize, why don't you just let go, man? Why don't you just let go? Why don't you just let go? And then here's the deal, you ready? Life's gonna do what it needs to to see that you let go. You can hold on to that steering with all you want. You better believe you're gonna run off that road. And then let you know what life's gonna let you live. Life's gonna let you live to give you another chance at it. And you guys you say when you get on those curves, man, I'm not gonna hold on so tight. Yeah, this is why you had to trust. That's why you had to trust and know that you're gonna get to where it is that you want to go, but you're not gonna get there. Holding on to it, gripping it tight. That's not the way it's gonna work. You gotta let go. So, Derek, am I supposed to just let go and then just not do anything? No. You're supposed to let go and do it as if it was already done. And you will know if you're doing it as if it's already done, because you're not gonna think it's a big deal anymore. Just like you're doing it right now, breathing all that hot air in and out. It ain't a big deal to you because you're doing it. So here's my advice to you. When you start to think of your desire, your goal as just regular oxygen instead of this rare oxygen that nobody can get. Matter of fact, when you start doing that, it will be yours. True story. I'm just I'm look, my mind just went on. A couple, you remember this trend that was going around, I think it was on t TikTok, I think, where like women were like calling their dad or their husband, and they were talking about going to get their tires filled up at a at a car place. I don't know if y'all remember that. But anyway, my wife. Did this to my father, so her father in law. Now, my dad, I don't know if you're gonna listen to this, but he he's the one who knows everything and anything about a car, right? He hears something in the car, he'll tell you exactly what it is. So he is the aficionado when it comes aficionado when it comes to cars. So she called him, and I was, she had my speakerphone. I'm just listening. I'm like, you about to have this man's blood pressure on a thousand. She's like, Yeah, my car was making some noise. So and my dad was like, Well, what was it? She's like, Well, I don't know. I was by a I was by a car shop, so I stopped by the car shop and they told me that I just uh I just didn't have enough air in my tire. And he said, Oh, yeah, yeah, it can do that, blah, blah, blah. She said, Yeah. So he charged me$150 to put some uh air in the tire. My dad said, What'd you say? She said, Yeah, it was$150 because it was premium air. He said, Premium air? What is that? And I went I'm just sitting here. I got my hands on my forehead. I said, Oh, Lord, he I know how this, I know how James author is. He's about to get going. And I was like, Carly's over here laughing. She's like, Yeah, he told me that this was like special air. It was premium. And that's why I have so much. And my dad's like, What are you talking about? Premium air? Ain't no such thing as premium air. All air is the same. She's like, no, no, this was different air. This was going to help it to stop. And she said, he said, Carly, no, you did not pay$150 for some air. That's the same air that you and I are breathing. You let this man to. I said, Dad, she's just playing. I had to get her grab the phone because I know his blood pressure. I said, You're about to give this man a heart attack right now. But here's my point. When you stop thinking of your goal as this premium air, you stop thinking of your goal as this premium thing that's going to validate you and make you enough, it will become normal to you. And when it becomes normal to you, this universe signs on. It aligns with you. It aligns with your desire to bring it into your life because, like I've told you before, this universe did not want you to live outside of yourself. It didn't want the caterpillar to think that the tree was going to make it whole. It didn't want it to think that uh it was a vehicle or vessel, this thing on the outside was ever going to make you what you uh make you enough. So, manifestation ain't got nothing to do with you bending reality. Don't you let these people out here tell you this? You ain't bending reality. We won't make it simple. You always manifest from the level of detachment that you are at. So here's what you ask yourself.

SPEAKER_03 24:27

The thing that I want, have I become okay with not having it? Until it's a yes, you will never have it.

SPEAKER_02 24:41

Let's just say you do create or manifest something in the physical world that you want. If this excites me, it has a huge impact on my emotions. And I feel so high. And oh my gosh, life is so good now. Ever so subtly, the ego's in the background saying, Yes, we did it. She's attached. And now here's what life's going to do. Life's gonna say, Mmm, here she goes again. We have to take this away from her. She thinks for some reason that this thing is what has made her whole. She's still living in the state of happiness. Happiness was fleeting. Joy, though, joy was what we bestowed upon her. We must get her back to joy. And this is why a lot of times we'll get to the top of the mountain and then we fall off.

SPEAKER_03 25:41

You didn't fall off as punishment. You fall off, you fell off because of it was an it was an initiation.

SPEAKER_02 25:49

It was for you to move into sustainability. And as long as you live outside of yourself, it'll never be sustainable. This is why I'm doing this podcast. It's why I'm on this personal journey. I'm trying to get to the top of the mountain in a hurry. I want to get to the top of the mountain and stay there. I want to be able to kick my feet up, take my shoes and socks off, go ahead and let my hair down. I want to go ahead and make myself comfortable on the top of the mountain. I don't want to get up here and be like, oh no, how long are we going to be here? What if, what if this is too good to be true? Do you see how this works? How many times we do this? You accomplish something, you do something, and you look and you're like, is this too good to be true? And you write back in survival mode. This is how you know you really ain't it right now. So I want you to write down, what is it, the thing that you think this thing is gonna make you feel and you it's gonna make you be? And you have to be super aware because now we're on a subtle level. We're in, I don't know if y'all realize this podcast is in season six. This ain't level one no more. This ain't season one. You better go back to season one if you we're in the deep, deep water. So now it's little subtle things. It's not big things. Start to look at your spending habits. You get that little bit of money that came in. What did you do? You spent it before you had it. Ooh.

SPEAKER_01 27:02

What does that mean? That's a form of self-sabotage. We won't get into that right now, but that's a form of you not really believing that you were worthy of it. So now, guess what we do? We give it away, it's gone.

Embodied Leadership Collective Invitation

Closing: Keep Stacking Days

SPEAKER_02 27:16

And because we gave it away, that's letting us know that we weren't really it. Yes, it showed itself, but the universe can come through the back door or the front door, it doesn't matter. I can show you and give it to you, or I can not give it to you, but just but I'm showing you the same thing. I'm showing your level of attachment. So for everybody here that's listening, every time that you detach, you trust it. See, trust is what allows you to relax your nervous system. I listened to something the other day, and it was so good. It was so good. But your your nervous system is what this universe is attached to. Your nervous system is what everything in your physical life is responding to. So detachment is not about you giving up. Because that's what a lot of people think. Oh, I'm so just not care, and I just give up, and I'm just no, no, no, no, no, no. It's about you creating a portal, an opening to be able to receive. You can't say, here's the deal. We want the thing, but you don't realize that the thing that's coming has to be received. You want to play quarterback and receiver, but you only want to play quarterback. You think as a quarterback, you're gonna be able to receive. No, quarterbacks throw, quarterbacks broadcast, quarterbacks uh express, quarterbacks give out. You're gonna have to be the quarterback and the wide receiver. Meaning, I have to put out the frequency of the version of me that already has it so I can receive it. So, us being able to receive this ball, this football, as we used to say back in the day, this fitbow. If you're gonna receive this fitball, you're gonna have to be able to receive. And you can't receive anything as long as you live in a survival mode. So if you do not trust, that means you live in a survival. And if I'm living a survival, I ain't gonna receive nah or nothing. I can't have it. Now here's the deal. I don't do these. And there's nothing wrong with it, but I want to make sure that we don't, because I don't like, I don't, I don't like when I first got into this world, this, this, when I have this awakening, I hated the word manifestation and I hated the word coaching. Because I start to see that it's it's it's so superficial. It's so, it's just it's like, wait, why are we making it so complicated? It's really quite simple. So there's there's you know, people, and I have nothing against it, right? There's nothing against it, but I'm just saying that's not it. When we create vision boards, and we do our vision boards, and we here's the issue. We create a vision board, we ain't got the identity to go with it. So here's what I started doing. I stopped creating. I don't do vision boards, I just create the identity. And how is identity created? You tell me through each moment, through belief, through your actions, through conviction. It's through now. And I couldn't understand why it is that I put up on this vision board, I put this and I put that, I put that. How come none of them are coming? How come I don't see any of it? Because you don't have an identity to go with it. So understand. You can look at your behavior today to tell whether or not you're gonna be in alignment with what it is that you want. If you were there, let's use his sports as an example. If you're over here shooting the ball, and when you miss, you go, ah. Good luck. Good luck. I went to the gym with my son the other day. This is a good father, son, quality time. His season's all over with. We were in the gym and he was shooting. And I was giving him a number he has to get to, but I try to tell him, but he doesn't understand. I'm not giving you the number. I don't care if you get. If I tell you to make 10, I don't care if you make 10. The reason why I'm telling you to make 10 is to give you a definite aim, a definite purpose. That's really it. But if I see you have a definite aim, a definite purpose, I don't have to give you a number. So anyway, I told him to make five. And he got to like four, then he missed three in a row. And then on the third one, he was like, ah. And he missed another one. He's like, uh. And I said, what you aw and uh for? Why are you doing that? Instead of ah and un, why don't you take that energy and start looking at what you're not doing? You don't have to express that. Don't express, ah. I said, well, I told him too. I said, the other thing is, too, it's gonna be hard to make it when you really want to make it. Now he knows he hears enough. He's so tired of hearing what I gotta say. He's so tired. 13 years old is about where it hits. When they don't want to hear nothing you gotta say. I think. I haven't, I don't have anything older than a 13-year-old. But 13 is where he don't want to hear nothing. I told him, I said, have you not learned yet? The better, yep, proper grammar, the better you want it, the less you're gonna have it. So why don't you just let go and become okay with, all right, I missed four in a row. Why am I missing four in a row? Then you can correct it and keep it moving. He gets it now. So we had a game. We had a game, and we know it was the playoffs, right? Win and go home. Win or go home. And I said, uh, how about this? Because I know you really want to win. And I know you really want to win a championship in the counties. I know you do. But how about this? Why don't you just focus on the things that you have control over? I know you really want to make that amount. I know you really want to get that business off the ground. Why don't you just focus on the things that you have control over? So I told Hudson, I said, hey man, what do we have control over? He said, I have control over my energy, my attitude, and how hard I play. I said, Exactly. Why don't you just focus on that? I said, I'll sit on the sidelines, I'll help you if there's little details here and there, so you don't have to give energy to it. So he went out there and for the game. The kid who was guarding him, I know the kid who's guarding him because he played for me for play for teammates for like four years on the same basketball team. I told him, I said, hey, look, here's something I know about him. You're gonna be able to go by him, not off the dribble. You're gonna be able to go out and go by him like out of a triple threat for all my basketball people know what that means. So I told him, I said, Here, look, all you gotta do is rip through, out of a triple threat, get to the basket, you'll score every time. They don't have very good help side defense. He did it the first time and it worked. And he ran back down the court and he looked over at me with this smile. It reminded me of when he was six years old and he first started playing basketball and the joy that you would feel when you would score. I still do it sometimes to this day. But he just looked at me and he smiled like, Dad, it worked. Said, Yeah, of course it did. Now you have the recipe. You know what will work. So he came to the bench of the timeout. Now we were down 12-2 at the end of the first quarter. But he looked at me and he's tired. He's like, I know what I gotta do. I figured it out. I said, okay then. Why don't you just focus on that? Now I fast forward to it. This probably could be a whole nother podcast, but we ended up losing the game. And I told him, Do you see now you lost the game, but really you won the game on the inside? The reason why I'm saying this to you all, because I don't want you to think that manifestation on the outside is gonna be something that you always win. Well, DG's giving me all the clues and he's giving me all the hints, and now I can fit- No, no, no, no, no. Sometimes you gotta lose on the outside. Sometimes you gotta lose on the outside. Sometimes things ain't gonna go the way that you had planned, the way you had scripted, the way you sometimes it has to be that way. Because if it were this way, you might not grow anymore. You might become, well, as my mom would say, don't rest on your laurels. And this universe says he has so much more inside of him. I need him to take this loss right now, but I need him to feel the success of what worked because that's gonna give him enough motivation to keep going. So when we were on the way home from the game, my son goes, I told him, I said, Look, I'm gonna give you two days off, and we're right back to it. You got two days to do whatever you want. Go ahead and be a kid, go ahead and have fun. You want to stay up. He had a sleepover. Lord have mercy, he had a sleepover. My bedtime's 9.30. Kids went to bed about 12:30. Now, so for some of y'all, that's not late. Because I remember when I was a kid, I would stay, we'd stay up till three or four in the morning. I was zompy for the next three days. I said, Look, this is what I told him he could have. He said he'd have a I told him you have a sleepover, be a kid. So anyway, we're riding home and he goes, Yeah, but why? I can understand when we get in the gym and we do all this when like something's wrong and I gotta fix something. Why do we have to do it even when things were good? Let me go ahead and tie this podcast up for you so you can get out and get on your way. I told him, I said, there's data days and there's maintenance days. The data days are when you took that L and things didn't work. You didn't, you don't know you quote unquote failed. That was for you to extract the data to see what you needed to do so you could grow. The maintenance days is you living in the vibration. It's living in the frequency of the future you and you are doing these CDAs, these consistent daily actions as the version of you who's already created it. So you are being the version of you. I said, those days stack up, brother. Those days stack up. So I'm teaching you right now, when things are going good, don't you change nothing. Keep on doing it. When something doesn't work, you go to the drawing board and figure out what do I need to change? And now here's what ends up happening: you start stacking those days, meaning you start to create a bank account of excess energy because now you are rolling in the vibration of the version of you, and that vibration starts to create momentum. And momentum is what will bring this into physical reality. So I told him, I said, son, we're gonna keep stacking these days. You keep doing what you need to do, even when you don't need to do it. Just keep doing it. I say, you may not get it back for another 10 years, but one day, I promise you, Lord have mercy, I promise you, one day, we're gonna be sitting there looking at each other. We may be on a beach in Turks and Caicos, but we're gonna be somewhere, and I'm gonna be looking at you and I'm gonna say, Now do you see why I had you do it even when you didn't need to do it? This was you being it. So for everybody out here, give yourself permission to be all of it. Even when it doesn't look like it's working, give yourself permission to be it. Even when it doesn't look like it's gonna happen, give yourself permission to be it. This is what manifestation is. I want to change and dispel this 3D world's ideal of manifestation. Manifestation ain't got nothing to do with the three-dimensional reality. It's about the fifth-dimensional reality. Manifestation cannot be seen nor touched or felt on the outside. It is happening internally. And when you start to think of manifesting as the internal reality, you will always create what it is you were looking for on the physical. So I got a program that I started last year called Coaching for Coaches, where I took 11 individuals on a year-long journey. And here's why I did it. I wanted to take this information to teach people how to teach people. So this journey, this coaching for coach, it was amazing. We met every week. We only missed one week. I gave him one week off. 51 weeks we met every single Wednesday at 1 p.m. I've never seen so much growth, not only in myself, but everybody else who was a part of it. I'm doing it again. I'm creating it again. Now, this is for people who are really serious. I'm not discounting that you're not serious, but this is for people who are like committed. There's an there's there's this is a full-time commitment. But I'm calling it now instead of coaching for coaches, I wanted to open it up to everybody who's a leader, whether you're a founder, a business owner, a coach, uh, an entrepreneur, it doesn't matter what you are. You could be the CEO of your life. It does not matter. And I'm calling this the embodied leadership collective. And here's the deal, you ready? I'm gonna tell you something right now. I'm gonna tell you. I haven't released it yet to the public, so you're hearing about it right now, but I'm only gonna, I'm you have to apply for it because I'm only gonna allow 20 people in it. I told myself, I said, when I was creating this, I said, I want to teach on a deeper level. I want to teach people who are at a point in their life how to go from six to seven figures, seven to eight, how to how to build their business or whatever it is on the outside, how to do it from the inside first. Six months. Six months, super intensive. And I said at the end of it, I want to take them on a retreat. I want to take them on a retreat. And this isn't a retreat where I'm gonna teach you. See, when you start to see this come out, the logo of the ELC is an I. And it's not just any eye, it's a Jaguar's eye. It's a Jaguar's eye. Now, any of y'all listen to this podcast, you know me and the Golden Jaguar are one and the same. And I said, I want to take this group down to Brazil. I want to take them to the Pantanal. I want to take them to the Pantanal. I'm not coming with that, this isn't like a regular retreat where I'm gonna just teach you. No, no, no. We're gonna share space and time and we're gonna see the thing that this whole thing was built around. And we're gonna go into the wild and see these jaguars. So I've been sitting here visualizing and writing it out and creating it. And you know, when you create something, it comes, it just flows. This is the one you know it's aligned. And all of a sudden, I get a DM from this Instagram page called the Pantanal Official. It's the official official page of the Pantanal. The Pantanal is nothing more than a uh a rainforest down in in Brazil. And I sent them a message and I said, Hey. I told them, I said, I would love to see the Jaguars one day in person. And they said, Well, how about this? Why don't we work on a partnership? I said, Good God, I want this all I needed right now. We're gonna take these individuals down to Brazil and we're gonna see these Jaguars. We're gonna go down there and see these Jaguars live. And then everything that you have been taught, you will then become the thing that you have been you've been learning about for these six months. So uh I'm just putting that out there right now. I'm gonna release it here in March, probably about two or three weeks. But I wanted to put it out there and let you know for all my founders, entrepreneurs, anybody who's willing to go on this journey, um, we're starting here. Start date is April 1, but I'm gonna put it out here soon, though. But as always, you know the deal. I'm gonna see you at the top. You keep going, keep doing what you do, like you do it, like you do it for TV. And I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.