The Pathway To Your Results
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The Pathway To Your Results
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Our darkest moments often become our greatest testimonies when we recognize them as catalysts for growth rather than punishment or setbacks.
• Comparing life struggles to contractions during childbirth—when they intensify, breakthrough is imminent
• The importance of consistency over intensity in creating lasting change
• How our biggest challenges are often divine preparation for our greatest opportunities
• Breaking free from society's "realistic" boxes to embrace our true potential
• The danger of showing up more consistently for others than for ourselves
• Why your future self is watching your decisions today
• Learning to parent and live from inspiration rather than fear
• The invisible work behind visible success—those daily actions nobody witnesses
• Finding strength in spirituality during our lowest moments
• Recognizing that darkness always comes before light in the natural order
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Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to your Results podcast Bro style framework with recorded masterclasses, live eight-week coaching courses that I personally teach and live Q&A coaching calls with me, plus a community that is built for growth. We're going to talk about entrepreneurship, money, healing, performance, mindset, growth everything that life entails. The first semester begins November 3rd, but you can start right now. Join today at dgmindsetcom. That's dgmindsetcom, and I will see you inside. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway Results Podcast. It is your brethren. Derek Grant, dg. Oh goodness, you know I've been waiting to do this episode. I've been waiting. I'm recording this right now. I've been waiting.
Speaker 1:You know I like to share my life experiences with you all. I get feedback here and there. People tell me they love hearing stories about my family and look, really, at the end of the day, I don't know. This was never the plan, this was never the goal. I just wanted to help myself and help people. So I don't mind sharing my life because I don't really believe in pedestals or like it's so funny.
Speaker 1:My dad was at home. They live in North Carolina. My dad volunteers in his church and they got a new pastor. They got a young pastor. The pastor was like well, your son, I saw your son on Instagram, your son's famous. I'm like, because I got. Wait, what does that mean? Wait what? My dad doesn't understand social media. Really. He's going to listen to this podcast. Matter of fact, my dad thinks my podcast is what I post on Instagram. That just tells you where you're at right now. But, father, this is the podcast if you listen to this.
Speaker 1:But anyway, I always share in hopes that there will be some relatability because, I believe it or not, I put my underwear on just like everybody else, although I ain't going to lie. I flew last week. It was supposed to be a day trip and Carly always gets on me. She said did you pack enough underwear? I'm like, yes, I packed enough underwear. Yes, well, that day I didn't pack enough underwear because the flight got delayed and I didn't get home. I was supposed to be there one day and I was there two days. As soon as I walked in that door, she goes see, that's why I always tell you to pack enough underwear. So I do put my underwear on like everybody else, but sometimes I ain't got enough underwear.
Speaker 1:But my point of this is I love sharing my existence with you, because my existence is a metaphor for your existence. So everything that I go through you probably go through. It looks different on the surface. I've learned this with people I work with. It doesn't matter if you're an NBA all-star, it doesn't matter if you play soccer, it doesn't matter if you're a stay-at-home mom. I've learned and seen, just because I get to see behind people's curtains, we all got the same issues. We all got the same problems. All got the same problems, all of us. The surface looks different, but it's still the same thing behind the surface I mean behind the curtain. So I enjoy sharing this with you. I got, of course, some things I got to share with you today, but today, like this episode I wanted to talk to you about, like Everybody goes through something, all of us.
Speaker 1:And when I say we go through something, that's relative. I may look at your life and be like, well, shoot, that ain't nothing. You may look at my life and be like, wow, that's nothing compared to what I want. We all have something and this is where it's really important that we don't compare our lives to somebody else because we all have different size shoes. You hear me making up words. I said shoeses. We all have different size shoeses, meaning we all look at everybody else's race but not realizing our feet are different sizes. Some of y'all got orthotics, some of y'all got corns on your feet, some of you got blisters, some of y'all got bunions, but the reality of it is is we got to run our own race. But here's why I'm saying this.
Speaker 1:I'm at a point of reflection right now. I told you all last ceremonies, you know integration is the key, right? So I'm really reflecting and looking at everything and I started to look back. Good God, almighty, y'all stay with me, because it's about to be. I'm looking at my life today and I'm not looking at.
Speaker 1:When I say I'm looking at my life, life to me is on the inside. Life is not on the outside, life is on the inside. So when I say life, I'm talking about the inside and I'm just looking at where my life is today internally. And I'm just looking at where my life is today internally and how I process things, how I perceive things, my awareness, how I feel, the quality of life when life gets to life and my ability to not sink down and go into this lower state, like I used to, and say woe is me. And then I started to look back all those times when I was going through these quote unquote tough times, and now, from where I'm at the vantage point, where I'm at now, I can say that these were the best of times. Good God, almighty, these were the best things that ever happened.
Speaker 1:And I started to reflect and I was listening to this old playlist that I have and I titled it Gospel, because my mother, growing up, on Sundays, when we would come home from church and she would start cooking, she'd go ahead and turn on the big stereo in the house and she would turn on some Shirley Caesar. And I don't know if y'all know who Shirley Caesar is. Y'all, everybody got to know who Shirley Caesar was because Shirley Caesar was the meme Yams tomatoes, men, men. That's Shirley Caesar. Remember that happened a couple of years ago on social media. That's Shirley Caesar. That ain't the Shirley that I know, though. I know Shirley from way back when, right. So my mom used to always listen to it and her mother used to listen to it. So on Sundays, I knew what it was and I wasn't listening to the songs, but I would hear the songs. You hear what I'm saying? I wasn't listening, but I was hearing it. It was picking up in my subconscious, it was getting in my spirit and then, when life started lifing, I developed a playlist back in 2019 and I labeled it gospel. I labeled it gospel and here's the reason why I'm saying this Because I used to watch my mother in the kitchen when she would be cooking and she would be singing the hymnals and she would be singing the Shirley Caesar and I used to watch her.
Speaker 1:She'd have tears coming down her face and I'd be like, why are you crying? What's wrong? And she said, baby, there ain't nothing wrong. There ain't nothing wrong. This is just the spirit right now. That's all this is. I'm not crying because I'm sad. I'm crying because I'm grateful, because I'm thankful, I'm overwhelmed and all of this was just coming out through the music.
Speaker 1:So when I started to go through my stuff, I'm in the lowest of the low back in 2018, 2019. I'm realizing what's happening. I got no money, my credit's ruined, my family's looking at me, how are we going to do this? I'm literally caught up in an energetic web with an energetic vampire and I'm asking myself what am I going to do? How am I going to do this? I feel so low about myself and I used to go down to this clubhouse in this neighborhood, right, and this clubhouse had a weight room and I would go down there and I would listen to gospel music. Clubhouse had a weight room and I would go down there and I would listen to gospel music. I would listen to all these same songs that my mother would listen to when I would grow up. Well, the other day I don't know what led me to this, but I was sitting in the garage. I had just got done working out Something had me look at this playlist.
Speaker 1:I saved this playlist. I don't even know why I saved the playlist. I still got it. It's from six years ago, I don't really. I mean, I listened to it here and there, but not really. And I started to listen to those songs.
Speaker 1:Now, how many times do you ever do this? You ever hear a song and it instantly takes you back to that moment. You remember where you were. It could be your high school sweetheart, it could be the one who broke your heart. When you listen to that song, you energetically go back to that state Good God, almighty. And I know that this was the medicine that was working through me. But I played a song and I'm listening to the words of it and I remember when I used to listen to this. I remember when I would sit on my back porch and I would just be crying. I'd be down on the knees, I'd have to wear knee pads, I'd be down on my knees so much praying Somebody, please come save me. God, please, please, please, please. Never once being accountable for myself, never once picking myself up saying, well, you got to change, boy, you don't want to put yourself in a position? What you going to do about it? But I'm sitting here listening to the song today, present day, 2025. And I start getting overwhelmed because I got to witness the old energy, the old mindset, the old perspective from this vantage point now.
Speaker 1:Now, we used to go to church back in the day. Anybody ever been to AME churches or Southern Baptist churches you may have been to a black church. You can get up on a mic. You can get up on a mic and start giving your testimony and sometimes the testimony. Some people get up there and they think they were supposed to tell their whole life stories like nah, brother Jones, you need to come on and sit down. We ain't got all day now the pastor's going to give a sermon. You ain't going to stay up here for 25 minutes talking about how you couldn't see because you got olive oil in your eye when you was cooking and now you can see in the Lord. We ain't going to do all that. So, anyway, I'm sitting here listening to this song and I'm like, oh, my goodness, you listen to this song and you remember when you was going through the test. But now here you are on the other side of it and that test was actually just your testimony. Good God, almighty, y'all stay with me. You stay with me. Right now you are going through a test, but we know we can't spell the word testimony without having the word test in it.
Speaker 1:So the reason why I'm saying this is because that darkness, that hardship, that struggle, that setback, that adversity, that grief, that heartbreak, that death, all of that must come first. It has to come first because the natural mechanism of this universe is dark and then light. Why do you think, if you look at the Bible and I'm not going to get into the religious side of it. But if you look at it, the Bible wouldn't first say God said let there be light. Well, in order for there to be light, there must have been dark first, right, if God said, well, let there be dark, that meant light was there first. So darkness, struggle, adversity, setback, triggers all of these things are the universe's mechanism to ensure that growth takes place. So that's what comes first. So, before you start cursing, why is my life like this, why is it? You should start rejoicing and start clapping oh shit, I'm in darkness right now. I'm in the test. I know that this test is eventually going to be my testimony. So now, here I am, in 2025.
Speaker 1:I'm telling you right now, real time. I can tell you that all that stuff that happened was the best thing that ever happened to me. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. You see what I'm saying. You hear? Do you hear what I'm saying right now? It was the best thing. I was not always saying that.
Speaker 1:In life, though, we don't realize that everything that comes to us in our existence was divinely orchestrated for us, everything that you think is setting you back is really just setting you up. I'm here to tell you, I see it happen with clients. Damn, I was at this point. And then this yeah, of course, this is the natural flow of the universe. You gonna have to have the hardship, because guess what the hardship does? It spurs change. Come on now. You ain't gonna get in that weight room Until you think that you're weak. But how'd you have to think that you was weak? Somebody had to push over and push you over and bully you, and all this that spurred change in you. You wasn't gonna start to get a grip on them finances Until you lost everything. You weren't going to start to pay off that credit card debt until you was wondering how you was going to make them ends meet. You see, it spurs change.
Speaker 1:So the reason why I'm saying this Please know that the bad comes before the good, the test comes before the testimony, the down comes before the up. The tail comes before the head, eventually. I think my mama used to say I forgot how she said exactly. She said eventually, the Lord gonna make it all right. Make it all right. Don't clean up everything, don't you know that the chaos came before the order. Good God, almighty, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying Matter of fact. I'm about to get off this right now, because I know you ain't trying to hear nothing, because I know what you're going to do. You're going to get off this podcast and you're going to go right back in. Well, I'm going through some hard stuff.
Speaker 1:Instead of you saying that, why don't you look yourself in the mirror? Huh, you know we just paying the cost right now to be the boss. You know that, right, I'm looking at my lampshade right now. I still record my podcast the same way I did when I started, when nobody was listening. I'm sitting here looking at my lampshade right now and I don't know when I wrote it. I should have dated. Shame on me, I should have did it. It says you have paid the cost to be the boss.
Speaker 1:All of us, at some point, will become the boss of our own lives. We become the boss of our own reality. But you know that there is a tuition that you must pay. There is a cost that is going to have to be inquired. There is a transaction that the universe said I'm going to give you everything that you desire, but you better believe you're going to have to become something that I desire, because I want to experience this physical existence from a new perspective.
Speaker 1:Through you, I want to see what it's like being a Joanne. I want to see what it's like being a Michael, and I don't want to be the same Michael that you were last year. I want to be the new Michael. So, in order to make the new Michael, I'm going to put you through some bullsh. Matter of fact, I'm going to let you walk in on her, I'm going to let her, I'm going to let you, I'm going to let you catch her. Why? Because I know that's going to sting and that's going to hurt in a way that will spur you to make change and take action.
Speaker 1:And now here's what we're going to do when we become accountable, we ain't going to be looking at these triggers as these things that are bad. We're going to look at these triggers as the catalyst for us to move towards our testimony. We're going to be looking at these triggers as these things that are bad. We're going to look at these triggers as the catalyst For us to move towards our testimony. We're going to start using these, realizing that these triggers were really Just showing us the parts of us that we didn't want to look at.
Speaker 1:Remember, I told you in the last episode, when Jesus was asking me these questions, I wanted to put him in a headlock. Remember, I was asking that and every time he would ask me the question it triggered me. But then when I got in ceremony, when I got in the medicine, the medicine was showing me the wound that was underneath, that was being triggered by Jesus. By the time I left. I didn't want to be able to put him in a headlock. I want to give him a hug. Do you see how this works? So for all of us, you're going through something, we all going through something.
Speaker 1:My mom used to always tell me mom, I know you're going to hear this, I know you're going to listen to it. You might be about six, seven weeks late, but you're going to listen to it and you're going to call me up and say I know you would listen to everything that I was saying, but I didn't think you were listening. My mom used to always tell me. She said you either in a storm, you're going through a storm, or you're coming out of a storm. It's one of the three things, so ask yourself which one am I in right now? Which one am I in? And here's the deal. You're going to be in different parts, in different parts of your life. So maybe you get rained on like a mother in your relationship. Maybe, as a parent, you just came out of the storm but know that the storm Is just meant to clean and wash you off Because you had some dirty stuff on the side.
Speaker 1:Boy, you was dirty. Stop playing in that mud. You got that dirt all over you. That dirt was the distorted perspective that you had adopted and made your own. Good God, almighty, I'm going to stop saying I'm going to get off, I'm just going to cut it off. I ain't going to say it. And I'm going to stop saying I'm going to get off, I'm just going to cut it off. That's what I'm going to do. I'm just going to cut it off. I ain't going to say to him I'm just going to go stop it, because I know you ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying right now you have taken somebody else's mud, somebody else's dirt, somebody else's perspective, somebody else's self-concept, somebody else. So ugly, I'm not good enough. It ain't that you believe in somebody else's beliefs that they have projected onto you. You ain't got to do that anymore.
Speaker 1:So I had to talk with my son. I took him to training the other day. I was telling him, I said the key, the key, the key to life is what he says consistency. Dad, I said no, it isn't consistency, it's balance. The key to life is balance. The key to life is balance. The key to success is consistency.
Speaker 1:He said, oh, I said now, anyways, with what I was saying consistency is the portal to your power. Consistency is the portal to your power. See, here's the deal. And I was telling him. I said a lot of people. You're at an age right now where everybody cares about rankings and followers and what it looks like. I said don't get caught up in all that. Don't get caught up in all that. Why don't you do this? Why don't you just show up every single day for yourself? Because most people are going to get caught up in intensity.
Speaker 1:I said in this household, we just focus on consistency. I said so he knows everything that's happening. He's 13 years old. I tell him everything. I want to make sure that my life is an open book. I want my son, my children, my wife, my daughter. I want them to be able to see, as I'm doing with you, to see and use my life as inspiration, not as motivation. So I need you to see all this. I was telling him everything we went through when he was five and six years old. He would remember certain things. Oh, that's why we went over to Meemaw and Pat Balls and had to live with them for a little bit. That's why I say yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So, anyway, I was telling him.
Speaker 1:I said you know a lot. A lot of people chase the high. A lot of people want the testimony, a lot of people want the sunshine, but very few people can go into the dark. Very few people can be consistent, even when it doesn't look like it's happening. A lot of us, we've been programmed to chase intensity instead of following consistency. But please realize.
Speaker 1:I looked at him and said you know, your greatness is going to be built on repetition. Your greatness is going to be built on repetition. Your greatness is going to be built on repetition. I said what does it mean to be great? He says to be and do everything that you know you're capable of being. I said now you're talking to your boy. I said you know what it means to be lazy. He goes, well. I mean. I said no, you don't. I'm gonna give you the definition. Write this down, please. I said here's what it means to be lazy If greatness is being and doing everything that I know I'm capable of, laziness is the opposite of that. Laziness is not doing everything that I know I'm capable of doing and being.
Speaker 1:So he was in a workout and I was watching him and I'm not coaching now, I'm dad now so he was working out and I was watching him play defense. I said why are you taking a break? We got in the car, so why are you taking a break? He looked like you were taking a break on defense. I said well, I mean, I said okay, cool, fence. He said well, I mean, I said okay, cool. I said were you tired? He goes, yeah. I said yeah, probably were tired. I'm not going to doubt that.
Speaker 1:But do you know, if you would have applied yourself just a little bit more when you were tired, you would have gotten better, you'd become more confident. See, in order to do that, you'd have to be resilient. You'd have to be persistent, you'd have to be disciplined. I told him. I said it's not about the ups and downs. It's how level can I fly and how consistently can I do that? It's the reason why I'm saying this for everybody here.
Speaker 1:I told you I was sitting there listening to this song. It just spoke to my soul. It spoke to me on levels I hadn't realized. It's not the big moments, it's not what the world sees, it's not when the tree sprouts. It's the consistency of showing up every day and watering that motherfucking seed. Water it, just water it, just water it. Water it, yeah, but I don't see it Water it. Who cares? Water it, yeah, but the meditation, it doesn't matter, do it. It doesn't matter. Yeah, but journaling, it doesn't matter, just do it, do it.
Speaker 1:Show up for yourself, say I'm going to do something, I'm going to be consistent, I'm going to do it for myself. Because here's what happens Greatness, everything is always built with small actions, small, consistent actions, small consistent actions, small consistent actions. I started to realize. I told him this, I said you do realize that discipline is going to be the love language of this future. You, the future, you loves discipline, it loves consistency. This goes for everybody.
Speaker 1:So I'm telling you right now the world may see me on social media and see this and see that. But I'm going to tell you exactly what I did. I'm going to tell you exactly what I did. And I didn't know this I had. No, I have had this in my whole life. I get this from my mother. My mother and my father are super consistent, super consistent, persistency and consistency, persistence, persistency and consistency. Persistency kills failure. I mean, even when it didn't work, doesn't matter, I'm still keep going.
Speaker 1:Consistency is showing you, showing up every day, yeah, but what if it's not? Doesn't matter. Why are we asking all these questions? Just show up. And it's not about the end result, it's not about the end destination, it's not about the physical thing that you manifest or creating a reality. It's about the version of you who you are creating by consistently showing up. And here's the deal If you can, okay, I'm going to go ahead and say something. I'm going to go ahead and say something. I'm going to go ahead and say something If I trigger you, I'm just, I'm doing it from a place of love.
Speaker 1:Some of us, we'd be more consistent showing up for a job, working for somebody else. Then we will be consistent showing up for ourselves. Good God, oh my, now I know what you're thinking. I know what you're thinking right now. He needs to go ahead and get off because I don't want to hear anything he's saying right now. You about to run me out of town. Right now. Some of us will be more consistent to somebody else than we will be to ourselves. No, I'm stopping, I'm not saying anything, so I can let this marinate for a little bit. Some of us will be more consistent building somebody else's dream than we will for ourselves. Some of us will be more consistent with dimming our light and being a fraction of who we are truly capable of, just so we can make someone else happy.
Speaker 1:So I told my son the other day. I said listen, he was talking about some kids. He's like man, these kids are like. These kids are like delusional. They think they're better than what they are. I said, listen, first of all, number one, stop worrying about somebody else's race. I said, number two, you need to be delusional. You need to be delusional because every time that you try to be normal, shout out Tommy Short. He told me this client of mine, he was telling me about this when you are normal, do you not know that you were just putting yourself in a box? And every time that you put yourself in a box. That box is going to come with limitations. Delusion allows you to get outside the box. A lot of people probably thought Wilbur and Orville Wright were crazy. A lot of people probably thought they were nuts, these motherfuckers going over here.
Speaker 1:You're going to make a plane. You're going to make a plane and you make bikes. What are you talking about? Say what You're going to do, what You're going to get on there and do this and talk about this when you a basketball trainer, you a basketball coach. What are you talking about? See, a lot of people are going to try, they're going to try to put you in a box and some of us are more consistent to make sure that we uphold that box than we are consistent in making sure that we break the box.
Speaker 1:So my point of this is your future self is watching you right now. Just to let you know, go and take that deep breath. Go and let your nervous system breathe right now. Somebody's watching you. Somebody's watching you. Know who it is you.
Speaker 1:You, in 10 years, looking at you saying what in the world are you doing? What in the world are you doing? You know, good and well, you still over here trying to please them. Stop trying to please them. Stop trying to please them. They don't love themselves enough and you over here need you to please. Stop trying to please them, because every time that you please See, I got my teeth gritted up Every time that you please them, you are betraying yourself. You could reach your greatness. You know you could do more, but you won't do it because it won't fit inside of their box.
Speaker 1:So I told my son, I said you got to be delusional. You have to be. You have to see yourself as so much more capable, so much more than what you are. This is the only way you're going to get there. This is the only way you're going to get there. Stop trying to be normal. Stop trying to be.
Speaker 1:Look, you want to grind Derek's gears. Start to use the word realistic. Go ahead and use it. Well, that's not realistic, boy. If you don't get out of my face with that bullshit, if you don't stop talking how they used to say back in the day old jive, turkey, talking. If you don't stop talking like that, I don't stop talking that how they used to say back in the day old jive, turkey, talking. You don't stop talking like that. I don't want to hear nothing about something being realistic. If you do say something's realistic, you better be using it in the past tense, because you've already done it. Everything is possible. But if you over here saying something's realistic, you just put yourself in a box.
Speaker 1:So I asked him, I asked my son, because I like to have these sessions, I like to use my children to just dream, right. I said you ever see yourself? You ever see yourself as like what it'd be like being an NBA all-star? He goes yeah, all the time I go dang. I'm like what would that be like? He's like it's no big deal really. I said you don't think it's hard to get to the NBA, get to the highest level? He goes no, I'm looking at him. I'm like what? He goes, yeah. Kids look at me all the time in school. They're like yeah, but what's your plan B? He's like there ain't no plan B, what are you talking about? And I'm sitting here looking at this kid. I'm like huh, teach me, show me how you do this with this child mind. My adult mind is like yeah, but you got to do that. So here's my point if you don't do this and you don't do that, then this won't happen. I'm over here with fear.
Speaker 1:So then I picked him up from school the next day and I told him. I said, hey, look, I just want to tell you something. He got in the car and he's like what I was like? I just want to tell you I'm sorry and I apologize. He kind of like got this smirk on my on his face, like, yeah, I got dad. He did. I don't know what he's going to say, but I got him, though, and I said, look, I just want to tell you I'm sorry. Here's why I'm sorry.
Speaker 1:Everything that I was saying to you was 100% accurate. It was the energy behind it. I realized it was fear-based, and he's like I was wondering why. It's almost like you were more scared than I was and I'm like, okay, easy, easy, okay, you got it Easy. But I said you're right, I had some things underneath that were unconscious to me, that were then being triggered, and now fear was the thing that drove it.
Speaker 1:So when I was having a conversation with you about you not playing defense, it's not the defense For sure, you need to play defense, but the energy behind it is what. I'm apologizing, because I never want to parent you from a place of fear. I came home and told Carly and I'm like she's like you realize what you did. And I'm like, yeah, I told her. I'm sorry she goes. No, you're teaching our child how to be accountable and how to apologize by you doing it. I'm like, oh well, I don't know if that was the intention my goal was to really I have the awareness to know I like I got to do better. If I'm going to ask him to do better or ask my daughter like hey, when you know better, you got to do better, like I have to, then do it. I have to walk in it. But my point of this is for everybody, for you.
Speaker 1:There's going to be a point in time in your life where you're going to wonder how, you're going to wonder how am I going to do this? How am I going to get there? How is this going to work? How am I going to get out of debt? How am I going to pay these bills? How am I going to make this marriage work? How am I going to walk away? How am I going to pay these bills? How am I going to make this marriage work? How am I going to walk away? How am I going to lose this weight? How am I going to get healthy? How am I going to get whole? You're going to ask these questions how, at some point they're going to come.
Speaker 1:The beauty of this universe is that you didn't have to worry about that part. Beauty of this universe is that you didn't have to worry about that part, because every time you try to figure out how you're being realistic and when you're being realistic, you're putting yourself in a box. And when you put yourself in a box, you're shrinking. You're shrinking. But I'm here to tell you this I done been to the other side many a time. No soul came here to shrink, no spirit incarnated to have a contractive experience. We came here to express, to expand. But please understand that there's a yin and a yang, a masculine, a feminine, an inhale and an exhale, a contraction and expansion. When you have the contraction, please know that the baby is on its way.
Speaker 1:For all my mothers out there who've given birth and you could feel them contractions, you know that sweet, precious baby that had just spirit was incarnating and you know it's on its way. You know it's on its way, them birthing pains and I don't know. I never had a child in this experience in this life and with both kids. Carly got an epidural, so I don't know, I didn't get to experience it through her but from what I've heard and what I've seen, is when we feel those contractions, and those contractions get harder and they get closer, the baby's almost here. So the reason why I'm saying this to you, just like when that baby's in that birthing canal, you're in that hospital and you know this child is on its way and those nurses tell you to just breathe, breathe, breathe, push, breathe. Nurses tell you to just breathe, breathe, breathe, push, breathe, push, breathe, push. I'm telling you right now, I'm speaking over your soul right now. This is all. I didn't have a baby, but I had a baby. There was no fetus that came out of my uterus, because I ain't even got a uterus, but there was something that was birthed and I'm telling you why and I'm telling you how this cycle repeats itself.
Speaker 1:The test is the contractions. It's letting you know that the baby's on the way, but you got to breathe and you got to push, you got to push. Don't give up now. Don't give up now, don't stop now. If it's hardest, if it's darkest, that is when you are almost there, the baby is about to crown, you're about to see the skull and all you need to do is see that skull. When you see the top of that head, you know that we almost there now and that's going to give you enough energy to keep going. Just keep pushing.
Speaker 1:But the reason why I'm saying this is, please know that you're going to get there. You're going to get there, but it's going to be through you being consistent with yourself. It's going to be with you having those invisible reps. When I say invisible reps, it's you showing up for yourself every day and nobody even saw it, nobody even knows. People don't have no idea. They see you outside with a smile and you go back home and you cry yourself to sleep. I've been there. I've done that.
Speaker 1:When you worry about how you're going to make ends meet, you wonder if nobody's believing in you. People can't see your vision. They tell you to be realistic. Why are you doing it? I'm just telling you right now for the sake of your soul and this incarnation, show up, be consistent with yourself, because the test was really just a precursor to your testimony. And then you ready, you ready, you ready, you ready, you ready, you ready, you ready. Your testimony will be the beacon of light for those coming after you and that, my friends, is what we call legacy. That, my friends, is what we'll live on. They're going to look back on you and say, dang, you remember when she lost everything? Remember? Remember when they got a divorce and they split up? She struggled for a little bit, but look at her now. We see this all the time. We see this all the time on social media. What's the guy's name? School of hard knocks, when he goes and interviews millionaires. Have you been broke before? Yeah, of course. That test is always going to come For a testimony, always Interviews millionaire. Have you been broke before? Yeah, of course. Yeah, yeah, I lost this, lost that. That test is always going to come for a testimony, always.
Speaker 1:I think everybody listening to this right now has. I think everybody's great. I know we all have greatness inside of us, but really greatness is defined once you make the commitment to yourself, for yourself, and say I'm going to do this. I'm going to do this not because of what I'll acquire or what I'll be able to create in the physical world, but I really want to see who I have to become along this journey. To do this. I'm going to fall in love with that and this is it.
Speaker 1:I was telling a group that I work with business coaches, coaching for coaches. I was telling them that people see social media and I realized that my Instagram page has become really like. I mean I get messages. People come to me and they're like, oh, I sit and watch your videos all day. I'm like, oh, it's kind of like coaching slash therapy, I guess you could say. But I've come to realize what the page is, what it's become, and I don't really show personal side of me and all that. But I was telling this group. I was saying, you know, everybody sees that, but what people don't see? People don't see.
Speaker 1:When I didn't know what I was doing and I didn't know how I was going to make ends meet, I was getting $300 something a week from unemployment and I was bringing home $1,200 a month and Carly was bringing home like $2,300 a month. You're looking at $3,500 a month. Right, that's how much for $3,500 a month we were bringing home. Now I'm going to tell you this $3,500, $3,500 take home is not bad, but that ain't going to work when you got $4,000 worth of bills. That's simple economics. You do the math Somebody, please. I ain't a rocket scientist, but I just know if I got more going out than I got coming in, eventually I'm going to start drowning. If there's more water in the boat than outside the boat, you in trouble. And I just didn't know what to do. And I was just so low.
Speaker 1:I ordered a laptop. I said, well, I I gotta wait a couple weeks Till unemployment come in. That used it up. Now, mind you, I ordered this laptop. It was an Apple. I ordered it off Amazon Refurbished. I don't know, has anybody ever ordered a refurbished MacBook off Amazon? Don't do it. Don't that computer had more viruses. I didn't even know. Don't do it. Don't that computer had more viruses than a. I didn't even know MacBooks could get viruses. I was like man, it wasn't going to work. But you know what I had to make it work? It's what I had to do. Went and downloaded software. I'm going to learn how to edit. I'm going to edit stuff.
Speaker 1:Went and bought a camera off Amazon. I was spending up all of it. When COVID happened, when they gave you the, we get stimulus checks or whatever it was Stimulus checks plus unemployment. Okay, I was just doing what I felt like I was supposed to. I'm like I don't know, I just want to make content. I'm going to make content. I ordered off Amazon.
Speaker 1:The last thing I ordered off Amazon was a backdrop. It's like this felt backdrop that was. You could pick all kinds of patterns and for some reason I don't know why, I don't know I thought this would be a good idea. I picked a brick backdrop so it looked like bricks on, like an alley. It looked like I was sitting in front of an alley. I was literally in an alley and I set the camera up.
Speaker 1:And I set this camera up and I would just sit there and I called it ask and answer. That's what I called it Ask and answer. This was pre-AI everybody, so I couldn't develop questions, I couldn't have chat GPT come up with questions. I would just start talking to the camera as if I was answering questions from coaches at the college level, and it was around mindset, it was around development. And here's why I'm telling you this, because the world never saw this. Maybe I'll do this, maybe I'll put this out there publicly at some point.
Speaker 1:But it was just me and my dog Boone, just me and him, and I put him in his cage and the cage was right behind the camera and I don't know what happened. He was scratching or something in the cage and the cage started rattling. You could see me on camera like stop and look behind and see what's going on. I'm like dang you over here, messing up you over here, being loud on the set. But here's my point Never got recognition for it, never became quote-unquote, famous for it, never got views, never got followers. Didn't make a dime. But here's what I did do. I gave myself permission to just show up, just show up.
Speaker 1:And the other day, when Carly she calls me up, just show up. And the other day, when Carly she calls me up and she was working with her coach and my coach, sweet Maria Frijal Frijal dang, I don't know. Sorry, maria, if I didn't say it right. I apologize. You know me in names, but she was talking to Maria and Maria was helping her. She had some old wounds coming up because we're about to move now into a new home and she was talking to Maria and Maria was helping her. She had some old wounds coming up because we're about to move now into a new home and she was going through some stuff.
Speaker 1:Carly called me up and she said I remember when I would come home from work and you would have that old, rusty backdrop up and you'd be sitting in front of that. She said everybody sees now what it looks like, but nobody saw this. Nobody saw this. Nobody got to see this part when you were wondering, like, how am I going to do this? What am I going to do? I don't know if it's working.
Speaker 1:As a man, as the quote unquote provider of the house, you didn't have time to be playing games. I didn't have time. She said you still showed up for yourself. You still did it every day. I said, yeah, this is one of my core qualities I guess I'm proud of. I said, yeah, this is one of my core qualities I guess I'm proud of. I live by the old adage shop wouldn't carry water, just show up. We're just going to show up. I don't care. I'm teaching my children this Just show up. I don't care if you win, I don't care if you lose, I don't care if it worked, I don't care if it didn't. Just show up, show up, up, just show up for yourself.
Speaker 1:She's crying on the phone. I could hear her and I started getting emotional. Then I said I wouldn't be able to show up if you didn't show up. So, really, what you're telling me is I was just a mirror of you and you were a mirror of me and I told her. I said this is why I know we were supposed to do this in this life, as I know, I said. I told her last night. I said we were going to find each other the way we want to or not. You was out here. You was out here shucking and jiving. I was out here shucking and jiving. We still found each other. I never would have thought I'd be out here, but I love it because I love you.
Speaker 1:So the reason why I'm saying this it doesn't matter what it is. It ain't going to look pretty at the beginning. The test never looks like it's going to work. It never looks like it's going to. It don't never look like. I'm telling you, it don't never look like. You ain't getting any playing time. You ain't getting the contract that you wanted. The relationship doesn't look the way you want. The business isn't where you think it should be. You didn't get as many people to sign up. You ain't getting the views that you want.
Speaker 1:I'm here to tell you that that's a part of it. This is actually the way it starts out it never looked like you were pregnant, but then, all of a sudden, it looked like you were pregnant. Do you see, just because it don't look like you got a baby bump, it doesn't mean that wasn't no bun in that oven. Nine months later, when you over here pushing, you've no fulling out, then there was a baby in there that whole time. Yes, yes, because everything always starts off small, always Just like your dreams. But you got to give yourself permission to dream, and it can't be me giving you permission. You give yourself permission Because here's the deal Ready.
Speaker 1:Your dreams come from inspiration, because eventually you know what's going to happen. The motivation is going to fade. You're going to have the dream house, you're going to have the dream car. You're going to have the dream house. You're going to have the dream car. You're going to have the dream amount in your bank account. You're going to get it all. It's going to happen. You're going to make it. Trust me, you will get there. And then it's going to be like well, now what? That's why it's always been about you creating a new version of yourself, because creation and the habits that come with that will always remain and the habits that come with that will always remain.
Speaker 1:So I just want to speak life over you today and encourage you, to tell you to keep going. You're going to make it. You're going to make it. I know those bills are stacking up. There's some things that you got to deal with and you have to be accountable. You got to change some things, but I'm willing to tell you, if you can be consistent and show up with that, you will make it. You will get to where you're going.
Speaker 1:I'm a living testament. Are you hearing me? I'm a testament. You hear me, testament, testament. You hear the word testament. I am a living testament of it. The test going to come, you're going to be a living testament and you're going to share that testimony. And then here's what those children, those ones coming after you, they're going to look at you and say, wow, dang, mom is my hero, dad is my hero.
Speaker 1:I'm crying right now. I'm telling you this Because it just hit me in real time. I had to do something. I was telling Hudson something. I said let me get your phone real quick. I was trying to fix something on his phone and I opened up his phone and he had in his favorites. He had dad, and I clicked on it and right next to it it said my MVP.
Speaker 1:So there's a reason I'm telling you this right now we all need MVP in somebody's life and we may not even know it. I got a 13 year old son, a 10 year old daughter my son, my son's at the age where I'm like you ain't you really ain't trying to hear nothing? I'm saying you ain't you ain't hear nothing. I'm saying but I remember when I was 13 years old and my mom didn't think that I was hearing her, my mom didn't think that I was listening. I'm telling you right now, both mom and dad, my mama, you the MVP, you the MVP, ma, you would plant seeds, you would put things aside. I didn't even know you were doing, I didn't even know what you were doing. I thought you was this mean old lady wanting to just let me live. Just let me live, ma. So I'm saying this to you Keep going, you're doing all right, you're doing just fine.
Speaker 1:I know you question yourself sometimes as a parent, you question yourself as a business owner, you question yourself as an employee. You question yourself am I doing all right? Yeah, you're doing it. You're doing it, you're doing it. Keep showing up, keep trying to learn, keep trying to grow, keep your self-awareness, keep touching those places inside of you that you've been afraid of. And I'm telling you you are the MVP, you are doing it, you will make it. And guess who's going to be waiting for you? Your boy. I'm going to be sitting there waiting saying girl, I see you over there, I see you. Hey, my brother, I see you, keep going. I know the world ain't seen it yet, but I see it, I see you, keep going. And, as always, I wish you nothing but the best on the path to your results.