The Pathway To Your Results
Hosted by Derick “DG” Grant, this weekly show guides you through the powerful intersection of mindset, spirituality, and performance. DG unpacks how to break free from limiting beliefs, heal your inner child, and align energetically with your greatest vision. Through personal stories, practical exercises, and metaphysical insights, each episode offers you a clear path to unlocking your potential and living a life of true freedom, joy, and abundance.
The Pathway To Your Results
Why Growth Isn't A Straight Line
Real transformation is messy, painful, and rarely follows a linear path. Growth feels uncomfortable because it requires breaking through old limitations and embracing uncertainty as the doorway to your greatest potential.
• Growth is not a straight line or a staircase but resembles a squiggly, unpredictable path
• The ego craves certainty while real transformation thrives in uncertainty
• Emotional tolerance shapes the pace of your growth—your ability to handle discomfort determines how quickly you'll transform
• We're moving in spirals, not circles—each time you face similar challenges, you're approaching them from a higher perspective
• Momentum is built in silence—real growth happens when nobody is watching
• Setbacks and challenges aren't obstacles to growth but essential ingredients of it
• The breakdown always precedes the breakthrough—your old limitations must break for new growth to emerge
• Growth is a jungle gym, not a ladder—sometimes you have to move backward to ultimately move forward
• The most beautiful transformations often look messy in the middle—just like childbirth
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Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to your Results podcast. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results podcast. It's your boy, dg. We're here.
Speaker 1:I was excited to do this episode. I couldn't wait to do this. It's been a couple of weeks since I recorded. I think I found a nice cadence. I think every two weeks I'm going to record a podcast. That's probably the best way, because it gives me time to figure out more about this thing that we call life Funny story.
Speaker 1:I'm going to go off on a tangent real quick. I guess I don't really follow Taylor Swift. I obviously know who Taylor Swift is because of my wife. My wife was telling me about Taylor Swift and she was like yeah, she has a new album. I'm like I told you that when you were trying to score them $18,000 tickets. I told you back then she was just doing this so she could get people excited and then she was going to come out with another album. Anyway, she was telling me that Taylor Swift was coming out with a new album and she was going to do a podcast with Travis and all this stuff and she was going to. It was like this big grand opening or whatever. So she's sitting here telling me and she has all these theories of why, and I'm just sitting there listening.
Speaker 1:Now I'm doing all I can to listen because the reality of it is there's very low interest level when it comes to Taylor Swift and what she's doing. It's not that I don't like her. I love everything she's about. I just can't find enough interest to listen and hear about it. So, anyway, my wife's talking and she's telling me all about it. It's probably went on for about six solid minutes and I was just sitting there listening and I realized I said, oh, listen to you trying to figure out all of these things with Taylor Swift and what she's doing and why she's doing it and this album, what this means and what this song is about and what this lyric. I said this is the same stuff I do every single day with the universe. So I said Taylor Swift is like the universe for you.
Speaker 1:I'm over here trying to figure out why is it so hard to grow? Why does growth feel this way? How come this is this. So for all my Taylor Swift fans Swifties, sorry apologies, I get you on another level. I understand, but today, today, what I wanted to talk to you about good god, almighty, we're gonna go ahead and get started I want to talk to you about this thing that we call growth. See, we've come to uh, glamorize and spiritualize and make growth sound like it's this beautiful thing. Yes, yes, I'm a caterpillar becoming a butterfly. Get out of here. No, it's not. No, it's not. It sucks, it's ugly, it's painful. You're going to lose parts of yourself. Relationships crumble. That is not for the weak hearted. So I have to tell you this of really what growth looks like, truly, because a lot of people don't really understand what growth looks like and that's why we run from it.
Speaker 1:Okay, the number one myth we think that growth is a straight line. I go from A to B and then B to C. That ain't the way it works. I don't go from zero to 100,000, 100 to 2,000, 200 hundred thousand. No, you may go from zero to two hundred thousand, back down to forty thousand. When you start understanding that it's not a straight line, it's not a staircase, dash is like a squiggly, like if you were to give me a pen in my left hand and tell me to draw. No matter of fact, put it in my left foot and tell me to draw a picture and draw a line. That's what growth looks like.
Speaker 1:Here's the issue. We have this thing that we call in this human game, that we call the ego. The ego operates in certainty. The reason why it operates in certainty is because it's rooted in survival. So as long as I know what's coming, I can plan for what's coming. And if I can plan for what's coming, I'm safe. And I'm safe, I'm alive. So linear growth is predictable, real transformation, real growth it's unpredictable. So when you start to realize that the unpredictability of life, the uncertainty, is nothing more than a pocket, a cocoon, a womb for your growth, if you are in a process or in a point of life right now where you're wondering how, congratulations. If you're in a point of life and you're like well, when is it? Congratulations. You are in this incubator, this opportunity for growth.
Speaker 1:Now I was talking to actually, I'm going to tell you a story. I'm going to go ahead and do it. I told you on a five-mile run, it's almost like. I'm like am I experimenting with my son to have podcast episodes? I don't know what I'm doing. Anyway, I told you I took about a five-mile run right, so he's playing on this new AAU team. Now this was something that he manifested for his life. He said I want to play on a Nike. It's called the EYBL, the Elite Youth Basketball League. It's like the premier AAU league. He said I want to play in that. I said okay, well, the goal is to get there by high school. You do that and you get recruited, all that stuff. Okay, but they also have for seventh and eighth graders. So he's in seventh grade, no-transcript.
Speaker 1:I told him, I said you're going to have to start moving and acting and doing all of these things as if you were already on the EYBL circuit in high school. But I told him, I said here's the thing that's going to be uncomfortable You're going to have to do it when you're in sixth grade. You're going to have to do it before you ain't got a hair on your body. You're going to have to do it before you even hit puberty, meaning you're going to have to become something that you ain't never, ever been in this life. So I told him, I said look, if you do this, I promise you it'll happen. We got to get up early. I work team, he gets asked to play. So now he's playing on the top team in the state of indiana on this junior eybl team, right, great, fantastic. So I told him.
Speaker 1:I said here's the deal though there's going to be growth that takes place because the season doesn't start till june. You got asked for something in august to do in june. You got asked to prepare yourself over the next eight months, and the reason why I'm saying this for you is because some of us, we get good, god Almighty, I'm getting chill. Some of us we get to see what the future could hold, but it's not right now. It's for a couple months out, to give you time to prepare. And this is where the growth comes in. You have to understand that life is molding you and shaping you for each iteration and each change that takes place. But in order for you to do that, there has to be transformation. So I told him, I said, look, we're going to go to the gym. So we go to the gym and we working out right Now, my son and my daughter.
Speaker 1:I had a good upbringing, right. I didn't really I mean, I didn't really have to deal with adversity, I didn't have to worry about where the next meal was coming. Nothing like that, relatively speaking, right. So our goal is always to have to make our children's lives, or their lifestyle, better than ours, right, whatever that may look like. So you know I work hard, I make sure, I take pride in making sure that I can provide them a lifestyle that I can't have Now. I wish I could have got a new pair of shoes every day. Do I do that for my kids? No, right, but I tell them, if you do what you're supposed to and you work on growing, meaning you put yourself in positions that are challenging, I will always meet you there with something to reward you. And I'm just representing life, I'm just being the microcosm of life, because every time that you do something that's challenging, that forces you to grow, good God, almighty, do you not know that the reward is always on the back end of the breakdown? It's on the back end of the adversity, and the adversity is almost like the universe, ensuring that you're fully invested in this transformation that you're about to make.
Speaker 1:So I took my son to the gym. He worked out for like an hour right, great workout. I did good and I'm like I mean I worked him out pretty hard, but he's like, he's handling it, he's doing good. So I was like all right, we got one more thing to do. I said you got to score three points, I'm only going to play defense. You got to score three points and you can only score in the paint. I mean, you can only go to the basket. You can't shoot a bunch of jump shots, can't do that. We used to call this back in college. We used to call this a money game, because when you play somebody for money you ain't going to shoot no jump shot. You got to get as close as you can to the basket. Now I'm significantly bigger than him and I'm older than him, so it's probably overwhelming for him to try and score on me.
Speaker 1:But for this moment I didn't really care, because I realized I was going to have to be adversity in the form of dad, in the form of this defender. You see, here's what we got to understand. Adversity is going to come to you in any way, shape or form. It could be death, it could be the end of a marriage, it could be your health, it could be your kids getting in trouble, it could be things not going the way you want. And I said to myself I have to manufacture adversity in his life so he will know how to deal with it. So I'm going to go ahead and say this to deal with it. So I'm going to go ahead and say this, and I told him this beforehand. I said I am going to purposely break you, I am going to purposely put you in situations that are going to be really, really hard. And I told him, I said I'm going to play defense as hard as I can on you. I'm going to play defense as hard as I can on you.
Speaker 1:This went on for 15 minutes, y'all 15 minutes. Within the course of that 15 minutes, I know some of us moms out here, I know y'all saying oh no, why is he doing that to us? Oh my God, okay, I had to do this. I had to, and it wasn't about basketball. And here's the deal right. He got to a point where he was frustrated, he was crying. I mean, I was up and I was talking crazy. I was purposely doing this to develop his mind, number one, but number two, to show him really what growth looks like.
Speaker 1:So, anyway, school just started. Seventh grade is like real school, right? They don't get recess anymore. So he's already tired, right, he's already in a place mentally where he ain't even really ready for, but anyway, we're going through it. He's getting frustrated, he's throwing the ball, he's mad. I'm like no, no, no, no, no, no, no. You see what you're doing right now. You don't realize, because you're only 13 years old, that you're actually getting better and you're actually growing in these adverse conditions. But see, we can't grow when we sit here and get frustrated and we start kicking the ball and we're getting frustrated and doing all these things. We have just bypassed our opportunity to grow. So I told him, I said you're going to have to figure out a way to get through this.
Speaker 1:So anyway, to make a long story short, he scored his three points. He did it. He did it no-transcript. I said oh, oh, you proud of yourself right now. Huh, you feel like you did something, huh, that's why you, over here, got that half smile. So I told him let's go sit down. So we sat down, we were taking our shoes off.
Speaker 1:He was still a little bit frustrated because he was mad at himself, because he did cry. He was mad at himself because he felt like I got to him and we got back in the car and I got a real 13 year old now. See, I thought my kids would always want to talk to me when they got in the car Anybody who got teenagers. I didn't think it was really going to happen. I thought for some reason I was going to be immune. We got in the car. He didn't say nothing. We got like a 40 minute ride. We drove for like 25 minutes. I'm like you really just ain't going to talk, I go, what's going on? And he opened up, he goes. So he ends up telling me that he was disappointed with himself because he felt like I got to him and I said hey, son, I have to tell you this.
Speaker 1:I purposely did this. This was fully conscious, I was fully aware I had to create an environment that would be challenging for you psychologically. It was never about basketball, ever, because basketball is going to stop. You're going to be old, bald and gray like me one day and you ain't going to play basketball other than a 40 and over league maybe, but you're going to be done. You're going to have to have this mindset, though, with you your whole life. So I purposely do this to create adverse situations. So you have to figure out a way to get through it. So he looks at me. He goes you did that on purpose. I said yeah, I told you I was going to do it. He goes I didn't hear you say that I go. Yeah, I told you I was going to make it hard, I was going to try and break you, but here's my point y'all.
Speaker 1:My point of this is when you start to realize emotional tolerance shapes the pace of your growth. Your ability to handle discomfort without quitting is what's going to allow you to make your nonlinear growth curve climb faster. You being able to show up even when it's difficult, even when you're not seeing the results, even when it's not working, even when nobody's recognizing, even when you're not getting validation, even when your family thinks you're nuts, even when you're like well, am I doing this right? I don't know how to do this. Nobody in my family has ever done this. I don't know if I can, if you can just show up with the mindset that says this is going to be comfortable, but I'm here. This is going to be challenging, but I'm here and I told him. I said you did it.
Speaker 1:But here's the issue right now, your mindset's looking at what you didn't do? Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying I'm about to get off this moment. I mean, matter of fact, I'm about to get off Because you ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying, right now we're too suited and too conditioned To look at what we didn't do and what didn't work and what we didn't have. Good God, almighty, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying I'm using you, I'm using real life examples right now, and I'm telling this 13 year old I said son, you got a choice, you got a choice. I can look at what I didn't do or I can look at what I did do and, depending on what you do, it's going to take fuel out for the next journey, which one? It's your choice.
Speaker 1:So I'm trying to teach them Growth ain't no ladder, it's not a ladder. Y'all, hello, please write this down. Growth is not a ladder, it's a jungle gym. It's a jungle gym. Has anybody ever been on the monkey bars? It's a jungle gym. It isn't like. Oh well, let me just walk up these stairs. Yep, yep, I'm just climbing Yep, one at a time. Yep, I'm going to be here next year. That ain't the way this goes. That ain't the way it goes.
Speaker 1:So the reason why I'm saying that. I told him I'm getting chills. Good God, almighty, y'all stay with me. I told him. I said you do realize that was probably hard Physically. It wasn't hard. Psychologically it was hard. I said do you know that the hardest, worst thing or worst week, or worst month, or worst year or worst marriage or worst, can be the doorway to your best? Do you realize that this is how it works? Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing.
Speaker 1:I'm sitting here on a podcast right now. I'm sitting here on a podcast with you right now. Do you not realize that this is the physical manifestation of the hardest thing I had ever had to endure in this human experience? This is a direct result. I was in such a low place I didn't want to live anymore. Literally, I did not think that my existence was worth it anymore. I felt like I was unworthy. I lived in shame, I lived in guilt and for some strange reason, the universe said we're going to throw a bunch of bones, we're going to give you a bunch of things just to get your head above water, but your mother better start swimming. And that was the choice that I had to make. So we listen to this podcast right now, and I did this podcast purposely to talk about growth, to let you know that it ain't linear, so you would have an idea of how this actually works.
Speaker 1:Now this podcast right now. I started this. My first episode was on December 9th 2020. December 9th of 2020. Okay, now here we are. I'm recording this on August 14th of 2025. So almost five years, almost five years now.
Speaker 1:What is this About? Four days ago, this podcast, the Pathway to Results, and I want to tell you thank you for listening to this podcast. Like I said, I never even thought that anybody would even want to hear what I had to rant about. I didn't even know what I wanted to talk about. I just wanted to express and let this stuff out. So thank you for listening each week and sharing it, and all that because you have contributed to this thing. This podcast just hit a million downloads this week. Now they tell us that a million is a lot and I just think about every soul. I get DMs and emails and text messages and people are like, oh, wow, this episode and this episode, and I'm like, I'm humbled, I'm grateful, but, to be honest with you, this was more of just a healing journey for myself that I've shared with you and I'm grateful that it resonates with you and that it's touched you. But this podcast got to a million downloads just this past week, and the reason why I'm saying this is because it started on December 9th of 2020.
Speaker 1:I didn't know what I was doing. I went on Amazon. I ordered a bunch of stuff. I was good at Amazon. By then, covid had already passed, so I knew how to get on Amazon. I went and said let me go ahead and see if I can find me a microphone. I ordered a computer. I ordered a used one, but that worked. I started recording podcasts.
Speaker 1:My first episode was an interview. I interviewed because I'm like that's what you do in podcasts, right, you interview people. I'm going to be honest with you. I don't want to interview nobody. I ain't going to lie. I'd rather do all the ranting.
Speaker 1:I was sitting here biting at the bit asking questions. Really, I was the one who wanted to talk. I said this doesn't work. I feel like this doesn't work. Then I tried something new, but then I was like well, no, a podcast, you have to have other people on. So I had somebody else on. Oh, I'll get somebody who's like high profile. Then that'd be good.
Speaker 1:And I still felt the same way and it was like how about this? Let me figure out what works for me. Let me figure out what resonates with me. Let me ask myself what does Derek want? I'm saying this to you as a microcosm for you in your life, because you're going to do the most growing when you put yourself first, when you ask yourself what is it that I want? What is it that I want to do in life? Where is it that I want to go? I'm not going to go by what I think everybody else thinks I should do. What is it that I want? So I I'm not going to lie to you.
Speaker 1:It was really really hard to be consistent. It was really hard. Now the podcast comes out every Friday at midnight Eastern, but when I first started, I was doing like one podcast a month, once every two weeks. There was a lack of consistency. So I made it my goal. I said I'm just going to be consistent, I'm just going to produce a podcast a week and let's see how long I can do that. And then I started to find my flow. Here's why I'm telling you this, because if I had a chart up, if I had a chart and you could see this from December 9th of 2020 until March of 2023, do you know that the highest download amount for a month was 3,000 downloads On average? On average, it was about a thousand downloads a month for three years.
Speaker 1:For three years it looked like nothing was happening. It looked like it wasn't working. It looked like I was wasting my time. It looked like it was never going to work For three years. And here I say it was never going to work. I didn't have an idea. I didn't know what I wanted to do. I never had a plan. I didn't have a plan of, oh, let's get to a million downloads. That was never it. But here's my point for all my entrepreneurs out there, for anybody who's in a season of growth, for anybody who's in a season of transition, for anybody that is in a season of transformation Please understand that every day that you show up to those fields and you till that soil and you keep watering those seeds, you got to know that those seeds eventually are going to grow, whether you wanted them to or not. So this is what I'm telling you over the course of three years. I'm sitting here looking at this graph. I said. This graph was literally quote-unquote nothing for three years. Nothing, nothing, absolutely nothing. But it was something to me and that's all that mattered.
Speaker 1:I developed the muscle of showing up consistently for myself and then I started to actually like doing it. I started to love it, I started to get a flow. Good God, almighty, you know how it is when you start to do something. You just started cooking. I just want to get in the kitchen and just throw around a little bit, throw down, and now, all of a sudden, I actually love cooking and people say they like it. Well, good God, I might as well start a food truck. I might as well see if I can go and start a recipe or do something. Start selling these things on Pinterest or Etsy. I don't need Etsy, I don't need people to sell food on there, but you get what I'm saying.
Speaker 1:I started to say, oh, my goodness, I like doing this. And then the universe started to free up. It started to free up this thing that we call time. I started to have more time to be able to make more podcasts. So, instead of doing once every week and creating pressure of I got to get this done, dang, I can do three, four, five episodes in a week, in a month. Then it started to give me this information and have access to this information to be able to start sharing. I said, whoa, I like doing this podcast, but here's why I say this Whoa, I like doing this podcast, but here's why I say this I never wanted to do this podcast With the intention of making any money, with the intention of being famous, with the intention of people coming up to me Saying I listen to your podcast. I never, ever, ever, ever Made that in my intention, meaning I never put it outside of me. And I'm here to tell you you listen to this podcast. Do you not know? I record this podcast the same way. I did the first episode that I ever did, sitting in my rusty bedroom with a desk that's got papers all over it, and I do all the editing.
Speaker 1:You all have been with me from the beginning. You've seen, I had a different intro and then it went for a little bit where there was no intro. We just went straight into the podcast. There was nothing leading up to it, it was just straight. Now we're into the podcast and now we got a nice little flow. You hear that music, you know what it is. You see how there's been evolution.
Speaker 1:Hear me when I say this Along this road of growth, there will be evolution. There will be things that don't work. You got to give yourself permission to pivot. This is why I'm telling you it's not a straight line. You may start heading at 20 degrees north, but then you may have to turn. You may have to turn back around. This is what true growth looks like. So now we can look at it and say, wow, in 2025, you got a million downloads. Oh my gosh. Those million downloads were the culmination of all those years, all those weeks, all those Fridays when I was just focused on doing the same thing and making sure that I was aware of what resonated.
Speaker 1:So I'm telling you this it ain't a straight path, and just because you feel like you're moving and you're not going anywhere, I'm going. I feel like I'm moving in a circle. Raise your hand if you ever feel like that's you. No-transcript, you're not moving in a circle, you're moving in a spiral. There's a big difference between a circle and a spiral. A circle just keeps going in the same direction, in the same frequency, in the same energy. A spiral ascends, even if it's the smallest amount and you can't recognize it. It does not mean that it's not happening.
Speaker 1:So along this path, there have been breakdowns, there have been challenges, and here's what I've come to realize Every time that there's a hardship, there's a breakdown I told my son this yesterday All that is is just the sound. Every time that there's a hardship, there's a breakdown I told my son this yesterday all that is is just the sound of your old limitations breaking. That's all it is. I told him. I said you have grown so much, son, since June when I dropped you off that camp in Florida.
Speaker 1:When I dropped you off, that was the beginning stages of creating environments so you would grow, because as a kid, for the most part growth is minimal. Physically you're going to grow, obviously we're going to go through puberty, but psychologically, if I can grow at the same rate, what's going to happen when I'm 22, 23, 24 years old? So, as your father I said I'm sorry, son, but you're welcome to. I'm sorry that you had a father who was a mindset coach slash whatever you want. I'm sorry that this is the thing that we're going to focus on. But know that anything I ever do with you is always to develop your mindset, because that mind will be with you for the rest of your existence, not just in this life. The next life is what as well? So if we can develop it and learn and understand how it works. And then here's what happened.
Speaker 1:Y'all you start to realize, oh my goodness, there was no limits, there's no limits. Oh my goodness, there's no limit to how much I can grow, there's no limit to how high I can go, to what I'm capable of, what's possible. And I start to realize, oh my goodness, I was never lost. Even back before I started that podcast, I was never lost. I was never lost. Hear me when I say this, hear me, hear me, y'all Hear me when I say this You're not lost, you're not lost. You, just at a point in the map that you ain't ever seen before you, just at a point in life that you ain't ever dealt with, you had a new iteration of you that you ain't. You ain't, damn. I don't even know. I don't even know who I am anymore.
Speaker 1:So, no, know that this order of growth isn't going to be a straight line. It's a dance. Anybody here ever dance with somebody? Now I dance by myself. I can cut a rug. Now I ain't gonna lie to you, I can cut a rug. Now, I ain't even going to lie to you, I can cut a rug by myself. But when it comes to dancing with others, I haven't danced with others.
Speaker 1:Occasionally I'll mess around with Carly and she'll be cooking or something in the kitchen. I'll come up to her and say, let's pretend, let's pretend that we're dancing together. I'll be stepping all on her toes and everything. She'd be like stop. No, no, let me finish cooking these tacos. Please stop it. You know, when you dance with somebody else, sometimes we just all over the place.
Speaker 1:When you start thinking of growth as a dance, there's times when you got to step back, just like when we dance. We got to step back. And the reason why we step back is because I create space. What you creating space for? Because I'm about to do a little twirl, as I call it. I'm about to do a little spin. I'm about to spin right into your arms. You see, I'm about to move forward into this loving relationship, this loving way of being. You see what I'm saying, this loving circumstance. But I'm going to take a step back and it's going to seem like I'm walking away. It's going to seem like I'm pulling away from it. Nah, watch me hit this twirly, this whirling derby, and I'm about to come right into.
Speaker 1:It is the way growth is. The path is crooked because you're carving out who you need to be. So I told my son yesterday when we were riding home. I said listen, this is the way growth looks and this is the way it feels. This is why so many people give up before they get to where they could be. This is why they stop, son. This is why they stop because it don't feel good. It doesn't feel good.
Speaker 1:We got to experience the polarity in this human game. You got to be able to feel both sides. It can't be hunky-dory and pleasurable all the time. It can't be. I told Carly the other day you know what? The two driving forces, the two most powerful forces in a human being that drive us and motivate us. You know what they are. You know what they are. They're the same coin. It's pain and pleasure. That's the same coin. They're just one's.
Speaker 1:And I'm telling you all, and I tell myself this if I can love the pain just as much as I love the pleasure, the pain won't have power over me to the point that it will stunt my growth. Growth is uncomfortable. That's just the reality of it. This is just the way life. I don't. I mean, I guess. I mean I'm trying to think about why.
Speaker 1:I think probably on a deeper reason Universe is like I'm not going to let you be all that you can be, I'm not going to get to see something. I want to experience it too, through you. I want to feel what it feels like to feel pain, because I don't know what pain is outside of you, I don't know what scarcity is outside of you. I only know abundance, says the universe. I only know unlimited nature. I don't know what it's like to be limited. So I want to see what it's like through you. So I have to leave you all with this.
Speaker 1:You came into this life, you came into this life, you came into this experience. Oh, you gonna grow. You gonna grow, whether you want to or not. Please believe you gotta grow. And with that growth there will be dips, with that growth there will be setbacks. But please know, please, please, please, please. The dips, the setbacks, the adversity, that is not the opposition of growth, that's actually the preparation of growth. That's actually the preparation of growth. So for everybody, please, please know the momentum that's needed for you to get back up and keep moving.
Speaker 1:It's built in silence. Ain't nobody going to see it? Everybody see the million downloads now Y'all hear about. Now, dang, I love that podcast. We went to the Indiana Fever game the other day. I was waiting for Carly to come out the bathroom. This lady ran up on me. I said yo, lady, you scared the crap out of me. I'm with my kids. She came from my blinds, I didn't even see her. She said I love your podcast, I love it. I said well, dang, okay, thank you, but can we just take a picture? You don't run up on me and scare me like that, please. Today's world, you don't know, I don't know, you have no idea. But here's my point. You listen to this podcast now.
Speaker 1:People know about it all over now, but they don't realize that the momentum was built in silence. Huh, meaning people ain't going to see your forward progress, or when they, just because they don't see it, it don't mean that it ain't happening. Keep on posting, keep putting that stuff out there on social media. I know you may not be getting the views and the followers that you think you should, but you better believe somebody. Somebody's looking at it. Somebody's watching, and here's the deal. They might not like it, it, but that don't mean that they don't like it. Go ahead. I know what you're gonna do you're gonna go ahead and take a screenshot, you're gonna put that quote and you're gonna tag me on the story when it's come out. I already know you are. Just because they don't like it, don't mean that they don't like it, do you see?
Speaker 1:So your job is to keep building, just keep building this momentum and this wave of energy, just like a tsunami. A tsunami has this power and it's gathering all this energy across the ocean and then we always see it when it hits the shore. We see it when it causes the destruction, we see it when it creates the impact, meaning, everybody sees the plant after it's already come above the surface. Do you know how much stuff had to take place for that seed, for that plant to germinate, for it to come above the ground? Dude, this is the same with you.
Speaker 1:So your success, your growth, is built on compounding micro shifts, micro shifts, micro shifts, micro shifts. Meaning it's not the big thing, it's me showing up every day. It's the small, invisible adjustments. We call this in the basketball world, we call this stacking days. I'm stacking days, I told my son yesterday. Imagine if we had days like we did yesterday. Imagine what you would be like here in two months, psychologically, mentally. Nothing's going to break you, I told him.
Speaker 1:I said now, I'm not a Navy SEAL, I'm not a Green Beret, I'm not a Ranger, I'm not Special Forces. But if you look at this thing with Tiger Woods and his dad, this is all Earl did with him. Earl would purposely do things and he would push him to a limit. Now, he did it when he was young. I didn't do it when I was that young. But Earl would purposely do things and he would push him to a limit. Now, he did it when he was young. I didn't do it when I was that young, but Earl, but this is what built Tiger Woods.
Speaker 1:Now, obviously, with everything, there's going to be wounds on the side of it, but here's the difference. I told my son. I said listen, please know that everything this is why I have to work on myself so much. Everything that I do is coming from a place of conscious awareness, to help build and teach yourself how to grow. When you learn how to grow, you will become unstoppable. Hear me when I say this, everyone here when you learn how to grow, there's no limitations, there's no limits.
Speaker 1:So I have to tell you this just because you go backwards, just because there's regression, just because there's a setback, it doesn't mean that you failed. It just means that you have to revisit the old habits, but with more awareness. So I told my son, I said I remember when I used to have you jump rope and you only had to do 25 times in a row without messing up and you used to cry. And he said what, oh? I said, oh, you forgot. Oh, don't worry, I got video, here you go.
Speaker 1:And he was sitting here looking at it and I said oh wow, how quickly we forget, how quickly we forget how much we've transformed, how quickly we forget how much we've grown, how quickly we forget that version of us who we've had to let go of. I have to tell you this the fact that you are picking up and noticing now that you're going backwards or you're regressing, or that this was hard or this, that means that you've actually grown. You're picking it up faster. You're seeing oh, wait, wait. So I had to tell my son this and I'm trying to teach him.
Speaker 1:This is the way it looks. It's always going to be messy in the middle, y'all, if you need to get it tattooed, go ahead and do what you need to do, but please remember it's going to be messy in the middle. Yeah, don't get on your head, though. Don't do that, because people are going to be like what's that about? Well, yeah, I was listening to the Pathway to Podcast Uh. Result DG. Realize that it's always going to be messy in the middle, but that's where the magic is. That's where the magic is, that's where the growth is.
Speaker 1:You can't see the shift in real time. You can't see it. I see it, though, they see it, and you ain't never. I don't see it in my own life. I don't see the growth, the shifts, in real time, but here's what I do know. I don't see the growth, the shifts, in real time, but here's what I do know. I know the transformation has happened on the inside and eventually it's going to have to show itself on the outside, and it isn't that what we came here for To make the unseen become seen. Amen. You don't even realize why I just said amen, do you? Amen means to make what is hidden become seen. So when you start saying these prayers, when you start getting down on them knees and you pray to whoever and you say amen. Make sure you say an amen to your transformation and your growth too, because you're growing on the inside first before it shows itself on the outside. And it's messy. You know how. I know this and I'll let you go. Look at when a baby's being born. Now I've had the opportunity to produce two children in my existence.
Speaker 1:Okay, and I never forget when Carly was pregnant, she found out she was pregnant with Hudson. I was in the gym playing basketball LA Fitness and she came in and she's like guess what? And I'm like running up the court and I look at her. I'm like you're pregnant. She's like, yes, I stopped the game. I ran over there and gave her a hug. I said y'all forget about this game, y'all get somebody else in here. I got a baby on the way, y'all. And then I left. That was in November when she told me she was pregnant. I left in December To go on tour with the Globetrotters. I left December 25th and I didn't come back home until May.
Speaker 1:Well, I don't know, know, trimester, I don't know which one it was. Tri throws, three throws me. I don't know what it is, I don't know, I don't know what trimester she was in, but I know one thing when I pulled in that garage and the garage door went up and she came and answered that she opened the door and she had on some striped pajamas. Those striped pajamas fit differently than they did back in November. I know that she had a baby bump and it was a real baby, like dang, you got a basketball in there. What in the world? I said, oh my goodness, there's a baby, there's a real we. Up until that point it was all uh, abstract, it was conceptual. Okay, let's go to Carter's and get the onesie. Now it's like no, she really, there's really a baby in here.
Speaker 1:And then I watched Hudson be born and I watched Ruby be born. I watched both of them. I watched their births. I said, oh my goodness, the amount of transformation that only took place in nine months. Nine months, this baby is here. Now anybody who's ever given birth or seen somebody give birth, it is what's the word.
Speaker 1:To me, it's the most spiritual thing there is in this physical existence and the reason why I have to say that. That's one side of the coin, but it's also one of the most messiest things I'm not going to. I mean, you got blood and you got the placenta and all that. I'm not going to get into it, right. But you look, you listen to this and you an adult, you that kid. You know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1:But I said, oh my goodness, how is it? The most beautiful thing is also one of the most messiest things, messy being relative. But we can find beauty in that We'll take the baby, wipe it off real quick and put it in our chest and do skin to skin. Oh my goodness. And one thing I realized with a baby. You would think when a baby comes out, a baby would have an odor. I tell my kids all the time I have never felt skin so soft, I have never smelled skin that was so sweet. Now, obviously, this is probably a defense mechanism for you know, so we don't have a sense that we wouldn't be eaten by animals back when we were cavemen.
Speaker 1:But I said, oh my goodness, how is it something that can be so I don't know what the word is messy, difficult, challenging the mother's pushing and screaming, and hurting, but yet it's so divinely beautiful. This, my friends, is the epitome of growth. It's messy, it's ugly, but at the same time it is so doggone beautiful. So keep going, keep going. Don't stop just because it made a left. Don't stop because you went to the floor below. Don't stop because it's challenging. Don't stop because it's hard. Stop when you are done, and you will not be done until you check out of this meat sack of a body that you have. So go ahead and get it while you're here and, as always, I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.