The Pathway To Your Results
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The Pathway To Your Results
Breaking The Old Patterns
We are currently in a "threshold season" where old patterns surface for healing and transformation as we transition from the old self to the true self.
• Our recurring patterns of fear, shame, and unworthiness exist below conscious awareness
• The universe brings these patterns to the surface because they don't align with our divine nature
• Nothing in physical life will change until we change internally
• Being uncomfortable is a sign of growth and transformation
• Our energy sets the tone for our entire experience
• We often choose comfort over truth to avoid changing our relationships
• Building awareness through practices like meditation helps break subconscious patterns
• Creating a container (environment) that supports who you want to become is essential
• Understanding you are a "one of one" - unique and irreplaceable
• Moving from reaction to conscious response creates freedom
Remember, these patterns aren't problems—they're portals. Give yourself grace during this transition, regulate your nervous system, and watch how you transform over the next 90 days in ways you never imagined possible.
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Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to your Results Podcast Bro. We're all going through this time, through this phase of transition right now Depends on what part of your life, but everybody who I'm talking to, we're all going through something, some type of transition, some type of change, some type of transformation. I know we talked about it a couple months ago the liminal space but I'm starting to see some trends. I'm starting to see some stuff going on, not only in my life, but people I work with, and I just had to go. Hey, you know me, I got to go ahead and talk about it. I got to get on here and rant about it. I'm trying not to start preaching too early, but if I get going, you just go ahead and forgive me, I'll ask.
Speaker 1:But one thing I keep seeing that keeps coming up is that we have these reoccurring patterns in our lives. Okay, and these reoccurring patterns are subconscious, which we all know what subconscious means? It just means it's below the surface, it's below our level of conscious awareness, okay, so we have these subconscious programs that have us living in fear, that have us living in shame, that have us living in unworthiness, that have us seeking everything outside of ourselves. And because of this, the universe is like. This is not what you were created for. I didn't create you for you to live outside of yourself. I didn't create you for you to dim your light. I didn't create you for you to question whether or not you're good enough. I did not create you for that. I created you in and as a part of me. And if you look at everything in this universe, this universe is perfection at its finest. Look at your physical body. You didn't have to go to college. You didn't have to do nothing. You didn't have to do anything for your body to heal itself. Think about it you cut your finger, your finger will go and heal itself while you sleep at night. Your physical body is arguably the greatest technology in this physical universe, but we know that our physical body is nothing more than a microcosm of this entire universe. So here's my point God, source, the creator, universe, allah, brahman, whatever you refer to it as, the all, the absolute, it would never create anything lesser than itself.
Speaker 1:Good God, almighty, we better go ahead and get going right now you tell me, how in the world is it going to create something lesser than itself If it's perfect? If it is perfection, meaning everything is just as it should be. Even though we have this linear perspective, we can't understand why at the moment, we can't understand how at the moment. But if we let life continue on, we will start to see why. Everything is just as it should be, including you.
Speaker 1:But here's what ends up happening we come into this three-dimensional reality and we distort our perspective. We distort our self-concept, meaning we don't see ourselves as the divine consciousness, we don't see ourselves as all that which is. We see ourselves as society says. We are to the point that we will actually believe and think that we are our race. We will believe that we are our religion. We will literally sit here and believe that we were this motherfucking meat sack of a fleshly body, not realizing that we were so much more. And this is what I'm talking right now.
Speaker 1:If you hear me right now, if you can hear anything I'm hearing, you know we about to get started. I'm speaking from a place of Christ consciousness. I'm speaking from a place of divine knowing. I'm speaking from a place of if you have ears, then you will hear me. I'm speaking from the universal spiritual plane, the. I am the all. All that is. We are seeing these patterns being broken in our lives because these patterns are not in alignment with our divine nature. So we have all these worldly subconscious, egoic. So we have all these worldly subconscious, egoic, manly, linear, logical patterns that don't serve the divine consciousness. So life will start to bring up all of these things to the surface and this is what we're seeing right now. I know, last week, the Schumann resonance.
Speaker 1:I woke up. I don't know why, how I got alerts. So now my Schumann resonance sends me alerts. I woke up and normally it's like 3%, 3%. I don't even know what the 3% stands for. I ain't gonna lie to you.
Speaker 1:I woke up one morning that mother said like 70%. I said what in the world? This don't make no sense. And I said, oh, mother Gaia, she's like oh, we need to bring some stuff to the surface, because I know if the human is acting up, that means there's more energy coming to the earth. And if there's more energy coming to the earth, we know that energy is awareness. And if there's more awareness, guess what? I'm going to see some bullshit in my life that I've been suppressing, because I have the awareness to touch it now. I have the awareness to smell it, I have the awareness to feel it. So the reason why I'm saying this please, please, please.
Speaker 1:If you are going through a stage right now where you feel like you are just being bombarded and you're feeling everything and you feel stuck and you feel like I don't know what to do and I feel like life's kicking my, Please know that you're not stuck. Please know that this isn't a bad thing. All this is is life trying to let you know hey, you're being loyal to an old version of you that no longer serves you. We got to bring this up out of you. So now I started to go through this stuff last week. I started to go through this transformation and this change. I share openly with my family and my life. I want you all to see your life through my life and my son.
Speaker 1:I've been coaching his AAU team here for the last three years. Son, I've been coaching his AAU team here for the last three years, right? So when he was in fourth grade, I started coaching these boys that I watched him play for the same team in third grade they have a different name. But I just watched him play in third grade and I just watched these boys like, man, if I could coach these boys, if I could work with these little babies, man, I could get them. I'm telling you, they got this, they got this, they could be a great team. So then the coach happened to step down. So I was like, okay, well, perfect, well, I'll form a container, I'll create a team and we'll go ahead and put this together. Fourth grade we were pretty good. Fifth grade we got a lot better. Sixth grade we were unstoppable.
Speaker 1:And my father used to always tell me he used to always say, son, all good things must come to an end. Now, when I say all good things, he would say all good things would come to an end. I think what he was really saying is all energy must transform, all situations must evolve, all people must go through their caterpillar into their butterfly stages. Nothing is going to stay the same. And really what my dad was saying, he was really speaking to me on the law of vibration, meaning everything is vibrating, everything's going to constantly change. So now here we are. I knew this was coming to an end, I know. I told my son, I said you know I want to coach you as long as I can, but I also know there's going to come to to a point where I'm not going to need to coach you anymore because I'm going to need to fulfill the role of dad. See, there's one thing I invite here who's listening right now If you coach your kids in sports, you know that's a different dynamic, right?
Speaker 1:I've always wanted to make sure that everything that my children acquire, they will have earned it. And what I mean by earn it, I mean they will have developed their mental muscles for them to be able to create this in their life. And it's not me doing it. So, if I'm being truthful and honest, I've always wanted to make sure that my son, when I coached his team, I didn't give him anything because he was my son, and sometimes he couldn't understand it. Sometimes he wondered well, why do I have to run? Because I said you're setting a standard. You're setting a standard, you're going to be the benchmark and if you're up here, then everybody else is up here, be the end. He was at a point where he was ready. I said you're ready now for me to be your cheerleader, to be your supporter, to take a different role, to stand on the sidelines and clap and say, yeah, go, go, instead of having to be the one who's constantly correcting you and say, hey, don't do that, don't do this. And I told him. I said I don't know if this is the end of the year or when it's going to happen, but I feel like it's coming. And he said, yeah, I can kind of feel that. So anyway, fast forward.
Speaker 1:We played in a tournament this past weekend. It was our last tournament. Nobody else knew it, but my son and I and we were playing up. So all of our boys are going to seventh grade and we're playing up against kids who are going into eighth grade and they're stronger. I'll tell you what the difference between a 13-year-old and a 14-year-old, or a 12-year-old or a 30-year-old. I mean, these boys had Adam's apples. One of these kids had a goatee. I'm like, well, I should go ahead. I can go ahead and put on a jersey and let me play. These kids look like grown men, but we've still got. Anyway.
Speaker 1:This team was physically bigger than us and I got to a point where I always told my boys I said I'm here to teach you about life. I'm just using basketball, I'm teaching you about life. I want to develop resiliency in you. I want to show you what grit, I want to show you what determination, what commitment all of these things that you're going to need one day as a father, you're going to need as a husband. All these things that you're going to need one day as a father, you're going to need as a husband. All these things that you're going to use in every aspect in life. Sometimes life's going to kick you down. Sometimes life's going to be bigger than you. It's going to feel like it's stronger than you. You're going to feel like I can't do this. You don't want to give up, but I'm going to teach you through this game of basketball, for you to apply these attributes into your life, right? So if you lose, you're out.
Speaker 1:We're down by 19 with seven minutes, and these boys didn't know that this was going to be our last game if we lost. They had no idea and I told them. I said, hey, guys, I called a timeout. I said I got nothing to draw up. I just want to tell you guys this how unbelievably proud of you I am, of how far you've come, how you guys trusted me for years and you've never given up. I know sometimes it got hard and you question who's this crazy bald man over here making us do this and making us do that? But you never gave up on me and you, more importantly, you never gave up on yourself. So I told him, I said, look, we have like seven minutes. You're probably gonna have to play a flawless game for you to come back and win this game. But how about this? How about let's do three things let's go out here, let's have fun, let's go here and play together and let's go ahead and leave it all along the line.
Speaker 1:So when we are done with this game, we will look ourselves in the mirror. Is this not the microcosm of life? We didn't come to this experience to suffer. Suffering was optional. We came to this life to enjoy this human experience and learn as much as we could. And when I say learn, sometimes the games weren't always going to be fruitful. Sometimes the days were not always going to be as you wanted. Sometimes you didn't get the job or the opportunity, the relationship in the way that you thought, but we still had the opportunity to enjoy it.
Speaker 1:And when I say leave everything on the line meaning no stone is left unturned. I will have figured out as much as I could about myself in this existence before I am done. Don't give up on yourself. And I told the boys. I said just go out there and just be who you know you can be. Come down, sun hits the three get a stop. Come back, another kid hits the three get another stop. All of a sudden I'm sitting here looking. I'm like, well, hold on. Now we're about to give these parents their money's worth. I know they paid an arm and a leg to get in here this tournament this weekend, but we're about to do it.
Speaker 1:So the other coach called a timeout because he saw a panic. I said hey, y'all come back here. I said come over to the bench real quick. I said, okay, you guys have life, you have hope. You can see that this is possible. So I have to tell you this right Seven minutes left we're down by 19. One minute left we're down by four.
Speaker 1:These boys went on a run and you know basketball, you got a minute left, you got plenty of time. We had the ball and my son's coming down. He doesn't see a guy coming and the guy pokes him from behind and steals it and that was kind of the end. My son kind of looked disappointed and I looked at him. I said, hey, this is how life goes. You give it everything that you have, you tried, you did all that you could and sometimes you quote unquote fall short. But you didn't fall short, you didn't lose. And I told the boys after the game we ended up losing the game by five. And I told him I said hey, I'm so unbelievably proud of you guys.
Speaker 1:You guys had some habits when you got here that were not conducive to us winning games and winning tournaments and we played eight tournaments this year and we won five of them. And I told him, I said you know what you all did. You broke the old patterns of the old way. You broke these old ways of playing and thinking that weren't conducive to the life and to the team that we wanted to have.
Speaker 1:And it's the reason why I'm saying this and using this as an analogy, because you'll start to see that life wasn't about quote unquote winning or losing. It wasn't about success, it wasn't about getting to the top of the mountain. That's not what it was about. It was about how much of my old ways that didn't fit me and did not match my divine presence. How much of those things could I get rid of, how much of those things could I bring awareness to? How much of those things could I let go of? To how much of those things could I let go of?
Speaker 1:You see, when we start to do that, we start to step into our capability, we start to step into all that which we actually are. And here's the beauty of it. When you start to do that, you won't measure it by wins and losses or how much money you have in your account. You won't measure it by all of these physically worldly things. You know what. You won't measure it by. You won't measure it by the quality of how life feels, the depth of your relationships.
Speaker 1:When you wake up in the morning, how does life feel? I woke up in the morning with a smile on my face. Why, why, why did you wake up with a smile? I don't need a reason. The Spirit didn't need a reason. Spirit didn't need a reason. Good God, almighty, do you hear what I'm saying? You didn't need a reason for you to be joyous. You didn't need a reason for you to live in peace. You didn't need a reason for you to live from your divine nature. You see what I'm saying when you start understanding the faculties of the mind. You have the imagination, you have memory, you have intuition, you have reason, you have willpower, you have perception. Notice how intuition came after reason. Intuition came after reason. Intuition dwelled in the heart. It dwelled in the heart, reason dwelled in the mind. So now we understand that our ego was what needed a reason. You didn't need a reason. The ego needed a reason. The spirit lived in the heart. Spirit did not need a reason for it to exist. It did not need a reason to be in peace. This was its default program.
Speaker 1:So when I say we're in a stage right now, I'm saying what I understand is the next 90 days is what it is. It's about breaking down these mother patterns. I'm going to start calling it the threshold season. We are in the threshold season right now. We are in the season where we are what we call it. A couple of podcasts go refer to it as the liminal space. Right, it's the death of the old self, the old patterns, the old way of being, and it's in between the birth of the new and the true self. But I'm just telling you right now that in between. It's uncomfortable. But do we not know? That is where the magic is, that is where your transformation happens, that is where the old patterns that are quote unquote problems, this is where they become portals, this is where they become a wormholes for us, for our next evolution. So the reason why I'm saying this I started to see some reoccurring patterns that keep coming up. And they coming up, these motherfuckers coming up every I feel like every hour. I'm like why in the world are we in overdrive right now? I said something must be coming. Something must be coming.
Speaker 1:This whole, this whole uh, uh pattern, this program, this fear of rejection, the fear of abandonment. I mean holla, if you hear me right now, you know, you know what it is. This mother thing that we call people pleasing, feeling like I can't say no and I have to be everything for everybody. And then here's what we'll do. You ready, we will mask it in this thing that we call leadership. I'm a leader or I'm a mother, and this is what I do. I take care of everybody. No, you don't, that's just you. That's you justifying this old pattern, this wound that you ain't feel like dealing with. That's all it is. Oh, I'm a leader, I'm supposed to lead you telling yourself that they don't buy it. Sit here, say oh, dg, you're the leader. You need to make sure that you say no. You're doing that because really, underneath the service, if we be honest, you have a fear of being rejected.
Speaker 1:Now'm speaking right now from the perspective of the universe, universe looking oh, you just got a fear of rejection. That's why you, over here, keep thinking that you're a leader. You think you're a leader, but really you need to lead yourself. You need to stop abandoning yourself. See, if you stop abandoning yourself, you won't need now somebody to validate you and approve of you. And that's why I keep bringing it up, because you're hard headed behind and didn't listen to two months ago, so I'm going to keep on doing it and keep acting hard headed. If you want, these next 90 days, I'll drag you.
Speaker 1:This is what the universe is saying to me and I'm like, oh, my goodness, I guess I better get right. See. See, it also told me something else it said here's the other thing you have rooted performance and peace. You put them two together. See, when you're performing well, whether it's financially, whether it's business, whether it's metrics on social media now I have a reason to feel peace. That wasn't why you were created. See, now you've been programmed and conditioned to believe that you had to do something in order to be enough. How are you going to do something to be Hold on now? I don't think you hear what I'm saying right now. You're going to send me a DM. Later You're going to say oh, you said this part in the pocket. I'm going to have to say it again because I don't think you understood what I said. How are you going to do something in order to be? It was about being it so you could do. Do you hear what I'm saying? So you have to be everything for yourself.
Speaker 1:And I realized a pattern that I had in my life. Oh, my goodness, I might as well. I'm like a foster child as much as I keep leaving myself. If myself was home, I'm homeless, like a mother. I keep leaving and abandon myself, just so I can keep the peace. What, what? How many times did we do this? We will abandon ourselves just to keep the peace. We will keep quiet and suffer within, just so we make sure that everybody and this is what we do We'll justify and say well, I'm just being a good mother, I'm just being a good wife. I'm just being, yeah, you go ahead, you go ahead. I know right now you probably turn the volume down right now because you don't want to hear what I'm saying. I know what you're probably you're probably going to pull the car over and go, take your headphones off and stop. Whatever you was doing, this is what the universe is bringing up out of us. Okay, so here's the deal. I realized I kept and keep betraying myself and keep abandoning myself, and I realized it's like, if I have to betray myself in order to keep the peace, I need to go ahead and get up out of this. I need to go ahead and walk away from this. And I started to realize that relationships were starting to evolve, relationships were starting to change. And I looked at my own life and started to see I'm like, oh my goodness, everything is changing. Everything is changing Because here's the deal Once you make this shift in consciousness, meaning once you make this, you come to the state of awareness and you start to realize what these patterns are. The universe ain't going to let you turn back around. It ain't going to let you go back. I'm here to tell you. You ain't going to go back to what you were, please understand.
Speaker 1:I was talking to my dad the other day. We were talking about transformation, and here's the thing I love my parents, I love you all. I love you for this life that I chose to have you as the vessels to teach me. I'm so unbelievably grateful because you were telling me things that I didn't understand, but now I understand it. We were sitting there having a conversation, me and my father. My father used to tell me my father grew up in rural South Carolina. One of nine grew up on dirt floors. Mom, his dad, died when he was seven years old. He was the third youngest. His mom never remarried, raised all these nine kids by herself. She struggled, saw herself into the grave with a burden on her back, and he used to always tell me how I was the only one who went to college. In my family. I was the only one who went on to do things.
Speaker 1:He said I knew that if I stayed where I was at, nothing was going to change. I'm going to have to say that again because that's just a microcosm for everything in life. If you stay where you at, ain't nothing going to change. If you stay in that same funky ass job that you complain about every day. Ain't nothing going to change If you keep staying in that old, rusty relationship and complaining about it. Ain't nothing going to change. It won't be until you take a step, you take a leap and you walk your butt up out of that. Hear what I'm saying. Ain't nothing going to change in your physical life until you change on the inside. Ain't nothing going to change in the physical life until you change on the inside, my dad said. He said I didn't know where I was going, I didn't know what I was doing, but I got my car and I packed it up and I told my mom I'm leaving South Carolina. She said well, where are you going? He said I don't know. I'm just going to start driving north on 95 and wherever I end up at, that's where I'm going to be.
Speaker 1:He settled in a place because he ran out of gas in a place called Glen Burnie, maryland. Glen Burnie I used to think it was one word until I actually he took me there one day and it was two words Glen Burnie, B-U-R-N-I-E. And I was talking to him on the phone the other day and we were talking about transformation, transformation, how you need to change and how being uncomfortable is a sign of growth, and our kids about to go to new schools and all this stuff. And he said this is why I left South Carolina, Because I knew, if I was going to be everything that I was capable of being, I was going to have to change the environment. I was going to have to change the container. And he said it's no disrespect to anybody back home in South Carolina. But he said when I go back, they still talking about the same things, they still doing the same things. He said it was scary.
Speaker 1:He said I went to Glenbury, maryland. I didn't have two nickels to rub together. I didn't have nothing. I went and got a job at Montgomery Ward for all my 60s, 70s, 80s babies. You know what Montgomery Ward is, basically where you going. The thing was kind of like today's equivalent of Best Buy. He said I went in there. He said I hated that job. Every single day I hated it. I worked that job and I could not stand it. So I went and looked for another job. I said I found another job. I didn't like that one. Finally, he ended up settling on a job that he ended up doing for 35 years.
Speaker 1:But here's my point Ain't none of that that stuff gonna happen unless he's willing to break the pattern, unless he's willing to put himself first, unless he's willing to ask himself these questions and then answer them and then walk in his sovereignty. What do I need to do in order to become? Where do I need to go in order to become? See, we have to build an environment. You have to build a container for yourself that is conducive to the version of you that you want to be. So you want to be X, y and Z, but you're still hanging out in a container that talks about W, q and X. And see, that don't add up. We talk about I want to live in abundance, I want to live in prosperity, I don't want to come from a place of scarcity, but then I'll look in the environment that I'm in, the container that I'm in, meaning the people, the places, the situation, the job, and that ain't nothing your day. So we have to be, so we can do, and here's what I'm telling you.
Speaker 1:I told my son this because he's about to start a new school. My daughter's about to start a new school. My son's going to a new team. My daughter went to a new cheerleading gym. I told him. I said your energy is the only thing that you have control over. So, therefore, your energy sets the tone. It's going to be your energy. It's going to be your energy. It's going to be your energy. Hear me when I say this. I'm pointing to you right now. I'm talking to you right now. It's going to be your energy in your universe, in your world. This world does not respond to what you say. Please hear me when I say this. It doesn't respond to what you say. It responds to what you are. It responds to how you carry yourself. So I told my kids the other day.
Speaker 1:I sat down with both of them. I said we're about to go through a stage, we're about to go through a transition. Y'all better get them saddles ready, because we're about to ride this thing off into the sunset. You better get yourself ready for this transformation because we're about to hey how they say that we finna do it. You better get yourself ready. I told him. I said when you keep stepping into the space of being uncomfortable, when you step into the space of being uncomfortable, I promise you on everything I've ever known, you're going to grow.
Speaker 1:And my daughter I was riding with her. I was taking her cheer and I love it. She sits next to me and we up front. She probably should be sitting in the back, but she sits up front. She probably should be sitting in the back, but she sits up front with me. Don't tell nobody, she sits up front with me. I just have conversations and she just sits there and barely looks up over the window.
Speaker 1:I said are you excited about starting school? She said yeah and she gave me the yeah, like I'm really saying no. She gave me the yeah, like yeah, let me go ahead and answer this so you can shut up, so we don't have to touch something that's uncomfortable right now. I said what is it? She goes nothing, this half smile, and I said I looked at her and said now you know better than that. You know I don't go by what you say. I can feel energy, I can read you. So what is it really? Go and talk to your daddy. And she says to me. She said I'm just nervous about going to stare at me.
Speaker 1:Now she's 10 years old. I know 45, 50, 60-year-olds who are scared of people staring at them. I know a lot of people. I know a 42-year-old who's on here right now at times is afraid of people looking at him. But those are the moments that we forgot what we were and I looked at her. I said, hey, if they look at you, you need to look back at them and give them. You remember that show in Living Color with Jim Carrey and all that? Right, you get three snaps in a Z formation. What you see is what you get. You hear me, you better make sure you look at all of me right now.
Speaker 1:There's these things going around right now called, uh, these little dolls. I was all walking all over new york city trying to find these things called labubus. Have you guys seen these? They're called labubus. Okay, anybody got a daughter? Go ahead and google labubu. I don't even know how you spell it, but it's La Boo Boo. She talked about how she won all these La Boo Boos, and I mean some of these La Boo Boos. They're going for top price, right. I don't know nothing about the La Boo Boo, but I like the La Boo Boo because one of the things is the energy series, right. I'm like, okay, I can get down with that.
Speaker 1:I said, look, you're so worried about what people think about you, and that's normal, right, that's old programming from our biological makeup, right, that's normal. But I'm going to tell you this you got to understand what you are. I said if there was a one-of-one laboo-boo, how much would that cost? And she'd be like, oh, that'd be point, I'm gonna call you laruru. So when they see you at school and they look at you, do not look at it from a negative state. So you got to understand. I told her this. I said you understand that you don't want fingerprints are? She's like yeah, I know what fingerprints. I said you're the only one who ever will, and ever has, has those fingerprints on this planet. Nobody else, nobody else will have those fingerprints, nobody. You are a one of one and I'm telling you this right now, if you can hear me you are a one of one. This is the awareness that we were supposed to live from. I was supposed to live from the awareness of recognizing that I was a one of one. There wasn't another like me and never will be. I need to own that.
Speaker 1:Three snaps in the Z formation. When you look at me, when you see me, you better make sure you get a good gander, because you ain't never going to see nothing like this ever again to walk this earth. You hear what I'm saying, stepping into that big dog energy right now. This, the energy that we walk in, we are a one of one. This is the way you were created. You were not created to shell yourself and make yourself smaller and say, okay, all right, well, I'll go ahead and do this. So that way, you like me in that way. No, we were never doing that. That's not why we came here. You mean to tell me okay, we're going to go ahead and do this. See, y'all got me going. They got me going right now. You mean to tell me that all that which creates everything created you. So you could be humble and lowly yourself in that.
Speaker 1:But then, in the same breath, we're going to complain that we ain't got enough. Huh, we're going to be mad at somebody who's doing what we, deep down inside, know that we could do. Is this why you were created? No, so all of these things that are happening, all of these things, these patterns that keep coming up, they're invitations, they're initiations for you to break that. Break it, break the pattern. So you start looking at every situation as an invitation for you to break that. I told my daughter. I said if they look at you and it makes you feel some type of way, look away, because I ain't never known somebody was looking at me unless I was looking at them. You ain't got control over them. You got control over yourself, though.
Speaker 1:So start understanding that these patterns, everything in your life is nothing more. These triggers that bring everything up to the surface the disappointment of you not getting the closing the deal, the delay or somebody telling you no. It is an opportunity for you to look inward and reclaim something that you have given away. Do you hear what I'm saying? You gave it away. You thought the job was going to make you enough. That's why you feel bummed that you got rejected. You thought the bank account was going to somehow make you worthy, and now that it's not, oh, I feel unworthy. That's BS. This universe would never create anything to make you enough outside of yourself. This universe would never create anything, anything to make you enough outside of you. So understand that whatever shows up in your life externally is quietly, quietly trying to help you heal what has been untouched internally. And here's the other thing, too, what I'm learning these patterns that keep coming up right A lot of times, the reason why we keep getting stuck in the patterns is because we'll choose comfort over truth.
Speaker 1:Oh, my goodness, they ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying right now you would rather be comfortable than to walk in your power, which is uncomfortable, Because in order for you to walk in your power, you're going to have to change a little bit. And if you change a little bit, some of them relationships is going to change. So I'll just go ahead and keep lowering myself and living from this space with my throat chakra blocked and I won't really step into my power and who I am. I'll just go ahead and keep making things comfortable because that's what I know. Nah, that ain't it.
Speaker 1:I do believe this is why we wear the same pair of underwear over and over again. We know we need new underwear. We know we need to go buy new. You listen to this. I do believe this is why we wear the same pair of underwear over and over again. We know we need new underwear. We know we need to go buy new. You listen to this. I know you got some underwear that you know good and well, them things holy. You need to go ahead and get some new underwear.
Speaker 1:All of us got some some drawers that we need to get rid of. But guess what? They're comfortable. They're comfortable. Yeah, you know what, though? Them drawers that you got on right now. You bought that. You got on right now. You bought them drawers when you was in that state of mind three years ago. So as long as you keep putting them drawers on, it's going to keep you in that state of mind. Give yourself permission to break patterns in your life, do you see? It seems small with your drawers, but really, every time that we're comfortable, our ego thinks that we're safe, we're surviving. No, no, you know what that means. When you're comfortable, you're really just delaying your opportunity to grow. You're delaying your opportunity to grow when you are comfortable.
Speaker 1:I told my son, I told my daughter the other day. I said when you are uncomfortable, go ahead and clap. Go ahead and clap for yourself. Go ahead and clap, because there's a new version of you that's about to be born. I told you, I took my son on that five-mile run. I told you all that, right, I went out of town. I had to go out of town. And Carly I didn't tell her, I was only gone a day. And Carly went ahead and trained him and said all right, look, we're going to run, you're going to go do this. And I said I didn't even know until I saw her story on Instagram and she was.
Speaker 1:My son was running by himself and he has headphones on. I said, well, you better than me, you let him run with headphones on. We ain't doing no headphones, I'm doing it, I purposely, we ain't nope, nope, we ain't doing. He said to me he goes, it was so much easier. I said I, you know what? Yeah, you can wear your headphones, but we had to. We had to do like five laps, right? So I told him. I said look, four of them you can wear it, but one of them you can't. Okay, he decided to wear it for three of them. All right, the first three, he wore it. And hear me when I say this I was just running my race, but I was going to beat him because I had to set the standard. You tell me, when he had those headphones, why I could not keep up with him. I said I don't know what he's listening to right now. I don't know what it is, but I need that. He flew by me. I said what in the world? He said, yeah, it's getting easier. I said, well, it might be getting easier because you've got them headphones on, but we're going to take them headphones off here in a minute them headphones will come off and we're going to see can we keep that same energy, right? So, anyway, we got two more laps.
Speaker 1:The fourth lap, he's like ah, my calf hurts. I said, boy, don't you even start with me right now, please, because you weren't saying that when you were flying, when you were listening with them headphones on. Please, don't you start that now. So we go back and it's time to do the fifth, and he takes off and he runs past me and he starts to lose steam a little bit. And I told him. I said I'm going to catch you, and if I catch you, you know what it is, you know the rule. So I end up passing him. I'm like, oh boy, we're going to have to do this all over again.
Speaker 1:And then all of a sudden he runs past me and he beats me. And he says to me after he goes and truly, I told my wife when I got in. I said I'm getting to the point where I feel like an old man. Now I really do. I feel like, oh, I didn't think't he ain't this little boy anymore. I don't know if I'm gonna be able to beat him in things anymore, but anyway he gets done. He says I feel so much stronger. I said yeah. I said I'd imagine. So I said have, has this been uncomfortable? He goes yeah, some days are pretty uncomfortable. Some days are pretty uncomfortable, some days are pretty hard. I said, oh, so you've gotten stronger because you've embraced the discomfort. He goes yeah. Now, what I didn't tell you is about three and a half weeks ago. I told him this was the season of separation the outside of it.
Speaker 1:So I started having him get up and meditate, right, and every day he has to meditate, and the reason for anybody who has kids. I'm going to tell you how I did it right. I put my timer for five minutes, I put on some soft meditation music, I had him close his eyes and I said you have to take every time that you exhale, you have to count and we'll count up and we'll see how many breaths that you've taken after those five minutes. So the first time he did it, it was 36 breaths. 36?, yeah, 36., yeah, 36. So, anyway, when he first started, though, he was like I said hey, slow down. And I was just sitting there guiding him, helping him. I said slow down a little bit as the weeks have gone on. It's 39 breaths, 42 breaths. Sorry, it initially was that it's starting to go down now and it's like 33 breaths, 32 breaths. And I told him. I said you see what's happening, you're able to regulate yourself. So here's why I'm telling you this, why Anybody who has kids we know that our kids get into it, even if they're boys and they're girls Stay with me here. I know I'm ranting a little bit, but stay with me.
Speaker 1:Ruby has a tumble track If you know what a tumble track is where you do somersaults and all that, and Hudson has a basketball hoop that he plays on in the house. Now, there's not enough room for both of them to be there at the same time, and that's where the arguments usually start. Well, I was playing basketball, well, I was tumbling first, and they start arguing. So, anyway, ruby's tumbling, hudson pulls up, starts to play basketball and I'm sitting there. I'm just like, oh boy, here we go. It's going to be an argument. I got to be Judge Judy, I got to be Judge Joe Brown. Now I'm going to have to break this up and I tell him. I said hey, please don't argue. And they're like, okay, they start arguing, sure enough. And then Hudson stops and goes. Matter of fact, I'm just going to sit down.
Speaker 1:So the next day I asked him. I said why did you stop like that? Normally you would argue. He said I was able to catch myself. I was able to catch myself, that I was about to start something. And then he told me when we were working out. He said I was able to catch myself and I was about to start saying all these negative things and make it hard for myself.
Speaker 1:My point of this is is he broke the pattern through awareness. He broke the pattern through awareness. He broke the pattern through awareness. All of these patterns that you see coming up in your life consistently, all of these things that keep coming to the surface. It's all. So you can break it through what? Through your awareness. That was it.
Speaker 1:So we're not moving from reaction anymore. We're moving from a place of responding. You're not coming from a place of oh, this is unconscious, I didn't even know. No, you're coming from a place of oh, my goodness, this is the old pattern. I see what this is. I'm still seeking acceptance that I'm afraid that somebody's going to reject me. So now, now that you've done this, you will create more space for yourself to heal. You're not going to avoid things anymore, and here's the beauty of it these next 90 days, I do believe it's to catapult us into this new way of being. I, literally, I truly believe we're creating a new human being right now, and we may not see it in our time, but we are creating a new species of human that here, in four or five hundred years, they're going to be like yeah, at the turn of the century, there was this, this and that. So my point of this is this for you, if you're going to meet this new version of yourself, that's, the universe is going to help you, but it's trying to get you to live as if she already exists, as if he already exists, and it cannot be done by you living in the old patterns, because that's the old you. So this is a time of welcoming.
Speaker 1:It's uncomfortable. I know it feels scary. I know it feels overwhelming. I've been so overwhelmed. I've been sleeping. Have you ever had this happen? You're sleepy, but you can't sleep at night. I'm tired, but I can't get good rest. All of these things are being brought to the surface. Choose what's aligned with you over being comfortable. Start learning to regulate your nervous system right, because your nervous system is playing out the old story. Move from a place of reaction to responding. Create more space for you to feel, more space for you to heal. Give yourself the grace that's needed and watch what happens over these next 90 days. You'll start to see wow, I have changed in ways that I never even thought. I don't get upset over this same thing anymore. That's because the pattern's been broken. Now you know me. I'm going to be right there in the background, cheering, clapping, saying you keep going, you keep going. I know it's uncomfortable, I know it's hard, but keep going. And, as always, I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.