The Pathway To Your Results
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The Pathway To Your Results
The Harsh Truths Nobody Tells You
In this episode, DG delivers a powerful wake-up call on the "cold, hard truths" of personal development that most spiritual communities gloss over, urging listeners to take radical accountability for their lives and growth.
• No one is coming to save you until you start saving yourself – take action and the universe will respond with support
• Your perspective of yourself is all that matters – when you adopt others' views of you, you give away your power
• Everything that has happened in your life has served you – understanding this shifts you from victim to empowered
• Your excuses are just gentle lies that make you feel better – stop cutting yourself short
• Sometimes those closest to you unintentionally hold you back – they may still relate to the old version of you
• Shadow work is non-negotiable – become aware of what you were previously unaware of
• Manifestation requires action – thoughts vibrate too quickly until actions bring them into physical reality
The superpower is accountability – when you know nobody else can save you or do it for you, you step fully into your power as a co-creator of your reality.
Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to your Results podcast. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to your Results podcast, presented by DG Mindset. It is your boy, dg. We're here. We're here. Another day, another dollar, another week. I hope that this last week for you has been amazing. I hope there's been growth. I hope there's been evolution. I hope there's been growth. I hope there's been evolution. I hope there's been insights. We can use this podcast as a not as a benchmark, but each week that there's an episode that comes out on Friday, you can use this to see where were you, what state of mind, what state of being were you in last week when this podcast came out. So I only say that I hope that you've seen growth between last week and this week.
Speaker 1:Today I do a lot of podcasts on personal things and I'm going to break it into personal things but I also do a lot of podcasts on information, to give you information along your journey. But this energy behind this podcast is kind of like that dad energy right, that dad energy. Now, I'm not saying that I'm your dad. That's not what I'm saying. But this energy is getting us to understand some cold, hard truths about this human experience that we call life, especially in the self-development, the spiritual community. We like to glamorize things and make things look oh yeah, I do my yoga and breath work and I chant and I have my crystals. It's all fine and dandy right, but there's another side to it that we don't touch on, we don't talk about, and that's kind of what I wanted the energy behind this podcast. I talked to my community. Shout out the DG Mindset community. Now the DG Mindset community.
Speaker 1:I was talking to them about this on the Power Hour. First of all, let me just send a shout out to them DG Mindset community, you all are amazing if you are part of it. Even if you're not a part of it, you're still amazing. But I just have to tell you all thank you for your continued support, your energy. So, anyway, back to our regularly scheduled program.
Speaker 1:But I was talking to them about some of these truths that we don't realize, that are built into this human game, and something that may help you understand, or maybe help you play the game a little better, if you understand some of these truths and how they operate and what they actually are, of these truths and how they operate and what they actually are. So, number one this may be triggering for some of us, but you know me, I'm always here to help you to evolve and grow, and sometimes we got to be uncomfortable if we're going to go ahead and hit the next level. Number one we got to understand on this journey that we call life, in this human experience, us as the divine consciousness that is emanating through this meat sack, this humus, this flesh, this earth, this version of us. Please understand that no one is going to save you before you save yourself. No one is going to help you before you start to help yourself. No one is going to help you before you start to help yourself. Once you start to help yourself, the energy will be reciprocated. Someone will come in and provide support. It could be a podcast, it could be a book that falls off a shelf, it could be a movie, it could be the topic of a show that you watch, it could be you overhear somebody else's conversation, it doesn't matter. The universe will supply the means, but please know that ain't nobody going to come save you until you start swimming.
Speaker 1:So the reason why I'm saying this is to get you to move out of the victim mindset, to get you to move out of this victim state of mind, this victim consciousness, that you think that somebody's going to throw you a life vest before you start swimming. It doesn't matter if you don't know how to swim, just start flopping around, just start moving your legs, just start moving your arms, just start doing something to keep your head above water and eventually, I promise you, I swear for Lord, as the old folks used to say, somebody is going to throw you a life vest because you cannot have more put on you than what you are capable of handling. Let me say that again for the people in the back, who maybe just don't want to hear it you cannot have more put on you than you are capable of handling. It's not that you can't handle it. It's trying to get you to start being accountable for your life and start swimming, start flopping, just start moving your legs and moving your hands. I know you maybe don't have the best form, I know you don't know how to heal your wounds, it doesn't matter, just start somewhere. So this is why I say no one's coming to save you.
Speaker 1:This is one of the biggest realizations that I made when I started on this journey of empowerment, self-empowerment, self-development, what else you want to call it? Accountability. When I realized I was playing the victim all that I had accomplished, I was still being the victim. I thought that somebody else was going to come and do something for me before I did it for myself. True story. I'm just being honest with you. I'm just telling you all my life story. I really thought that somebody was going to do something.
Speaker 1:And here's how I knew this. I would sit around and wait. I would sit around and wait. So we'll sit here and point fingers and look at well, he didn't do that, and he did this to me and she did that. And if that hadn't happened to me, if this hadn't, as my mom used to say, boy, if you don't get on with that bullshit, if you don't get on meaning, stop using someone else as your excuse. Stop using someone else as your reason as to why you did not accomplish something. So here's my mindset now Ain't nobody going to come help? Nobody's going to come help me. Nobody's going to come save me. Nobody's going to do it for me Nobody.
Speaker 1:So now, now that I know nobody's stolen me a life vest and I know land exists, meaning I know there's a destination and I know there's a way to get to it. I just don't know how yet, but I know that if I just start swimming eventually in any direction, I'm going to eventually get to land. Now that you know that, you stop focusing on what you don't have and what has not happened and you start focusing on the possibilities, you start focusing on what you can control, and this is what we call power. My friends, that's the first cold, hard truth I got to break down and let you know Ain't nobody going to come help you? Nobody, nobody's going to come do it for you.
Speaker 1:You can play the victim, you can feel shame, and all these things. You, though, have the power to get yourself up out of it. You have the power to get yourself up out of it. So now, nobody can help you, but we know, through this fourth law of this universe, the law of polarity, if there's an equal opposite energy, if nobody can come help you and save you, that means nobody can stop you. Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying right now you ain't trying to hear nothing. You're quiet right now because you know deep down inside you can't keep using that card of being the victim. You can't keep using that card with those bullshit excuses you've been holding on to, that kept you stuck, that kept you in the same place. You can't keep using them now. But this is where your power is, and sometimes being uncomfortable is where we step into our power. Actually, every time that we are uncomfortable is where we step into our power. Cold, hard fact.
Speaker 1:Number two Nobody else's perspective matters outside of yours. You know it doesn't matter what your spouse thinks about you, right? You know it doesn't matter whether or not your kids think you are a great mother or not, right? You know it doesn't matter what I think about you, correct? Nobody else's perspective about you matters outside of your own. Please hear me when I say this it doesn't matter what anybody else thinks about you, it doesn't. So guess what? You can't use that excuse anymore. You can't use the excuse. Well, they don't think I'm. It doesn't matter what they think. The issue is is what they think about you has now become what you think about you.
Speaker 1:Let me say it a little bit louder for the people in the back what they thought about you is now what you think about you. The only thing that matters is what you thought about yourself. Point blank period, no cap, as the kids would say. We can go ahead and shut it down and get off here. Now you can go ahead and pull the car over, change the podcast, unsubscribe. You ain't got to listen, no more. You got what you needed in this life. It didn't matter what anybody else thought about you. It didn't matter what anybody. You know what. I've been married going on how many years I'm going Hold on, I'll be married going on 14 years. Sorry, sorry, carly, the numbers. Look, I'm so caught up in the present moment with my wife Sometimes I lose track of how many years we've been married. We're going on 14 years. It took me probably about 12 years to realize that her perspective of me didn't matter before my own perspective of me and my perspective of me was really first what she thought about me, and before it was her, it was my parents, and before it was my parents. Who knows who it was?
Speaker 1:My point of this is, if someone out there you have been given, you have given somebody permission, you have given somebody else permission to have ownership over your perspective of you. Good God almighty, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing that I'm saying right now. You have given somebody else permission to have ownership over your perspective of you. So maybe it was dad, maybe it was mom, maybe it was a society, maybe it was your culture, maybe it was your religion. It's been somebody who has shaped your perspective and now your perspective of you isn't actually yours, it's somebody else's, but you don't realize it's really not theirs, it's yours. You've adopted it. You've adopted it without papers knowledgeable papers. You over here, walking around fraud, you phony. This isn't really your life. You live in somebody else's. So this is why I tell you nobody else matters. Nobody else's perspective mattered outside of your own. When you know this, you can start to beat the game.
Speaker 1:I don't care what people say about me, it don't matter. Why do you think? When you look at the Bible, when Jesus asked the Pharisees, remember when he asked the Pharisees, who do you say that I am? Sorry? They asked him who are you? Who do you say that you are? He said I am.
Speaker 1:I am whoever you say that I am. I am whoever you say I am. That's what I am In your world. That doesn't mean I have to be that in my world. That doesn't mean that doesn't mean just because you feel this way about me, just because you perceive me this way, doesn't mean I then have to see myself as that. And this is what he was trying to say.
Speaker 1:I'm going to be whoever y'all think I am, and it's going to stop right there. I'm going to put up these what do they call this Boundaries. I'm going to go ahead and put these Christ-like boundaries up on your way. I'm going to put these boundaries up and say look, you can think whatever you want, you can call me every name in the book, you can throw stones at me, you can say whatever. Matter of fact, go ahead and tell me your perspective of me. Good, so now that I know that's your perspective, I'm going to keep myself away from you, but what you think about me does not matter about what I think about myself. I've taken ownership of what I think about myself and this, my friends, is what we call power. Truth number three If you haven't noticed a trend, right now I'm trying to get you out of the victim mode. Truth number three you can't keep walking around here acting like this.
Speaker 1:Isn't what you deserved in life. Everything that you got, you deserved it. What? Yes, everything that you have received in your life or did not receive, you deserved it. Good God, almighty, if y'all stay with me, I will show you Everything that has happened to me, whether it was the abuse when I was young, whether it was the financial hardship, whether it was the trauma, whatever it was, I can look back on it now and tell and see how it has divinely played a part in my soul's evolution, in this human experience that I'm calling life. I can tell you, I can tell you why that happened. I can tell you how it helped me evolve. I can tell you how it helped me to see more of myself. I deserved all of it.
Speaker 1:So you got to look at the etymology of a word. We'll look at the definition, but we never look at the etymology of the word. The etymology is the root, the source of it. When you look at the etymology of the word deserve, it means to serve. Good God, almighty, y'all ain't trying to hear? Not a mother thing I am saying right now.
Speaker 1:Everything is to serve you. It was to serve you is to serve you. It was to serve you, to serve. So you deserved it because it was serving you in some way, shape or form, and just because you haven't gotten the information from it, it did not mean that the information was not there, so it could serve you For two years.
Speaker 1:After I endured my financial hardship back in 2019, and I was in the lowest place I had a quote, unquote ever been in my life. It took two years for me to extract the information, the formation of energy that was already inside of it. It took me two years to extract the information, but once I extracted the information, I stopped being a victim. I said you deserve everything that came to you, because everything that came to you was for you and because it was for you, you're going to transmute that energy and turn it into something that this world has never seen. You are going to help this world and serve this world through the darkness of what you've endured. And that, my friends, is what true transmutation was. It was taking the dark and turning it into light. So take that in your life, take the stuff that you've endured, take that darkness and turn it into light. When you do that, you will start to see how it has served you. But you cannot do this until you have started to be accountable enough to reflect.
Speaker 1:See, most of us walk around here. We project, most of us project, but very few of us reflect. See the enlightened, the heightened mind, that which who has done the work and healed themselves to a point that they see that they are the image and they are no longer the reflection. They start to reflect instead of project. Project always looks on the outside. It always looks at everything on the outside.
Speaker 1:Hear me when I say this if it's outside of you, you ain't got no control over it. If it's outside of you, you have no control over it. But if it's on the inside, I got supreme control. You hear what I'm saying right now? Ooh, this is tender. This is tender.
Speaker 1:I'm going to tell you a true life story. Right, my son he's 12 years old. Right, I've been coaching his team since little. Right, we had our first game. First game. We're supposed to win the tournament. We're the best team in the tournament. We lose first round. We lost the first round.
Speaker 1:And I got back home, man, I was sick. I was sick, and it's not that I have a problem with losing, that isn't the issue, because if I lose, I learn it was the way that we lost. We lost because we didn't control what we had control over. We didn't control our effort, we didn't control our energy, we didn't control how hard we played, we didn't control our attitude. We didn't control the things that we had control over. See, we didn't have control whether or not the other team made baskets. We didn't have control over whether or not the refs were making the calls. We didn't have control over that. But we did have control over these things on the inside.
Speaker 1:Then I went back. I mean, I watched the film. I said, man, we lost the game because we weren't playing hard, we weren't giving what we were supposed to give. So I had my son. I said, hey, come here, you're going to sit down with me, you're going to watch this game and for all my athletes out there, you know how hard it is when you sit in that film room. You sit in film study, you got your coaches, you got your team and you watching film and you know that you didn't get back on defense or you weren't playing hard, and it's going to be on blast on front street and everybody's going to see it and you have to sit here and take supreme accountability because the film won't let you run. So I sat here with my son and I said how come you weren't playing hard, you weren't giving everything that you had? He's like I was.
Speaker 1:So we went to the tape and we sat and he watched it he goes and he started to take a shirt and put it over his mouth, started to put his hands over his face. He was literally trying to energetically run from the situation. I said no, put your hands down. We're not going to run from this Because within this is your power If you can sit through it and be accountable. So, anyway, we went through it, got a piece of paper. He wrote down everything that if he could go back and change, here's what I would do differently. I would do this. I would do that.
Speaker 1:He goes downstairs and tells his mother. He says I feel like I got better without playing. I feel like I got better without training. You did get better because you were uncomfortable through being accountable. And every time that we're uncomfortable through being accountable, there will be growth. Say it with me Uncomfortability plus accountability equals growth. Uncomfortability plus accountability equals growth.
Speaker 1:So he sat here, we watched through it and I came back downstairs after I watched through it some more and we sat there and talked he goes. I said how do you feel Now? This is a 12 year old. Now he's heard these words around the house before you know, because he hears me on calls and podcasts and everything. He said I feel empowered. I said good God, almighty, stop playing with your boy. He said I feel empowered. He said I feel empowered. He said I don't feel afraid anymore because I looked at the things I was afraid of. Good God, almighty, do you hear what I'm saying anymore? Because I looked at the things I was afraid of. Good God, almighty, do you hear what I'm saying? Do you hear what I'm saying? If you can look at everything that you've endured, you'll see that everything that you endured was actually for you. But in order to do that, you don't have to be accountable. So now this brings us to our next truth. Right? It's a supreme accountability, one-on-one.
Speaker 1:All those excuses that you keep telling yourself ain't nothing but gentle lies that make you feel better. All those excuses that you keep making for yourself and you keep telling for it. Telling yourself ain't nothing but lies to make you feel better. What kind of excuses are you are you making in your life? Think about it. Sit down and write down all your excuses. Here's how we figure out our excuse my goal minus my reality. And then in between there you're going to probably have some excuses. You're going to have something to make you feel real good about yourself. The pillow lies right, the soft gentle lies, the lies that they don't hurt me when I tell them. They make me feel good. I can tell an excuse and tell myself all these excuses. That way I feel okay. It's okay for me to stay comfortable and stay right here, because if he hadn't done that, I would have been a lot further in life.
Speaker 1:There ain't nothing but an excuse that you're still holding on to. You keep making these excuses and all you're doing is selling yourself short. And the universe is like I'll buy you, I'll buy you, I'll pay full price for you. What does it cost? But you over here selling it for half off Universe is like I would have paid full price for you. As long as you pay full price for yourself and you start selling full price, so your excuses ain't nothing, but you cutting yourself short. Stop cutting yourself short and making excuses for yourself. Stop making excuses. Do it for yourself.
Speaker 1:Say I'm going to go 90 days with no excuses. I ain't got no excuses. Okay, you're going to start working out. I'm going to get up at 5 am in the morning and start working out. Dang, I'm tired. That is an excuse. That's tired, you're tired, okay, now what? You're tired, now what? Get up, get up and go. You made a commitment to yourself Get up and do it, yeah, but you're just making excuses.
Speaker 1:That's what I used to do. I used to justify my excuses. I would justify, boy. I could justify it with the best of them. Well, if I'm tired, then I can't do what I'm supposed to do, and then that won't show up.
Speaker 1:Boy, you making all these excuses. I had a coach when I played for the Globetrotters. He was from Houston. He said Judge, you got more excuses than a pregnant nun. You got more excuses than a pregnant nun, mother Mary, how'd you get pregnant? Well, you see, what had happened was I. And this is what we'll do with ourselves. We'll sit here and make all of these excuses and all we're doing is dimming our light. We're dimming our light. You were not put here to dim your light. So stop making excuses for yourself. Next, cold, hard truth Sometimes the people around us who's closest are the ones who hold us back, the people who are closest to us are the ones who hold us back, and here's what I mean by that.
Speaker 1:They don't do it consciously, they don't do it on purpose. They're not hating on you, but sometimes they see you as the caterpillar. You've been trying and trying and trying to become the butterfly. You've been doing all you can to be a butterfly and they still see you as a caterpillar and they treat you like a caterpillar and they talk to you like a caterpillar and they feed you like a caterpillar and they need you like a caterpillar and everything that they do is in the old frequency. And now here you are, too afraid to really grow and evolve, too afraid to really step into who you really are. Because what if they don't see me for what I am? Maybe the better question is what if you don't see yourself for what you actually are?
Speaker 1:So this is why sometimes we have to leave the familiarity of those who are familiar to us and you'll know. The universe will let you know. Life will let you know. God will let you know. The source will let you know. Allah will let you know. Brahman will let you know. Life will let you know. God will let you know. The source will let you know, allah will let you know, brahman will let you know. Whatever you refer to, as will let you know when this new version of me is no longer resonating at the same frequency that I was at when we had met.
Speaker 1:Why do you think people move out the house? Why do you think in certain cultures, in most cultures, it becomes acceptable for you to move out the house? Because the frequency of you being an adult versus you being a child is no longer resonating. You can't be an adult within the same household. I'm speaking from the Westerner's point of view. I've seen it happen all too many times when the kids come back home and they're just a little bit too grown to be up underneath the house. You got two alpha males underneath the same roof and it just doesn't work. House, you got two alpha males underneath the same roof and it just doesn't work. So give yourself permission to make the adjustments to allow life to continue to evolve, so that way you keep moving in the direction that you need to move, even if that means that the people closest to you may not have the same relationship that they have with you, relationship that they have with you Next along this journey.
Speaker 1:Your shadow work is a necessity. You can't not work on yourself, you just can't afford to. My mom used to say if you think it's expensive now wait till you see how much it costs. When you hit bottom Boy, she won't lie. If you think it's expensive now in time and energy, money and resources to work on yourself, don't work on yourself and look how expensive that's going to be. So you start to realize that there's no negotiating my shadow work. There's no negotiating me working on myself.
Speaker 1:I'm going on a retreat once a year. I'm going on a retreat. I'm doing ayahuasca once a year. I'm investing in whatever it may look like in your life. You have given yourself permission to do that work because you know that this is a necessity. I'm journaling and meditating and doing breath work and using other modalities to work on myself. To get just a little bit deeper.
Speaker 1:Because shadow work is a necessity in this life. It's a necessity for me to become conscious of what I was unconscious of, and why? Because when you become aware of what you were unaware of, that's where growth takes place, and growth is an option on this life. So my point is please, please, please, please, please, please, no, please, no, please no, you ain't never going to be done. You'll never be done, never.
Speaker 1:If I know I'm never going to be done, it's a non-negotiable. Just like as long as you've got this life, as long as you have this physical body, you're going to have to eat. You're going to have to eat. Sometimes your diet may change, but you're going to have to eat. You're not like oh man, I'm tired of chewing, I ain't eating, no more. You know that this is a necessity if I want to live, if you want to continue to grow, if you want to continue to be all that you're truly capable of being and live life through fulfillment, with joy and peace. If you want to do this guess what? Shadow work is a necessity You're going to have to, especially for all my entrepreneurs out there, all my people who are out here, who got businesses, who are in positions of leadership, whatever it may look like. Please know that, all my Manny Jennys out there, I'm a manifest generator. You look at human design, right? Some of you are manifestors, some of you projectors, whatever it may be. Here's what we got to realize Manifestation requires action, action.
Speaker 1:Manifestation requires action, meaning. I can't just sit here and dream and visualize and do all this and do all that and think that I'm not going to take action. If you're not taking action, you're not slowing the vibration down high enough, slowing the vibration down enough to bring it into your physical reality, because those thoughts are vibrating too quickly, too fast to show themselves in a physical life. That's what action's for. When I start to act like it, when I start to act like it now, I can start to slow it down. This thought that was moving at such a vibration, such a frequency it could not be perceived. I can slow it down now through my actions and bring it into physical reality. So my point of this is this because some of us, we have these big dreams and we have these big goals, but there's just not enough accountability in there for us to take action.
Speaker 1:To take action, you taking action is the last part. It's the last part of manifestation. It's the last part of you creating this into your physical reality. So please know that if you're going to create your life, you're going to have to do something. It goes be do have. A lot of us like to just be in the spiritual world and the self-development world. Well, I'll just sit back and, yeah, I'll just.
Speaker 1:And then we look at our physical life and it's like well, how come my physical life doesn't correspond to what I got going on on the inside? How come all these imaginations and all these things I can create in my life and I know I can do it how come my physical life doesn't look like it? It's because you're not taking action, and the only thing that would create or stop you from taking action is those LBs, those limiting beliefs. So if I'm not taking action or my actions are not in alignment with what it was I was looking to manifest and create in my life, it's because there's a subconscious block, there's a limiting belief below the surface, and that's what I got to deal with. And when you start to deal with it, you will start to act like it. And when you start to act like it, you better bet your bottom dollar. It must show itself in this physical reality. So these are the cold hard truths that sometimes we forget or we didn't get taught and we don't know.
Speaker 1:And I just wanted to tell you and help you along your journey, to let you know that the real word is accountability. That's the super, super power. You becoming supremely accountable of your life, become supremely accountable of your existence, and I'm here to tell you this when you know nobody's going to come save you and nobody can do it for you, you're stepping all the way into your power. You put that cape around your neck and now you can start flying, because now you're not sitting here waiting and being the victim. You went in the kitchen and started cooking yourself, and this is what you were always created to be A co-creator, not someone who sits back and waits for something or someone else to create. You are a co-creator. Step into the cockpit of your life, start flying that mother plane, and I will see you up in the skies. I'll see you at the top and, as always, I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results. Thank you.