The Pathway To Your Results
This podcast has been helping individuals remember what they truly were capable of before they forgot. Host Derick "DG" Grant dives deep into spirituality, metaphyics, and other topics to help listeners regain power of their minds. Remember, Life is Mental.
The Pathway To Your Results
You Should Be So Proud Of Yourself
Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to your Results Podcast. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to Results podcast, presented by DG Mindset. It is your boy, dg. We are here. I tell you what man.
Speaker 1:It's been just a crazy, crazy, crazy, crazy new year right 2025 has been. If it's been crazy for you, go ahead and, I don't know, put your hand up, do something. Not if you're driving, though, but it's just been so interesting to see how life has no choice but to bring alignment into your life, and I think it's now where, at least, I can only speak for my existence, becoming more aware of the misalignment. We've talked about this over the last couple of weeks, but I just realized something deep in my life that I didn't realize. I'm going to say this, and we're going to go to church. We're going to go to church early today. Part of this, I want to encourage you. Part of this, I want to encourage you. Part of this, I want to inform you. Part of this, I want to help you to heal, because maybe there's a part of you that doesn't understand or didn't know this, but I've told you the story of my journey here, how I had the spiritual awakening, why it came forth we call it a sacred wound and where it came from. And I told you about the hardship, the struggle that I went through in 2018, 2019, and how hard it was for me emotionally, mentally, spiritually I guess you can say even physically and the residual effects are still being felt, right? So I started to develop this construct. I started to develop this story in my head and I'm going to break this down for you.
Speaker 1:But basically, we lived in Florida for a year and I had a business partner who swindled everything, took everything. I was a victim of fraud. Before you know it. I was confidential informant for the FBI. We've talked about this before, but I basically, when we moved back for the first time, I didn't know what our living arrangements were going to be. I didn't know where we're going to live. We didn't have any money. We didn't. Our credit was ruined because of this situation. We had like I didn't know and I never will forget.
Speaker 1:I packed up the house in Florida in a U-Haul and I drove back and I didn't know where we were. I told my wife to give me the address. I didn't even care where we lived, I just pulled up on the street right, pulled on the streets of the house, and I was grateful that I had a place to live, obviously, and my goal was like, all right, we're going to be out here in a year. Well, I didn't realize how far down in the dumps, how deep we were and we couldn't move out in a year. We ended up living in this house for six years and then I started to develop this story in my head that I won't fully quote, unquote beat this until I move out. I kept telling myself this, kept telling myself so then what ends up happening now?
Speaker 1:The ego starts to create this guilt around if you don't move out, because the reason why you're in this situation is because it's your fault to begin with. It was your business partner, it was your lack of transaction, it was you not asking enough questions, it was you, it was you, it was you. So this is what happens sometimes when we're accountable for our own lives. But if we're not careful, we will start to move into the energy of bashing and beating up ourselves right? So the challenging part was and if I'm being raw and I'm being candid was I had to grow. I realized I had to grow and evolve. But sometimes growing and evolving is tougher when your environment says the other thing. You hear what I'm saying, challenging for you to grow when your environment says the other thing. So you're saying I want to be this, this and this. But then when you look at your environment, you look at your surroundings, you look at the people around you, you look at the house that you live in. It may say the complete opposite, but the way my mind works is I'm bullheaded. I got willpower muscles with veins popping out. We're going to figure out a way to do this. I'm going to figure out a way. So I started growing the business, growing the business, growing me, growing me, growing the business, growing the business, growing me. It's like okay.
Speaker 1:Last year I was like look, it's time to move, it's time to leave, it's time to get out. So we go and find a house. Didn't really like the house. But now I can tell you I was coming from a place of desperation. I was coming from a place of fear. I was coming from a place of guilt because in my mind I had to get this and make this to work, so it wouldn't be my fault anymore. I could let the burden go.
Speaker 1:Things ended up happening. It didn't work. Your business had to be around for a certain amount of years and my business didn't meet that. So they were like no, we can't do this. And I felt this thing we had already told my kids. It was like when you play basketball, you play a sport. When you roll your ankle, you basketball, you play a sport. When you roll your ankle, you sprain it, and then you sprain it again like two weeks later. It was the tender touching of a wound and it was like, oh, my goodness. But anyway, I made a commitment to myself that I was going to make changes. I was going to do things in 2025 to ensure that this happened.
Speaker 1:So, anyway, it's time for us to move and so not time for us to move. I start thinking about some things and make a long story short, end up finding a place, finding a house. We're going to move, buying a new house. My daughter says to me dad, how come you're not excited? How come you're not excited? This is coming from a 10-year-old. This is coming from a 10-year-old. Good God, almighty. If y'all stay with me, I promise we going to go where we need to go. The 10-year-old was asking me how come you're not excited? But really that was the 10-year-old inside of me saying how come you're not excited? And I woke up the next morning and everybody was like are you celebrating? Did you guys celebrate? I'm like no, I didn't celebrate nothing, I didn't do anything.
Speaker 1:And I started to realize inside of myself this wound that was coming up, because I woke up the next morning I felt confused. I felt confused because I said why am I not excited? This is a milestone. You know how hard you've worked, how far did you come just to get to this point? And now you're here. You can't even celebrate, you can't even be happy for yourself. How many times has this happened? We say if I can just get there, if I can just get there, if I can just get there. But you're here, you're here right now. You keep saying if I can get there. So now I'm realizing in my own mind I said, wait a minute, hold on Something's here and I wake up the happy. I can't celebrate right now. I can't be excited why? So you know me, I had to sit down with myself and I had to figure out really what we used to say, what was going on. I had to figure out what was this, why was this, who is this? And I realized that I had a wound inside of me. Now this is where the roads may become parallel here in your life.
Speaker 1:If you grew up how I grew up, if you grew up I'm an 80s baby, 82 to be exact. See, I was raised from a generation that told us, especially if you come from the culture that I, don't be arrogant, Don't believe in yourself, don't see yourself as more than you are, because the generation that was raising me you didn't want to stand out, you didn't want to be the one who was at the front of the pack, because if you were the one in the front of the pack, you were the one who got all the attention. If you got all the attention, not necessarily was that attention always good. So I thought back to when I was seven years old, and I was seven years old and I remember I told you this story many times. I was at the end of the driveway, my neighbor was taking out his trash. I was taking out the trash and the neighbor looked at me and I had my soccer jersey on. I said hey, it went great. I'm the best player on the team. I scored three goals. And my father looked at me with his face. He said what are you talking about? We got back in the house. Son, did you ever say you're the best? Now, at that age of seven years old, how do I process this? Don't believe in yourself. I was naive, I was young, I was like 20. I'm seven years old yeah, like I'm the best. What are you talking about? I scored three goals in a game and he said don't you ever say that?
Speaker 1:Now, fast forward 20 something years, 30 something years later I was having a conversation with my father and he said he goes, how's your son doing? How's Hudson doing? Basketball? So he's doing good. He said now, don't you let him get too big of a head. Get too big of a head. And it triggered me and I had to tell him. I say, dad, dad, how in the world is my son ever going to reach his potential? How in the world is your grandson ever going to reach his potential If, if he doesn't see himself as capable of worthy of it?
Speaker 1:We've talked about this having second fiddle syndrome. You got to put the battery in this kid's back nowadays. You got to make a kid really think. Because here's the deal A kid comes into life thinking it can already do everything and anything and in the world it dumb you down saying, nah, don't do that. Don't do that, bro. Nah, don't do that. Ain't nobody from where you're from ever done that. Don't think you can do that. No, no, no, don't do that. You're going to have to have this, you're going to have to have this, you have to do it. And people who look like you can't do that, so don't you even think it's possible. And I realized all it was was his wounds being projected. So I had to tell him like no, I put the battery in my son's back.
Speaker 1:I, because this is the only way we're ever going to achieve what we're truly capable of. You ain't going to be a five-star athlete at being a three-star athlete, thinking that you're a three-star athlete. You're going to have to think that you are a five-star athlete. When you're a three-star athlete, you're going to have to give yourself permission to see yourself as something more than what you are right now. Good God, almighty, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying. Right now, you don't have to see yourself as something more than what you are in this moment, to ever give yourself the possibility of getting there.
Speaker 1:So here's what I realized when I told you I couldn't celebrate myself, this wound that I had, that the one time when I did celebrate myself, I celebrated myself from the raw innocence of a child. I said, yes, I am the best. I am the best on the team. I am the best. That was just my perspective. See, this is what society has told you to think. Don't you ever think that you're the best, because they'll say that you're arrogant. You say that you're cocky. No, that is not what being arrogant or cocky is. If I say that I'm the best, I also must realize that that doesn't make me any better than you, because I am running my own race. I am living my own subjective experience that I'm calling life. So my perspective of me should have no bearing on you if you're doing your work on yourself.
Speaker 1:You ain't trying to hear what I'm saying, but here's what we do. Somebody will believe in themselves, and this will inflict the insecurity on someone else who's observing them, and then they will put them down by telling them that they're cocky, that they're arrogant for seeing themselves as something more than that they are. And then guess what we do? We take their perspective, we put it on ourself and we cage ourself in. And now, here, before we know it, we ain't really being what we capable of being.
Speaker 1:So I realized I couldn't celebrate myself because of this wound. Here I am with this opportunity to celebrate myself and I couldn't do it. Here I am with this opportunity to say, wow, look at what you've done. And I couldn't do it why? Why? Because of this wound? Because of this seven-year-old inside who still had this tender spot of when he celebrated himself, when he believed in himself, when he saw himself as something more than what he was. In that moment there was a consequence meaning he didn't get the approval of his caretaker, he didn't get the approval of his hero at that time, he didn't get the validation that maybe he unconsciously was seeking. Oh my God, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying. And here's what it did. It created a wound inside of myself and my wife. I never will forget when she told me.
Speaker 1:She said how come you don't ever celebrate your accomplishments? And I just swept it under the rug. I said for what we got to get to the next thing. I did that already. I already became that version. I got to move to the next thing. But I really reflected.
Speaker 1:The other day when I sat I said why don't you celebrate yourself? Why don't you ever say, wow, good job D. How come you don't do that? Why? Now ask yourself that question how come I'm not celebrating myself? How come I'm not championing myself? How come I'm not my biggest cheerleader? Why? Why, I know the root of mine. I know the root of my reason. So here's the real work.
Speaker 1:I got to start celebrating me and I started to look back on how many times, how many opportunities I had to celebrate myself and I didn't. I started to look back at even the small things and I said, wow, that was a big deal in your life. Maybe it wasn't a big deal in the world, but it was a big deal in your life. And you wasn't a big deal in the world, but it was a big deal in your life. And you didn't celebrate it. You didn't celebrate yourself, you didn't give thanks, you weren't gratitude for you not giving up. Good God, almighty. Somebody here. Somebody here, y'all about to make me go. Somebody here who's listening.
Speaker 1:I don't know where you are. We get 40-something thousand downloads a month. You are somewhere in this world that something has happened in your life and you wondered how you were going to make it and you didn't know when you were going to be able to get out of that storm. You didn't know if you was ever going to make it, but you did. And now here you are in space and time, and you may not be where you wanted to be, but you're where you are right now and it's a lot heck of a lot better than where you were.
Speaker 1:And you haven't celebrated that. You haven't. You haven't taken time to say wow, look at what we've done, look at how far we've come. Man, I remember when we didn't have two nickels to rub together. Now look at us. We may not be in the point where we're financially free, but at least we ain't got to worry about what we're going to eat today. At least we ain't got to put that rent or that mortgage on a credit card. At least we ain't got to worry about asking somebody for help. I may not be where I want to be, but I'm not where I was.
Speaker 1:I've talked about this before many times. Sometimes you got to reflect, so you can be grateful. You can be thankful. You can celebrate yourself. Look at where you are today. Look at where you are. That in and of itself is a celebration, do you not know? If you woke up this morning, that is a reason for you to celebrate. It seems little because you do it every day. Some of us don't, some of us didn't wake up today, some of us didn't live to see today, but you did. That in and of itself is enough. We can start right there and work our way up. You ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying to you right now If you don't have anything to celebrate, good God almighty, celebrate the fact that you even have the awareness that you even have the existence right now to be able to hear this, so that this will touch your soul. That means you are living. That means you are in this human experience. That means the game has not been turned off. From this side, you still have the opportunity to celebrate yourself. So I'm telling you right now we gave up our permission slips many years ago. Society has done a wonderful job of keeping us trapped. I'm here to tell you I'm here to crush the paradigm. I don't give up. I'm here to crush the paradigm.
Speaker 1:It is okay to be proud of yourself. I know religion, I know all these other things going to tell you no, pride is one of the seven. It's okay for you to be proud of yourself. It's okay to be proud of where you are. It's okay to be proud of your accomplishments. It's okay for you to be proud of you. Know what? I fell and I skinned the hell out of my knee to the white meat, but I got back up. It's okay for you to be proud of yourself. That should have no bearing on anyone else's life, and do not be responsible for someone else's life. Do not be responsible for someone else's perspective of you. So be proud of yourself, be proud of your life, be proud of where you are. Be proud of where you aren't. Be proud that you went through some stuff. You went through some stuff that could have turned your heart into rock, into just a cold piece of coal, but you used that trauma, you used that rejection, you used that abuse, you use that neglect, you use that abandonment to soften your heart, to be kinder, to be more peaceful, to go on a hunt to find yourself. That, in of itself, you should be proud of yourself. You didn't give up, you didn't stop. You didn't turn and wave the white flag and say I'm telling you right now. I got tears about to come out right now because I sat and I reflect.
Speaker 1:I went through my old journal. I found stuff that I was writing. I was writing to myself. I was writing to myself don't give up, don't stop, don't you stop, don't stop. I used to write things from a biblical, from a Christian perspective, saying God's going to deliver you, god's going to deliver you, you're going to make it, you're going to make it. I used to give myself this encouragement. Give myself this encouragement. I'm telling you right now. I'm telling you right now. I swear to you on everything. I didn't know how I was going to make it. I didn't know how I was going to make it. I didn't know how, but I just knew deep down inside I was going to.
Speaker 1:And now look where we are. And we ain't even there yet. We ain't even there yet. You hear what I'm saying. We're not even there. You're not even there yet. But look where you are, look where you are right now. You ain't even there. This is what I'm telling you. You got to make sure that you write everything down, because you're going to forget. You're going to forget where you are. You're going to forget where you were and you're going to look at where you are today and say, dang, I have so far to go. No, look where you were at. This is why you should be proud of yourself. This is why you should encourage yourself. This is why you should celebrate yourself. Celebrate your journey, celebrate it. Celebrate everything that you've been through. I'm so grateful for everything that I've been through because if I hadn't gone through it, I wouldn't be here with you right now. I wouldn't be here sharing space and time with you.
Speaker 1:I had the opportunity. Yesterday I was in New York City for a day. My flight left at six in the morning, I got home at 7.45 at night, quick day trip. What I was doing? I was pretending I was 10 years and I had my plane. I could go wherever I needed to, wherever I wanted to. But I went. And I went to meet with a client. But I had time and I did something I'd never done before. I put in my community, the DG Mindset community. If you haven't joined, you might want to join.
Speaker 1:I had the opportunity to meet with some community members. I told them look, I'm going to be in New York City for a day. I said if you guys are up for lunch, I'll meet you guys for lunch and we had six people come. One guy drove like three hours away. Shout out Robert Rivera, I appreciate your heart. You didn't have to do that but you did. I'm eternally grateful. But I got to sit with these people, this community Some of them I've met before, some of them I've never met, and every week I have my power hours where I'm teaching and I'm coaching within the community and I know some of them through that. And I had the opportunity to sit and eat lunch with them. And I'm going to tell you this I didn't tell you all when I was there when I was there because everybody was kind of talking and I didn't want to be the emotional one but the gratitude that I had in my heart for these souls that were here, the gratitude for all these souls when I sat there with them.
Speaker 1:I don't know what this word that we call family is, but I've learned that family extends past your bloodline. Family extends past your household. See, family wasn't just something that you experienced through. You all had the same last name or you had the same grandparents Family was happening on a spiritual, on a soul level and I got to experience some more family. It's like I met cousins at a family reunion that I had never met before and I got to sit there with them and I said I'm so grateful, I'm so grateful, I'm so grateful, I'm so grateful Because if I could go back six years ago, if I could go back six years ago, if I could go back six years ago, I would have told this person of me who was wondering is life even worth living anymore?
Speaker 1:I would have told him son, just hold on, bro, just hold on. You got family out there who's waiting for you. You got family with their arms open right now. You got family who's going to give you the encouragement. They're going to give you the love and it's going to be reciprocated. It's going to be. You're going to give them the same thing. Just hold on and just keep moving forward.
Speaker 1:The reason why I'm saying this to you right now? Because the same goes for you and your life. Of what you got going on, it don't matter what it is, it doesn't matter what you, what it is your family, your soul family. You could meet them on a retreat. You can meet them in a community, at a new job one day. They waiting for you, they waiting for you.
Speaker 1:But in between now and then, your job is to celebrate this journey and where you are and what you've gone through and how you didn't give up and how you kept going. And then here's the deal when you reflect and see what you've been through and what you've gone through and where you are now, somehow that gives you strength. Somehow you got just a little bit more energy and a little bit more power, because you look back and you say, well, damn, if I made it through that, I know, surely I can get through this day. And then the days start to stack on themselves and when the motherfuckers start to stack, you start to gain this thing that we call momentum. And momentum is nothing more than the power and the energy that is generated in the moment. The moment is what we call now, and you now stop focusing on how far you have to go and you start giving gratitude for where you are right now. And this becomes the game. Now, and when this becomes the game, I'm here to tell you it ain't nothing but a party, it ain't nothing but a celebration. You will have everything to celebrate.
Speaker 1:I woke up this morning. Every day, sleep is nothing more than a mini death. When you go to sleep, that's like a death. And then you wake up, that's like a birth, and then you live your life and then you'll die again at the end of the day and you go to sleep, and this is every single day. And how often my wife had an aunt on her side of the family that just passed away and they had a funeral and I said why don't we ever and everybody goes to celebrate this person who died, but we never celebrate the births and the deaths that we have every single day. We have a birth and we have a death every single day. Look at the cycle of life. You're born, you live, you die and it starts all over again. This is the microcosm. The same thing's happening every single day. If it's happening on a macro level, it's got to happen on a micro level. So your life is nothing more than a miniature. Each day is a miniature life. It is a miniature. It's literally the same framework, the same process as a whole life.
Speaker 1:And I started to realize we get so overwhelmed and inundated with information and we're constantly distracted. Everybody's always telling us how far you have to go and you're supposed to be here, and it's supposed to look like this that we never, ever, celebrate our life, the miniature life. We never celebrate the miniature day, the miniature day, the miniature life. We never celebrate the miniature day, the miniature day, the miniature life. If you don't have nothing to celebrate, celebrate today, celebrate today. I know I know what you're thinking. Yeah, but these fears, I'm worried about this. I'm worried about that and I'm worried about this. I know that ain't going anywhere, but that still didn't mean that you couldn't celebrate. That still didn't mean that you couldn't be proud of who you are and where you are at this moment. And you know, I know you may not be where you want to be, but you are where you are and where you are is exactly where you're supposed to be. But you won't know that until you get further down the road.
Speaker 1:I can look back right now and tell you that everything that happened six years ago in me and my existence was divinely orchestrated and it was supposed to happen. There was no way that it wasn't going to happen. It was supposed to be exactly the way that it was and for now, I am grateful for that I am so unbelievably thankful for that. I was not at the time because I did not have the perspective, I did not have the information that was supposed to be encoded for me to learn. I didn't have that at that time. But now I'm grateful because I wouldn't have been able to share time with those community members in person. If it had not been for that, I would not have started this podcast. If it had not been for that, I would not have started this podcast. If it had not been for that, I would not be at this level of awareness to realize that I wasn't celebrating myself because of a wound if it had not been for that.
Speaker 1:And now I realize how my children, my wonderful children, are teaching me how to celebrate myself, my wife how she's teaching me how to celebrate myself. They're helping me to heal a wound that I was unaware of. I had no idea, and it's foreign to me, it's new. We always get told, especially as athletes you got to grind to the next thing, you got to get there. Why don't we just take time to be proud of where we are right now? And that feels really foreign. It feels really scary, if I'm being honest, but I've faced fears before. I've done what's hard before.
Speaker 1:So make the commitment to yourself that you're going to celebrate yourself here in 2025. No matter how big, no matter how small, whether or not people want to celebrate with you or not, that really didn't matter. This was a subjective experience that you were calling life. Celebrate yourself. It could be through your sobriety, it could be your marriage, it could be your health. It's not hard to find a reason for you to celebrate yourself. You just got to look for it.
Speaker 1:I'll keep doing all I can. I'll keep doing all I can. I'm going to celebrate you for you. I may not see you, but I see you. I may not know you, but I see you still. Keep going, please. The world needs you, and just because you don't see how the world needs you Doesn't mean that the world didn't need you. The world needs your light.
Speaker 1:Keep going, don't stop, and give yourself permission, here in 2025, to celebrate yourself, to be proud of your accomplishments, to be proud of where you are, to be proud of everything that you've endured, to be proud of everything that you have ever encountered, the good and the bad. Be proud of everything that you've endured. To be proud of everything that you have ever encountered the good and the bad. Be proud of that too, because, as I learned in my fourth actually maybe it was my second ayahuasca ceremony Mother Aya came to me and she said this is your life. Do with it as you may, it's yours. If you want to celebrate it, celebrate it. If you want to enjoy it this way, then enjoy it that way. It's your life. Do with it as you may. And, as always, I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.