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The Pathway To Your Results
Learning To Let Go
Through personal stories, I reveal how our need for control can trap us in cycles of self-sabotage and limiting beliefs. By letting go and trusting life's natural flow, we open ourselves up to endless possibilities. By sharing my insights, I hope to empower you to discover your true self and make a meaningful difference in the world.
Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to your Results Podcast. Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Pathway to your Results podcast, presented by DG Mindset. It is your boy, dg. We are here. We're here Grateful and thankful that we get to share space and time again, yet another week. If you're listening to this, there's a moment of reflection and gratitude that we can reflect on for the fact that we have breath in our lungs and awareness, and we're fully aware in this existence that we're having, that we're able to listen to this podcast. But I wanted to touch on this topic and I wanted to talk about this because this is something that I just realized in the last 24 hours, because I hear a lot of people telling me but it shows up differently in people's lives. Y'all stay with me. It shows up differently in people's lives and this little thing that we call control, control. Sometimes we say, oh, he's a control freak or she's a control freak, and I'm like, yeah, I'm not a control freak, I'm not by any means I'm a control freak. But then you start to realize what control how it shows up in your life, really, what it looks like, and it doesn't look like the way that most people think it looks like. We think control means I got to have my hands in every situation and I got no, no, no, no, no, no. That isn't how control necessarily shows up to the conscious aware. So I started to kind of go through this state in my life and it had been happening subtly, very subtly, where I didn't realize that I was getting attached, I didn't realize that there were things that were coming up that maybe weren't desired, and I ever so subtly because this is how it works with the ego ever so, suddenly I'm trying to control the next situation, and then you try to control the next situation, and then, a little bit, you try to control the next relationship. Now, before you know it, three, four, five, six, seven months down, you're over here trying to control any and everything. So I started to realize that every time that we seek to control something, every time you feel like you're out of control, every time that you struggle with trusting life and trusting in the direction that you're going, it's because your butt is living in fear. You're afraid of something. It could be change. It could be being uncomfortable, don't know, it's different in everybody's life, but we start to basically try to grab the river of life and hold on, because we're living in fear.
Speaker 1:Up in my life, because I pay attention to every little thing, right, you think I'm just sitting there eating. I'm paying attention to what the chip feels like, I'm paying attention to all the spices. This is just the way my mind has always been. I want to pay attention to the smallest detail. So I started to realize really what it looks like and you feel like you ever had that feeling where you feel like something's off. You feel like you're just not aligned. You feel like you can't really put words to it, but you know what you're feeling.
Speaker 1:I started to realize that this was happening over the course of weeks more often than not, and I started to realize that it would be like Monday, tuesday, I felt this way, then Wednesday I'd be good, and then Thursday, friday, I'd be good, but then Saturday it happened again. I started to realize what was happening was it was on a subconscious level that I didn't feel like I had control. So because I didn't feel like I had control, fears would come up. And because fears would come up, limiting beliefs would come up. Y'all stay with me here, because we've got to get going. Limiting beliefs would come up. And because limiting beliefs would come up, I would self-sabotage. And because I would self-sabotage, now I wouldn't accomplish or do something or take that action. And because I didn't take action, here's what ended up happening.
Speaker 1:You don't take action, and then you look at somebody else doing what you think you can do and doing what you know you can do, and then you're looking at, like man, what the? And then you self-sabotage even more. And now, before you know it, you're in this perpetual loop. You're in this cycle, these limiting beliefs, the self-doubt, the self-sabotage, right, the self-sabotage, and it becomes a new neural pathway. All because you were afraid of something, all because you were afraid that maybe something wasn't going to be the way you thought it was.
Speaker 1:So this is what I did. I sat down and said okay, what's going on? We're attached to something, you're attached to something, and it's the fear of not having that thing, it's the fear of not doing that thing, it's the fear of not being that thing. Hmm, what are we afraid of here? What are we afraid of? And here's what it. Is you ready Now. This is going to be triggering for some people. This is going to be triggering for some people.
Speaker 1:So, if you got headphones or you got to go and take them off here because this might trigger you, some of us, our biggest fear, the biggest thing that we're afraid of, is letting go, letting go of control, letting go of control, of control, letting go of control. And here's what control looks like. Control could be you controlling or using the same story that you've been using for the last umpteen years. Because, unconsciously, if you hold on to that story now, you can continue to live in an unaccountable state, you can continue to live as a victim, and if you live as a victim, you can continue to self-sabotage and blame everybody else. And that way, you'll never have to look yourself in the mirror and point the finger at yourself. Good God, almighty, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing I'm saying right now. I know, good and well, you're not trying to hear nothing what I'm saying right now. I know you're not Go ahead and get off. I know you're not.
Speaker 1:So I'm starting to realize that a lot of times, what ended up happening in my own life, it was the fear of letting go. What if I let go? What if I let go and let life go ahead and do what it needs to do? What if I did that? What if I let go? Ego's like nah, don't let go. Because if you let go, what the we going to hold on to? And you know we have to be held and holding on to something, you know we're going to have to be attached to something. You know we're going to have to sink these talents, these nails, into something. What are we going to hold on to? So now, the fear is there. What are we going to hold on to? And now, because we have that fear of what are we going to hold on to? And now, because we have that fear of what are we going to hold on to, we clench the grip just a little bit tighter, and a little bit tighter. Now, before we know it, we're strangling life. And then we can't understand why life won't give us any life. How come life won't give me any oxygen? Because you strangled the crap out of it right now. So, letting go, letting go of what? Letting go of your fears? Letting go of your fears?
Speaker 1:Somebody asked me what do you think about fear? I think fear is a bullshit. That's what I think about it. I think it's some crap. Is it needed? Absolutely, because it's showing me where I'm holding on to. But the reality of it is y'all stay with me.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you got to look at your life Goodness, gracious, y'all ain't trying to hear me. Sometimes you got to look at your life Good, that's gracious, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing. Sometimes you got to remind yourself and hear me when I say this. Sometimes you have to remind yourself because there's a part of you that exists outside of space and time. There's a part of you that transcends the mind. There's a part of you that already knows, on a cellular, spiritual level, that everything is always going to be okay, always. And this version of you, the real you, the infinite you, the I am the breath of God. That part of you it's what it uses to determine if it's okay Can't be defined by man. It can't be defined. So I know I'm always going to be okay, because that which I actually am can't even die. So if that, what I actually am, can't even die, well, am I worried about not having this or doing this or accomplishing that, or not getting this approval? Why in the world would I be? If I am, that's because I've fallen asleep. I'm living unconsciously through the ego. Do you see how this works? So for us, along this journey, for you, for me, for every human, really the question is can you fully let go? Can you fully let go? Do you know what this means? Do you know what this looks like in your own life? I have to remind myself you're going to always be okay. You're going to always be okay. Let's take a minute to reflect and look back at where you have been. You remember when you used to cry yourself to sleep, wonder how you're going to make ends meet. You remember that. Do not act brand new on me now. Act like you've forgotten. You remember when you were in that state it wasn't that long ago you were wondering whether or not you wanted to even live life anymore. You were wondering whether or not you were going to get out of this abusive relationship. You were wondering whether or not you were ever going to have a relationship with your children. You were wondering if you were ever going to be seen by your spouse, because for the last 17 years he never saw you. She never saw you. You were wondering all of these things. And now look at you Look at where you're at now, how quickly we forget. So I started to realize sometimes letting go involves you remembering when you held on so tight because you didn't think you were going to be able to stay on the roller coaster of life. And you made it back. You got through it. Those times when those dark times I'm talking about, when it was dark, dark, you made it through. You made it through. So you got to remind yourself that you were already equipped and you were built for anything that came your way, because nature, the universe, life, god can't bring anything to you that you were not already equipped for. Y'all ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying right now. There is nothing that can be brought to you that you were already not equipped with to withstand. Go, look at nature. Go, look at nature.
Speaker 1:We used to live out in the country and we had a horse that her name was Cherokee. Our neighbor had a horse named Cherokee and we used to say, like man, what does Cherokee want to do in the winter? In the Midwest it gets cold, but what is Cherokee going to do in the winter when it gets cold? Cherokee didn't have a stable. Cherokee didn't have a place to go. She had a little like a willow tree that she would go under. That was all Cherokee had to withstand herself from the elements.
Speaker 1:Lo and behold, probably about end of October, november rolls around Cherokee's fur started to get a little thicker. It was almost as if there was a part of Cherokee's cellular, their DNA, that knew, that knew winter was coming, that knew the environment was about to become just a little bit more adverse. Somehow this horse, who we would deem as less conscious than a human being, its body, was taken over saying hey, it's going to get cold here in a minute. You're going to need this winter coat, this summer coat that we have. That's all sheen and shiny. No, we need the big fluffy. We need the fluffy, the rough coat because it's about to get cold.
Speaker 1:So I sat and looked at it and I said well, how is it in the world that this horse and any other animal can prepare itself for winter because the elements of its environment or what it's going to have to withstand? But how is it psychologically, emotionally, mentally? For us as human beings, the same would not be true. It would have to, it would have to, it would have to. So anything that you got coming in your way because we got some stuff that's coming. We got some storms that are coming. Please believe we have some things that will be coming our way, but please know that you were already equipped. You were already equipped. You were already equipped with what was needed to withstand the storms of that winter. You were already equipped to get through that storm. You already got it.
Speaker 1:So that's why I ain't got to hold on to it. I don't have to hold on to it. I don't have to hold on to it. I'm not holding on to it. No, I'm not holding on. I got to let go. And if I'm holding on, it's because I fell asleep. And that's not bad that I fell asleep. That just means that there's some fears, because those fears are protecting a wound. Those fears are protecting a distorted perspective.
Speaker 1:So I had to do some inner work and I sat down. I just got quiet, I get quiet, I close my eyes and I said whatever I'm afraid of, we can let go of it now. Whatever I'm worried about, we can let go of it now. I'm going to always be okay. I'm going to always be okay. It will always work itself out for me. Will it work itself out in the way that I desire Not always, but I do know this. It's going to work itself out. It's going to work itself out. See, sometimes you got to look yourself in the mirror, sometimes you got to talk to yourself, sometimes you got to write this down. Sometimes you have to speak life into yourself before life starts to speak into you. And when you start speaking life into you and start speaking over yourself, you will start to see that life will start to do the same thing to you and for you. So my point of this was getting you to really fully let go. You've been okay. You always will be okay. You always will be okay, always have been. You will always be okay, even when you thought it wasn't okay. Even when you thought it wasn't okay, it still ended up being okay.
Speaker 1:How do I sound like one of the most southern baptist preachers? When I used to go back home, we used to go visit my grandma. She lived in Marion, south Carolina. If anybody knows where Marion South Carolina is, you know there ain't probably about five, six people that live there and the closest gas station restaurant anything was eight miles away. We used to get excited when my mom was like we're going to go to Pizza Hut and go get something to eat when we go visit my grandma. But we used to go to church, where we go to St Mary's, and we go to church, and the old pastor, old Baptist church, baptist priest, he say, now you know the story of David and Goliath. I said, man, who's Goliath? She started laughing. She said, oh, he's just saying Goliath. I said why he sound like that? Y'all got me on here sounding like a Southern Baptist preacher.
Speaker 1:Right now, you got to start speaking life over yourself is my point. You got to speak to yourself. You got to tell yourself I'm going to be OK, I don't care if you cry buckets of tears. In that moment you must speak life to yourself, because this is what's going to allow you to let go of the thing that is causing all of this turmoil. And then here's the other thing Are you ready? Are you ready? Are you ready? Are you ready? The longer you hold on, the longer you hold on, the longer you will delay the version of you that you were trying to get to. Anyway, y'all ain't trying to hear nothing.
Speaker 1:I'm saying you over here, trying to be the CEO, trying to be the executive, trying to be the entrepreneur, trying to be the MVP, trying to get to the professional athlete. You're trying to do all of these things but we, over here, holding on. We're trying to hit the million dollar mark, but we're sitting here holding on to the fear of what if I don't make it, you see? So now guess what? The longer that you hold on, the longer that you hold on, you're attached to the outcome and you sit here trying to squeeze the life out of life. All we're doing is delaying the process for us to continue to evolve. All you're doing is delaying the opportunity for you to become that beautiful monarch butterfly that could see the world and was not confined anymore to the ground like the caterpillar.
Speaker 1:So for you, along this journey, really letting go is first by identifying what your fear really was my fear of not having enough, my fear of not being enough, my fear of not doing enough. And then you do the complete opposite of that you release it and let go. Do you see how this works? This is a paradox. This is what the mind, the ego. It can't understand because it only knows how to strangle. So you telling me in order for me, this is what the ego said, in order for us to do this in order for us to become this, in order for us to accomplish this, you mean, I'm going to have to let go. I'm going to have to let go. How in the world am I going to let go? Everything that I've ever held on to has always gotten away. What the fuck? Everything that I've ever squeezed onto, I've actually pushed it away further from. Every time that I tried to hold on tighter, it got away more, oh, my goodness. So this is the way life works.
Speaker 1:When you let go, my mom used to say you got to let go and let God. When you let go and you let God, you let life, you let the universe, you let whatever you want to, when you let it do what it intends to do, because this is a partnership. It's a partnership. You have intentions, life has intentions. I never will forget, I never will forget, when I said how do I do this? I heard this voice say well, I need to get to know myself. Well, how, what? I need to get to know myself. So you're going to go through some hardship, and when you go through some hardship, I learn more about me through you, oh, my goodness. More about me through you, oh my goodness. So when you start to realize that you're going to grow and evolve so much quicker, so much more fluid, so much more seamless, and it's going to be in direct correlation to your ability to let go.
Speaker 1:But you cannot let go until you know what you was holding on to. Good God, almighty y'all ain't trying to hear nothing that your boy is saying. You're not going to let go until you figured out what you were actually holding on to. And this is why it's so hard for so many of us to let go. This is why, for so many of us, it's so hard for us to move out of this rut, because you never realize where and what points in life you were actually still holding on to. So you don't realize the reason why you can't get on that branch, the reason why you can't become that butterfly, is because you were still holding on to that part of your life when you was just a caterpillar. You were still holding on to that identity. You were still holding on to that wound. You were still holding on to that trauma. You were still holding on to that narrative. You were still holding on to that same janky story that you kept telling yourself that allowed you to live in a state of victimhood. So that way, if you ever applied yourself, you never had to worry about the fear of failure, because now you could actually blame it on somebody else and you never failed. It was what somebody else did to you.
Speaker 1:Good God, almighty, you need to go back and listen to that podcast that I did on accountability. Remember when we talked about this? This is what accountability does. I can't hold onto this narrative anymore. I can't keep using this as an excuse. I sat down and wrote this week I swear to you true story what excuses am I still using in life? What excuses am I still using in life? Because every time that I put an excuse there, that means I just missed my opportunity to be accountable. And if I miss my opportunity to be accountable, I just missed my chance to create my life. And if I missed my opportunity to be accountable, I just miss my chance to create my life. And if I missed my opportunity to create my life, I've just provided someone else an opportunity to control my life for me. And that's the next part of it. That's the other reason why we keep giving our energy to everyone and everything. We keep giving our energy away to everyone and everything because we didn't realize that the power was already inside of us, but the only way to see that we'd have to move out of the victim mindset.
Speaker 1:Y'all ain't trying to hear. I'm about to get off. Right now. We should go ahead and end it now. You're going to hear the music. You ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying right now this is all a part of you letting go and all the things that come from it. So I'm saying this because we've done the work. You've listened. We're on season four. We're about to go into season five. You've listened. I'm telling you right now season five will not be like season four, just like season four was not like season three. You've heard it. You can see that we're talking about different things in season four than we were in season three. I'm here to tell you that season five, we have done it. We have healed. We know the processes, we know the systems, we know the seven laws of healing the inner child. It is time now. It is time now to get over the story that we have been telling ourselves, so we can start to become victors instead of victims.
Speaker 1:Still, playing the victim was cool. It worked, it worked, but it ain't working anymore and the ego's like no, we need to hold on to this, don't let go. So it'll create fear, because if you let go now, you're gonna have to become somebody that you've never been. And here's what If we let go of who we've been, those around us, who we've been seeking their approval, they're going to look at us and say, oh my gosh, you've changed. You've changed. Who are you? Who do you think you are? You're different, you've changed. You look them in their eyes and say you damn right, I've changed you. Mickey Freaky, right, I have changed. And if you stay with me long enough, you're going to see some more change, because I'm no longer holding on to the narrative, I'm no longer holding on to the story, I'm no longer holding on to the frequency, the vibration of me being the victim. I'm no longer holding on to this frequency of fear.
Speaker 1:See, when you start understanding what frequency actually means, when you start understanding that frequency, wait, hold on now. Y'all don't understand what frequency says, what it means. Your frequency is determined by your energy, is determined by your emotions. So your frequency will be what you frequently see. So this is what we don't realize. We keep looking at life saying oh my gosh, life sucks, this is hard. Why is this happening? Why is this? I can't believe this is going on. That's because this is the frequency that you're in, because the frequency that you're in this will be what you frequently see. So, as long as I'm the victim, as long as I'm moving that energy, as long as I'm moving in lack, as long as I'm moving in scarcity, you know what's going to end up happening You're going to see is what you don't have and what you couldn't do and why it didn't happen. This is why I keep telling you accountability is everything. But we can't get to the level of accountability until we heal these parts of our mind.
Speaker 1:Go to Amazoncom right now. Go to Amazoncom right now and order the 7 Laws of Healing the Inner Child. Go, get it. Go get it. Go ahead and leave a review while you're there, before you even read it, because I guarantee you, after you read it you're going to be like golly, I had no idea that this was there. It is.
Speaker 1:I gave you the seven steps, I gave you the seven laws so you could move into the state of being accountable, so you could heal these parts of your mind, so you no longer had to live in this victim mindset. You could heal these parts of your mind so you no longer had to live in this victim mindset. This is how you let go. So, for anybody along their journey, anybody along their journey, anybody who's in this phase where it's like man, I feel so much fear, I feel so much anxiety. Let the go. Let go, know that you will always be okay. Know that it will always work itself out. No matter how dark you think it's going to get, it will never be completely pitch black. And if, for some reason, you feel as though it's pitch black, it's probably because you've closed your own eyes. It's not because light did not exist, it's not because there was not light. There is always light. Light will always exist. But sometimes we close our eyes because we're asleep. So I have to say this Sometimes you got to remind yourself that everything that you go through is relative.
Speaker 1:It's relative. It's not good, it's not bad, it's relative to where you are. And right now it seems so heavy and it seems so hard, but it's only relative to where you're at. In relation to it, 80 degrees seems hot when I'm sitting at 50 degrees, but that same 80 degrees is kind of cold when I get to 115. When the desert you know, when you've been in the desert I went to Dubai a couple of years ago. I've been out in Arizona. When you go to the desert it's hot during the day, but when it drops 30 degrees, boy, there's a little nip on that air. But we say, oh, it's 76. Yeah, 76 is warm back home in Indiana. It's all relative to wherever you are. So I have to say that if the temperature is relative to where you are, so is everything that you've ever experienced.
Speaker 1:So just because it's hard right now doesn't mean it will not be hard, sorry. It doesn't mean that it's going to still be hard once you gain the awareness, once you heal the wound, once you have moved past it. So let's wrap it up. Let's wrap it up. Let's wrap it up. Go ahead and tell yourself If you're driving, go ahead and pull over, look in the rear view mirror. If you're at home, go ahead and look in the mirror. Maybe you're out for a jog. Go ahead and put the video on.
Speaker 1:Look at yourself and tell yourself it's time for me to let go. It's time for me to let go of those old parts of myself, those old versions of myself that just don't serve me anymore. They did their job. They did it. They did it. They got me to this point, but for where we're going they can't come. This fear mind can't come. This lacking mindset can't come. This scarce mindset can't come. This victim state of consciousness that actually got passed down can't come. I'm going to be the one who breaks this generational trauma. I'm going to do it. It's time for me to let go and lay it to rest, so you all keep going.
Speaker 1:I've got unlimited amount of resources to help you, to help you keep going. Whether it's the podcast, whether it's my elite mindset group coaching, whether it's the DG Mindset community, whether it's the DG Mindset app, whether it's the seven laws of healing the inner child, you see how everything keeps expanding. You see how it keeps growing. You see I can go down the list. There's a lot of resources. There's a lot of things that I put. Whether it's a retreat, it does not matter what it is.
Speaker 1:I have put out multiple things to try and help you along your journey. Somebody asked me the other day and I'll let you go. They asked me what do you want your legacy to be? I said outside of my family. I said I hope when I'm gone, when I'm dead and gone, they will have said he did all he could to help humanity to figure out who they were. That's it, that's all I'm here for. So when I'm dead, when I'm dead and gone, they say, man, did you hear what happened? Dg's gone, yeah, and then you start finding the treasure trove of information that I had been leaving behind to try and help you along your journey, to help your kids, to help your kids kids to go back in space and time and create a ripple effect of all the stuff that you've been carrying. This was it. Take advantage of it, please. It Take advantage of it, please. And until next time, until next time, I wish you nothing but the best on the path to your results.