The Pathway To Your Results
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The Pathway To Your Results
Doing What's Hard In Life
What if tackling life's toughest challenges could be your greatest opportunity for growth? In this episode of "Pathway to Your Results," we explore how reframing our perspective on doing "hard" things can transform adversity into a springboard for personal development. Inspired by a personal journey with my son at his basketball practice, we delve into how directing our energy and focus can alter our relationship with difficulties, whether in business or personal life. By honing in on resilience and determination, we uncover the powerful shift that occurs when we choose to see obstacles as stepping stones rather than roadblocks.
Once you see what you actually are, that you're an infinite, limitless being, you'll see that nothing exists outside of you. I'm your host, derek Grant, and this is the Pathway to your Results. Podcast Bro recorded an episode that was supposed to come out today but for whatever reason, it did not get recorded, and this is what it is. So this is the episode that we stumbled upon, but I was looking forward to doing this. You know, I'm learning. A lot of people struggle with doing things that are quote unquote hard. Right, we struggle with doing the hard stuff. You know, doing what's difficult, doing what's challenging, and I want to talk to you, I want to speak life into you real quick. I want to get you to understand that this is just a part of the journey, and maybe if we reshift or reframe the way we look at doing hard things, we'll have a better relationship with it. Right To me, I don't look at anything as hard. I just say it's going to require more energy and it's going to require more focus. I'm going to have to be more intentional with my energy now along this journey, with whatever it is. So if I say something is hard, whether it's building a business, whether it's having a successful marriage, whatever it is. It's just going to require a little bit more intentionality, a little bit more focus. I'm going to have to be aware of where I'm putting my energy. So now I don't view it as hard. It's actually just me making sure that I put my mind where I need to put it in order for me to achieve this. So I'm going to give you a real life example, because you all love when I do this right. I love sharing the journey. I've told you this before. I love sharing the journey with my son right now and where he's at, because I can remember when I was 12 years old and I remember where I was and what, how I would think, and you know friends and you know all that stuff. So I enjoy seeing where he's at in relation to where I was at that age. So you know, we went and worked out and we went and worked out and we were going to the park, right, and we're going to the park and he knows when we get started, he's got to go through his stuff, right. He's got to go through something that we call Mike and drill make 20 left hand, 20 right hand, right. And he realized what I told him is like, hey, during the summer you had to make 20. Now we're in sixth grade, you got to make 20 in a row. And he kind of looked at me he's like, okay, 20 in a row, cool. Well, he got started. He didn't make 20 in a row, he made nine, and then he missed one and he had to start over. And he looked at me he's like are you heard what I said? You knew it was going to be 20 in a row.
Speaker 1:It wasn't until there was conflict, it wasn't until there was adversity, it wasn't until there was resistance. That now he started to stop focusing on what he had to do and he wanted to question are you sure that I have to do this? So, anyway, he started to go through it. I could see it was a sunny day that day and I could see him kind of looking at the sun. And back during the summer he would do the same thing.
Speaker 1:And I told him during the summer I'm like, look, the sun ain't going anywhere. The sun's not going anywhere, but we got a job we need to do right, we got something that we're going to accomplish. We need to make sure we centralize our energy and focus on what we have to do, instead of giving energy to things that we really, quite frankly, don't have control over. I don't know if the sun's going well, we can't control the sun. So, anyway, we start going through this whole thing, right, and he keeps missing. And every time he missed, he'd always like, squint his eyes and act like it was the sun. So I told him, I said, hey, that sun ain't going anywhere. We've already gone through this one. That sun ain't going anywhere. Focus on what you got to do. Right now. You're giving just a little bit too much energy, a little bit too much attention to the sun, instead of focus on what you had to do. And he said, yeah, but it's hard. I said, of course it's hard. It's hard because of look at where you're putting your energy. So, me and him, he keeps trying. I can see him starting to get frustrated. And he kept using the sun as an excuse. And I told him, I said, hey, look, if you use the sun as excuse, you're going to have to run. You're going to have to run.
Speaker 1:And the running wasn't a consequence. The running was to get him to realize that when I keep giving my attention to things outside of myself, right. So he misses, blames on the sun, misses again, blames on the sun, misses again. I told him. I said, look, you got one more chance. Like, stop blaming on the son. Sure enough, he does it. I said, all right, we're on the line. We got to run.
Speaker 1:Before he ran, I told him hey, you will run however many times it takes you to run as hard as you can. When you run as hard as you can and you know you're running as hard as you can, you're done and we'll go right back and we'll try it again. He ran 14 times and here's why I have to tell you he ran 14 times. It took him 14 times and he still wouldn't run as hard as he could. He wouldn't do it. So I said all right, we're done, we're out of here. We got to go.
Speaker 1:So I get the ball and said all right, we're going, we're going back to the car, get in the car. We start driving home. So he's walking up to the car with me and I get in first and I take the ball and I put it in the trunk. I go, he goes to get in the car. I'm like well, I said you got to run home, you got to run home and we probably live like three quarters of a mile. It's one other way for him to get his conditioning the way I was looking at it Right. So he was like all right, whatever. So he goes in and starts running home. So he's running home, right, and I'm behind him in the car and I'm just following him and I told him. I said, hey, his little buddies, and he's running home.
Speaker 1:And then he gets home and my son is like he's like, he's tired, right, he thinks he's about to go in the house. I said, uh-uh, get back in the car. He's like what I said we're going back, we're going back to go finish the job. You haven't finished the job yet. You haven't finished what you set out to do. You had the intention you don't stop. You don't stop until it's done. We're not done here. So we go back to the park. I said, all right, get back at it. I said the sun's still here. You still got to get 20 mates in a row on mic and drill. You still got to do it. Right hand, left hand, right hand. Go, go ahead and get started. So he gets started. But before he gets started, I told him.
Speaker 1:I said life's going to be challenging. Sometimes you're going to feel like life is against you. You can't get right. It's going to feel like what am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to do it? Life's going to do that. You feel like the sun is working against you. The sun's not working against you, the sun is just trying to make you stronger, but you keep giving attention to the weakness. When you keep giving attention to the weakness, or you keep giving attention to the things that seem like they're working against you, you're not able to use them for what they were actually intended for.
Speaker 1:So I told him. I said here's what you do. You got to be aware of where you put your energy. You're focusing more of your energy on missing, which is around the sun, than you are on making the layups. So he looks at me. He says Dad, I don't know how to do that. I said fair enough. I said here's how you do it. You buckle down. Sometimes you got to grit those teeth. You know you know when you're really doing something. You got to grit those teeth. Right, when you focus, you bite that lip. You say I got to get it. Sometimes you're going to have to do this in life. And I told him. I said, look, there's going to be a lot of distractions, especially the age that you're growing up in. You say you want to get to this goal, you want to achieve this. There's going to be a lot of distractions, but sometimes you got to bite those teeth. You got to buckle down and be intentional with your energy.
Speaker 1:So we get back to the park and he starts going after it. Boom, boom, boom, miss. It Gets up to 16. Misses Remember, he's got to make 20 in a row. Starts going after misses, gets to 19, misses. I'm like, oh boy, he's going to be deflated, sure enough.
Speaker 1:I start to see his body language and I look at him and said what did we talk about? What happens when life gets hard? What do we do? He said I buckle down. I said okay then. So he buckles down, right, and I'm over here counting right, 15, 16.
Speaker 1:And I started to notice that every time that I counted out, it would start to create this pressure, meaning I'm over here counting on the outside, but it's really affecting him on the inside. So I said let me throw him a little bone, I'm not going to count anymore, I'm just going to let him lock in because, as I'm counting, he's actually focusing more on the outside than he is on the inside. So I stopped counting, I just let him keep going, and then I saw a switch. I saw a switch. I saw a switch in his mind go off. I saw him buckle down.
Speaker 1:I saw him start to get for a lack of better words. He looked like he was mad, but he wasn't actually mad. He was just locked in. He was just centralizing his focus. He was making sure that he was more intentional with his energy. He wasn't giving his attention anymore to the sun, meaning he wasn't giving attention to things that were outside of him. He wasn't worried about things that he didn't have control over. You see, this is what happens in life A lot of times. We give so much attention to people and places and things on the outside that this is why it's actually hard for us on the inside. If you were to take that energy and siphon it off from all those things on the outside and use that same energy for you on the inside, guess what would end up happening? You would start to see that you were capable. You were capable of overcoming that hard thing. You were capable of pushing through it because now you have enough energy to do so.
Speaker 1:So he hopped back up on that horse and he did it. Not only did he get 20, not only did he get 20, because all he had to do was get 20. Good God, almighty, y'all stay with me, because y'all ain't trying to hear nothing. I'm saying he did it, he only had to get 20, but I didn't count out loud, he just kept going and kept going and kept going and I said I will stop when he misses. And he finally missed.
Speaker 1:No-transcript. What is my point? I'm just using this 12-year-old right now as a metaphor for you and your life. And when he got done, he had this smile, he had this pride about him, he had this look and I looked at him. I said you see, you see, this is why I couldn't give up on you. This is why I didn't stop, because a lot of times, what's going to end up happening is because we're going to give up on ourselves. We'll stop, we'll quit on ourselves in a heartbeat. How many times you go through something? You'll be the first one to quit on yourself. But if it was for your kids, it was for your spouse, it was for somebody else, you wouldn't give up. You'd keep going. You'd take a bullet for somebody else, but as soon as it gets hard, you would give up yourself. When it came for you, no-transcript up. It was chores for me. My mom and dad were teaching me through chores, the metaphor of life. So I looked at him. I said you see now we didn't use the sun as an excuse, because the sun wasn't actually an excuse. You were capable. You were capable from the beginning, and here's what it did for him. Here's what it did for him.
Speaker 1:I don't care who you are, I don't care what you know, I don't care where you're from. If you're 12 years old and you see yourself accomplish something that you didn't think maybe at the beginning, you were capable of accomplishing it, you're going to look a little bit differently at yourself. You're going to feel a little bit differently about yourself. You're going to have a new sense of self-achievement and what you're capable of. You're going to say to yourself I can do anything. And sure enough, he looked at me and he said dad, I can do anything. I said, son, you ain't got to tell me twice. I already know you can. I already know you can. You just need to know that you can.
Speaker 1:So this is why we got to do what's hard sometimes. This is why we got to do what's hard. We got to do what's hard and it's not necessarily the difficulty of it. The reason why we got to do what's hard is because of the refinement of the growth, of the evolution, of the development that's going to take place through us doing that hard thing. When you do what's hard, you got to understand alchemically what's happening. You start the journey, you start the task, you start the project and then, through that time, you're going to have to become somebody that you've never been to be able to accomplish it. And when we do this, that thing will have served its purpose to get you to the next point, to the next part of life.
Speaker 1:So here's what I started doing in my own life. I started to create these things that we call daily standards. Daily standards right, non-negotiables, things that I got to do every day. Every day, I got to do these. I got to do them, and some days it's harder than others. Some days it requires more focus and more intentionality than others. So I started setting my alarm for 4.44 am. There's a class that I go work out at 5.30 am. I got to be there at 5.30,. We're ready to go.
Speaker 1:So I had two things. I had to get up at 4.44. That's tough, that's challenging, that's hard, and I got to get my body moving at 5.30 in the morning. Why I have to do that? Why, for what? Because it's hard. That's why you know what's easy Sleeping in wait till I get up and then going to go work out at 9.30.
Speaker 1:But here's what I do know If I can do what's hard consciously meaning, I don't run away from it, I walk right up to it and I step through it If I can do that, I'm going to create a new version of myself. And when I create a new version of myself, I'm going to have a new self-concept, I'm going to have a new level of self-awareness, I'm going to have a new level of self-acceptance. And now I'm going to use this next version to get me to the next level, to the next iteration, and this is how we start moving up, up, up, up, up to higher planes of awareness. So here's my point of this story, and I may have told you all this story before, but I'm using this as just another metaphor to get you all to understand that you're going to be met with things that's going to be hard, but they're not really hard. They just require a little bit more focus, a little bit more intentionality, a little bit more willpower. It doesn't matter what it is Could be a divorce you're going through, it could be you healing wounds. It doesn't matter what it is. It does not matter. The reason why it's here is so you can become a newer version of yourself, which is a positive, because the next version of yourself will always be at a higher frequency. So you know I'm here to help. However I can Maybe it's just a little bit of encouragement Know that whatever's hard, it ain't gonna hurt you. It may bend you, but it ain't gonna break you. All it's gonna do is Refine you. It's gonna make another version of you that's just as fine as the one before. Maybe the one that you had before. It don't serve the purpose anymore. So life's got to throw you a couple of hard things so we can get you to evolve. When you start looking at it from this perspective, when you start looking at it with this mindset, now you'll move into the energy of. Nothing can hurt you, nothing can harm you. Everything is for you. This universe, this life is literally doing all it can to see that you win.
Speaker 1:You look at the Bible. If you look at, what was that? James 1? I think James 1 too. It said consider pure joys, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kind, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. And let perseverance finish his work so that you may of your faith produces perseverance, and let perseverance finishes work so that you may be mature, complete and not lacking anything. Good, god Almighty, y'all stay with me when I break this down that you may have joy when you face tough times, because you know that when you face tough times, all it's going to do is strengthen your muscle of faith, your strength in your muscle of self-belief, meaning knowing that you can do it. You just have to have a little bit of perseverance. But through this hard trial it's going to strengthen your muscle of perseverance and then, once we get the muscle of perseverance to a certain level, now perseverance is going to finish the job for us, meaning it's going to extract and get everything out of it that we needed for the next iteration, for the next leveling up, for the next year. So then when everybody sees you, they're going to say golly, what did you do? How did you blow up? Where did the glow up came from? Oh, there was nothing.
Speaker 1:I just changed my mindset when things got hard. I just started to step towards it instead of step away from it. I started to tell myself that if I can keep pushing through this, it's going to produce and develop my muscle of perseverance. And, before you know it, I'm stepping into 2025 and I got veins popping out of my muscle of perseverance. I'm walking into 2025 with a little bit more swag, just a little bit, a little different energy, because I know that this muscle of perseverance is built, it's equipped, it's ready and now that's what's going to ensure that I don't lack anything.
Speaker 1:But you got to start the journey. You are the one who has to step forward, who has to step into it consciously. So this is why we do the hard stuff. This is why we do the hard stuff. I tell my son all the time, and my daughter. I tell them the same thing, because I do it my own life. I'm going to consciously put you in positions that are going to be challenging you. They're going to be challenging, they're going to be hard for you, and I'm going to tell you why I'm doing this. It's so you can start getting in the habit of when you see something challenging, you don't run from it. You buckle down and turn inward and say, ok, I'm centralizing my energy. Good God, almighty, I'm centralizing my energy, I'm doubling down on me, I'm going to focus and this thing on the outside, it's going to be the thing that I use to catapult me to the next level. So now you start learning this, at 12, nine years old, you're going to have a little different perspective around adversity. I got a different relationship with adversity. I got a little different relationship with hardship.
Speaker 1:I don't look at it probably the way most people do. I don't think that it's hard. I don't think that it's bad. I know that it's necessary. So whatever you're going through in life, it doesn't matter what it is. We're all going through something, all of us. If you're going through something, sometimes you got to remind yourself yeah, it's hard right now, but that just means I need to develop this muscle of perseverance. I needed to be a little bit more intentional. I needed to be a little bit more focused with my energy and stop giving my energy to things that are not putting me closer to what I'm trying to accomplish.
Speaker 1:I use that analogy with my son. His job, the goal, was to make 20 makes in a row, but every time that he gave energy to the sun, every time that he said it was hot, every time that he said it was in his eyes, he was taking that energy and splitting it and putting it in the complete opposite direction of where he wanted to go. We do this all the time in life. I asked somebody the other day. I said do you know what you want to do in life? Kind of. I said do you know what you don't want to do? They said yeah, yeah, yeah, I know what I don't want to do. I said okay, then look what you're doing. You're giving more energy to what you don't want to do than what you do want to do. Both of them are a choice. We both have that option. Ask yourself am I giving more energy to what's possible or am I giving more energy to what's not possible? And that's a choice that we make. But you got to make the choice. But you got to make the choice.
Speaker 1:You know, I'm realizing, along this journey of entrepreneurship, of self-development, personal development, whatever it is, I'm realizing how entrepreneurship really is. Just, I mean, it's the manifestation of personal development. And if you're an entrepreneur, if you want to be an entrepreneur, if you've been on your journey, you might as well be an entrepreneur. You might as well. Because I'm realizing that through entrepreneurship, through being an entrepreneur, it's forcing me to do hard stuff. Well, isn't that the same thing with this personal development journey that we're on? And then I started to realize the two go hand in hand. So this is what I'm doing, I'm creating.
Speaker 1:A lot of people always ask me when can I work with you one on one? Can I work with you one on one? I'm like, ah, my schedule is wild, I can't. But here's what I can do. I want to start something a group coaching, a group support system.
Speaker 1:If you're an entrepreneur, if you are a founder, this is going to be elite level mindset coaching, stuff that I do with my one-on-one clients. I'm just going to do this with a group. I'm going to do this with a group. I'm going to make it accessible, affordable for a group. I'm going to walk them through, because this is man I'm learning. I am learning Mindset, spirituality, entrepreneurship, personal development, self-development, healing they're all interconnected. They're all interconnected. So here's what I'm going to do. Okay, I'm going to make this accessible and I'm taking people on a year-long journey. I'm taking people on a year-long journey and it's going to be an investment. Please believe it's going to be an investment on your end, because I'm going to walk you through and every single week we're going to hop on a call and here's what's going to end up happening. You're going to end up building a community. You're going to have a support system, just like I did with the DG Mindset community.
Speaker 1:But this is going to be tailor-made for individuals who've been on this journey, who want to start businesses or have a business. And this is the other thing. People don't realize. When you're an entrepreneur and you're over here trying to start your own stuff, people don't realize how hard it is on you psychologically, because it literally is just you versus you, especially when you got to make your own prices and you got to do this, especially if you're on the founding, the ground level of everything. So this is why I'm developing the elite level mindset group coaching for founders, entrepreneurs, those self-starters.
Speaker 1:It doesn't matter what industry you're in either, and here's the thing about me. I'm going to keep it simple. I'm going to give you frameworks. I'm going to give you processes. I'm going to let you know oh, here's why you struggle with this in business. You'll see that it's actually linked to this part of you. You will see. And, more than anything, it's going to be coaching. So it isn't just me who's going to be doing all the talking. You're going to have access to ask me questions. You have access to my team resources. All of that. This is my way of, I think, helping along this journey. All I've been doing is learning and teaching myself and learning more about myself, and going out to the world and doing this, the next phase of it.
Speaker 1:Just because you woke doesn't mean you got to be broke. I'm going to go ahead and say that. Go ahead and say that. A lot of times in the self-development community, the spiritual community, we think, oh well, I'm working on myself. For some reason, they think that you ain't allowed to be financially free and financially prosperous. I'm done with that notion. I'm done. I'm finished with it.
Speaker 1:So, if you're ready, we're going to go ahead and get started in December. If you're ready, go ahead and click the link in your podcast. You'll get a hold of it and I'm going to tell you exactly what you can expect, right, every week. We're going to have a live group coaching call Every week. Right, I'm going to give you weekly, non-negotiable tasks so that way, you will stay accountable and move in the direction of where you want to go. We're going to have a small group mastermind. It's going to be a community of like-minded individuals. Right, you're going to have collaboration. You're going to have support. You're going to have inspiration. We're going to share our successes. You're going to have implementation and support meaning, get hands-on support from me, the strategy, the insight from my team.
Speaker 1:I'm going to give you exclusive access to my mindset creation systems, too. So I'm going to give you my systems that I use to cultivate a powerful, success-driven mindset of how to deal with adversity. I'm going to show you how to take this mindset and personal development and then transfer it to business and development. You guys are going to have so much information, so many. There's recorded courses there, pdfs, ebooks, all of that. It's all going to be in there.
Speaker 1:So this is the next iteration. I'm like you know, for 2025, I told my team. I'm like this is really what I want to do. I just want to coach these people who want to be entrepreneurs or who are entrepreneurs, and then I want to do retreats and that's really about it, and let's just go ahead and do this thing. They were like, all right, cool. So this is my formal invitation to you If you're looking to get started, go to the next level in business and in personal development.
Speaker 1:Think of it as just one-on-one coaching in a group setting. That's all it is. So you know, I'm here for you. Keep going, don't stop. Don't stop If it's hard, keep on going. If it's challenging, keep on going. If you feel like it's getting harder, keep on going, because through that, it's going to develop you in ways that you could have never imagined. And please know that I'm here. I'm here to support you, I'm here to help you and I'm here to watch you get to the top. As always, I wish you nothing but the best on the pathway to your results.